To buy DD a present between birthday and Christmas.

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DD is desperate for a Rainbow High doll. She’s 6. I think it’s a bit tied up with friendship issues because it’s become a thing on her friendship group and she feels left out when they play with them.

Her birthday isn’t until June.

We usually don’t buy ‘big’ presents outside of birthdays or Christmas.

We can afford it, I just worry about spoiling. What do other people do about toys outside of birthdays or Christmases.

YABU - Buy her the bloody doll.
YANBU - hold out till Christmas

Your really not grasping my life and upbringing like you said previously you was brought up with a family and money where not all blessed like this

I meant a friend, lover.

If you have ever experienced it, then it’s lovely.

If you have experienced it, then you’ll know it’s lovely and I guess that’s why I can’t understand why you wouldn’t want to replicate every now and then for your children

but you’re right. I don’t get it. So I will bow out

If you have Never experienced it, then it’s lovely.

I thought you said you where gonna bow out. Why you so obsessed with how I parent my children

Define ‘have money’ I always get myself a little something when I get paid, I don’t know any parents that spend nothing but the essentials on themselves. I don’t drink but a lot of people will get themselves a nice bottle of wine or something.

Who the fuck only buys their kids toys twice a year?

christ, get her the bloody doll

Also I earn around the same as you @Ionlydrinkondaysendinginy and I don’t receive any benefits apart from CB.

My wages go on mortgage and bills, my children's money goes on my children and my pip goes on the expenses of being disabled. Which means anything left over goes on my kids thats how I enjoy spending my money. I'd rather take them for a day out then spend the money on myself but everyone is different and it's none of my business how you choose to spend your money.

Buy the doll! Sorry, I pressed the wrong vote button.

I think the occasional purchase during the year of something DC really want is okay and won’t change their values/ make them spoiled.

We give our son £5 a week pocket money and we pay it straight into his bank to encourage him to save and coz moat things he wants are online anyway so if he wants anything over a fiver ish he buys it himself. He really considers what he spends and if he really wants it that much. He also loses money for bad behaviour or laziness etc. He has a few jobs to do and they're a condition of his pocket money.

I’m a big fan of kids getting stuff just because I think they’re awesome and I love them. Get her the doll 😍

YABU they are like £30? Think I’ve seen them in argos. Don’t make her wait ten months for it if she’s feeling left out and you can afford it.

This is your friendly reminder that I bought the doll

Buy the doll and don't buy something on the next NT visit. If you can afford it, the odd treat isn't going to ruin her. Treats are the absolute pleasure of parenthood and how you've got to 6 on birthdays, Christmas and miserable NT shops is baffling.

So, it's a choice between breaking an arbitrary rule you have imposed on yourself (no big toys outside Xmas and birthdays) or having the poor girl totally left out of things within her friendship group until June? I'm shocked there's any question about what to do here.
Speaking as one whose parents were very much like you and who got left out of stuff a lot as a result, believe me, you need to get her the doll. June is a lifetime away when you're 6.

It’s a one off - you are not “ spoiling “ her. Buy the doll .

I'm glad you bought the doll! I used to find a reason for extra treats, and I also used to share things like 'I got a bonus at work so we can all spend £30 on a present' - just to link the relationship between working hard and having nice things.

Life’s too short. Buy her the doll

Oh you bought the doll, sorry I missed that. I bet your daughter was thrilled 😁

“For being such a good girl” buy it! X

Gosh buy it! If it helps you could tie it in with her having done something good to “earn” it?

Or as an Easter gift?

Glad you bought it!

I would not buy the doll just because she wants it or because you can. I would fund a reason or allow her to buy it herself if she has money of her own.

I'm.a bit late here. Apologies. Hope she enjoys it.

😂

Have you given it to her yet?