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The stupid takeaway.

464 replies

Gworlie · 24/02/2023 20:30

My OH has been away for a week and came back today. He turned up this evening with a Chinese takeaway for himself. Didn't even say he was getting one or asked if I wanted one. I've worked all week and done all childcare, which is fine, but when I said "well that's a bit shitty, I'm knackered and hungry too" his response was "well cook something then". I'm raging but he's acting like I'm being crazy.

OP posts:
NazMedusa · 26/02/2023 20:51

Oh, hell to the no! Nuh uh. He'd be on the sofa until he put that right somehow (don't know how he could). At the very minimum, I'd be giving him a dose of his own medicine continuously.

Vinomummyinlockdown · 26/02/2023 20:53

Wow what a dickhead. “We’ll cook something then” would be my answer to that fucker for any future meal now.

Vinomummyinlockdown · 26/02/2023 20:53

*well not we’ll ffs

Boomerang03 · 26/02/2023 21:10

What a prick😡

AwfulBeryl · 26/02/2023 21:19

I would be fuming.
Yadnbu OP.
Hope you're sticking to your guns and giving him a taste of his own medicine.

LunaTheCat · 26/02/2023 21:29

FirstnameSuesecondnamePerb · 24/02/2023 20:41

Time for a new patio. No jury of women would convict you.

🤣🤣

Annemm · 26/02/2023 21:41

Hey, I feel for you but try not to overthink this too much. Men can be very, very, very basic in their actions and thinking, and they usually hurt without really meaning it. He was probably simply tired from his train ride and very hungry and he just ordered some food just for himself because that’s was easy and quick. He will probably feel a bit sorry and guilty about it tomorrow. Don’t reconsider your relationship just yet. You can give him some « constructive feedback » at some point this week so that this doesn’t repeat. I hope you have a good night.

1234S · 26/02/2023 22:40

Christ u all need to calm down. Read your responses back! Its a f take away -
LORD !!!

AdobeWanKenobi · 26/02/2023 22:44

1234S · 26/02/2023 22:40

Christ u all need to calm down. Read your responses back! Its a f take away -
LORD !!!

And Behold!
OPs husband arrives!

😂

1234S · 26/02/2023 22:46

😂😂😂

I'm reading these responses to my husband and he is wondering how u would all feel if the guy had got a dirty doner kebab 😂

LittleBearPad · 26/02/2023 22:48

1234S · 26/02/2023 22:46

😂😂😂

I'm reading these responses to my husband and he is wondering how u would all feel if the guy had got a dirty doner kebab 😂

Of course you are dear.

1234S · 26/02/2023 22:49

Ermmmmm okkkkk then ‘dear’

Mothership4two · 26/02/2023 22:53

1234S · 26/02/2023 22:40

Christ u all need to calm down. Read your responses back! Its a f take away -
LORD !!!

In the nicest possible way you need to actually RTWT as you've missed the point completely

beautifuldaytosavelives · 26/02/2023 23:19

It's the still packed suitcase for me, that overshadows the undeniably heinous offence with the takeaway. If you ordinarily do the family washing, fine, but to leave a packed suitcase is a disrespectful bridge too far. I'm presuming there are toiletries, shoes etc in there? It's two big marks against him for me, he seems to think you're staff.

Danielle8p · 26/02/2023 23:21

@Mothership4two my apologies I didn't see she hadn't long finished work. I thought perhaps if he knew he was home past their usual dinner time maybe he just thought he'd grab himself something. Now that I know that's not the case yeah I'd be livid.. How selfish

Singularity82 · 26/02/2023 23:21

1234S · 26/02/2023 22:40

Christ u all need to calm down. Read your responses back! Its a f take away -
LORD !!!

Posts like this genuinely make me feel sad that people have such low standards that they’ll accept such shitty and inconsiderate behaviour from their partners. Mine would never treat me like an unpaid skivvy and act so selfishly and thoughtlessly, and I’d never treat him that way. Mutual respect is surely the bare minimum in a relationship, is it not?

UsherBobble · 26/02/2023 23:26

How selfish! I would be going on a cooking strike this week and when he says he is hungry tell him to "cook something then!"

oosha · 27/02/2023 02:58

Seriously what a total a*sehole. That’s selfish, inconsiderate and disrespectful. I would be withholding services for quite a while for that response.

bussteward · 27/02/2023 05:39

Annemm · 26/02/2023 21:41

Hey, I feel for you but try not to overthink this too much. Men can be very, very, very basic in their actions and thinking, and they usually hurt without really meaning it. He was probably simply tired from his train ride and very hungry and he just ordered some food just for himself because that’s was easy and quick. He will probably feel a bit sorry and guilty about it tomorrow. Don’t reconsider your relationship just yet. You can give him some « constructive feedback » at some point this week so that this doesn’t repeat. I hope you have a good night.

The poor menz, so sad and tired and hungry, so basic in thinking. (And not remotely sorry the next day.) How do so many of them hold down jobs and relationships, then? Constructive feedback my arse.

Lorry10 · 27/02/2023 06:02

How did he greet you after a week away ? Pleased to see you/said he missed you , anything ? Or did he just come in, dump the bag and sit down to his takeaway and not even offer to share it ?

1234S · 27/02/2023 06:44

Thats great for you. No sympathy required here either.

1234S · 27/02/2023 06:49

Yes i probably beed to catchup on some of the other pages.

When reading the responses to the bit where he had come home with a takeaway(and we knew nothing else) - my god. The reactions, just wow.

GettingStuffed · 27/02/2023 09:08

Even the two men in the room DH & DSoniL both think it's unacceptable.

WTAFhappened123 · 27/02/2023 10:12

Selfish wanker

Honeypig · 27/02/2023 11:57

That’s so selfish.

One of my kids works at a chinese and gets a ‘dish’ in addition to her normal payment. I would never expect any of it but i do have the option of ordering something (discounted) if i choose.

I’d forgotten one weekend that another one of my offspring was home… ordered something and forgot to ask if she wanted anything… i felt so guilty and automatically offered to share.

In my opinion he was bang out of order!