To dine alone on a London day trip with DH and baby?

[AngelaMeerkat]

I love eating out, particularly fine dining. Haven't done it for years because of DCs. I'm very happy dining alone and used to do it on work trips a lot in nice places.

I'd really like a really fancy lunch out for my 30th (eg 3 Michelin star type thing). I live about an hour from London on the train, but no really decent local restaurants.

DS is 4 and in nursery. DD (breastfed exclusively) will be 8.5 months for my 30th.

Would it be ridiculous and indulgent on my 30th to ask DH to come up to London with me and DD for the day, and take DD somewhere while I go and have a really fancy lunch on my own? I don't know whether it's rude to make him travel and then not let him come to lunch, but the distance means it would be stressful having DD go without breastfeeding for a whole trip if I did the whole thing alone, plus we could do some nice stuff before and after.

Also is it too risky to have both parents an hour away while DS is in nursery incase of emergency? We have no local family.

Is this a stupid idea or the only way I can have a lovely meal for the next few months?

Celebrating a major birthday by sharing a meal is not being “joint at the hip”. I recently went on holiday by myself as my husband didn’t want to go to this location, but I would not dream of having my 50th birthday meal in a Michelin star restaurant and not inviting him.

@Aprilx everyone's different. Maybe the OP wouldn't dream of going on holiday without her husband. Who says your way is better?

I’m going to go out on a limb and bet that most 50 year olds aren’t breastfeeding a baby who’d disrupt a Michelin star meal, so don’t need their DH to babysit while they dine.

@ShirleyPhallus

oh yeah I think I saw that
what a way to make a woman feel guilty for wanting some time to herself eh?

@Aprilx

well that’s good for you, but op would and seeing as it’s her big birthday 🤷‍♀️

Did you go?

@AngelaMeerkat

i really hope you went op and had a fab time 🍷