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I found this dress totally unacceptable

286 replies

Whatwouldyado · 22/02/2023 21:07

Would you wear this out to a restaurant? Wearing nothing underneath but nipple covers and thong?

just to be clear…this is an open all day brunch/lunch then tapas burgers kinda place. family friendly, kids menu crayons ect. Not an evening or drinks venue.

I was completely taken a back as to why anyone would think it’s appropriate to wear that to a kid friendly restaurant

couldn’t find a link to the actual dress but it’s very similar to this Kylie Jenner one.

AIBU here?!

detail missing incase it’s outing!

I found this dress totally unacceptable
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Member869894 · 22/02/2023 21:25

Massive overreaction. I'm sure the kids couldn't care less.

FredPolice · 22/02/2023 21:26

Actually, I wasn't in the habit of showing my vagina to my children @RealBecca. I'm not sure it's a thing that most parents do.

I'd laugh if I saw anyone in real life wearing that dress to a Little Chef, though.

SliceOfCakeCupOfTea · 22/02/2023 21:27

What time of day did you see this OP?

RosesAndHellebores · 22/02/2023 21:28

I can imagine anyone turning up to the restaurants we go to being asked to leave.

TooManyPlatesInMotion · 22/02/2023 21:28

OldTinHat · 22/02/2023 21:10

I would have done 30yrs ago. Not now though, the nipple covers would be scraping along the pavement behind me followed by my arse cheeks.

Yeah, this 😂

Zone2NorthLondon · 22/02/2023 21:29

A woman wearing a dress like that,it won’t be kids staring
probably only the indignant and the prurient will stare

TwoLeftSocksWithHoles · 22/02/2023 21:30

That's odd, I thought the care home had said that Mum was tucked up in bed early that evening.

WombatsAndGumTrees · 22/02/2023 21:31

Zone2NorthLondon · 22/02/2023 21:29

A woman wearing a dress like that,it won’t be kids staring
probably only the indignant and the prurient will stare

Probably exactly what they are after.

ScrollingLeaves · 22/02/2023 21:31

Although it is not the sort of dress you’d expect to wear at a restaurant like that during the day, if it was like the dress in the photo, on a similar sort of woman, neither she nor the dress actually looks sleazy or sexualised.

Redebs · 22/02/2023 21:31

Puffalicious · 22/02/2023 21:13

Seriously? Policing women? I'm all for women doing what they want BUT nipple covers and thong during the day in a restaurant with children and families? Totally inappropriate. Why sexualise everything all the time? And I'd say exactly the same if it was a man/ non-binary person. I don't want to see your arse/ chest over my lasagne and sticky toffee pudding.

Do what the hell you like in a bar/ club/ night-time.

I'm not cool enough to think it's okay.

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Yes. It's tacky and inappropriate

Eyerollcentral · 22/02/2023 21:33

RealBecca · 22/02/2023 21:21

Why sexualise her though? At all. Yes its objectively tacky but leave her alone. We all wore terrible clothes as teens. Its just bad fashion. Even if you could see her vagina and breasts, so what? Dont your kids ever see yours? Surely it's not that shocking to anyone what is under the net?? Yes dear, it's a vagina.

We all get exposed to studd we dont want to see every day. Snag tights adverts come to mind.

Chill out.

Sincerely, what is wrong with you? We all live in society together, there are social conventions that allow us all to live together happily and although it’s passé to mention it, common decency. It’s completely inappropriate to wear an outfit like that in the day time especially in a family restaurant. I would laugh my head off, I’m not a pearl clutcher but I would think the person wearing it was utterly pathetic and possibly deranged.

Puffalicious · 22/02/2023 21:34

RealBecca · 22/02/2023 21:21

Why sexualise her though? At all. Yes its objectively tacky but leave her alone. We all wore terrible clothes as teens. Its just bad fashion. Even if you could see her vagina and breasts, so what? Dont your kids ever see yours? Surely it's not that shocking to anyone what is under the net?? Yes dear, it's a vagina.

We all get exposed to studd we dont want to see every day. Snag tights adverts come to mind.

Chill out.

I'm very chilled, thanks. Not chilled enough to be cool, though.

It's inappropriate to have your vagina and tits out during the day in public. It just is. How would you feel if someone had their penis showing through mesh? Not so acceptable then is it?

I'm sick of the bloody MN 'We need to support women in every situation ' and 'It's just a body'. Newsflash- women get shit wrong, I don't need to support them in what I think is wrong just because they're a woman. It rips ma knitting, it really fucking does.

OP you have every right to not like it.

I'm.concerned by shit like this being so normalised that young lads I work with expect the young girls to have their tits all the time.

AllOfThemWitches · 22/02/2023 21:36

No but I would definitely wear it out on a night

yeetingbird · 22/02/2023 21:37

Meh. I can't be arsed to care much about what other women are wearing.

My initial reaction would be to worry that she's cold. Assuming her actual vagina isn't on display I don't really care.

Teens wear little shorts and crop tops. Being more uncovered is a thing these days.

Riverlee · 22/02/2023 21:37

Even if I had the figure, no I would not wear that to a family friendly restaurant. That’s a nightclub outfit, not a day outfit.

WishyWashtsWash · 22/02/2023 21:37

I would if I was making tonnes of money influencing sheep

FuckWasps · 22/02/2023 21:38

I wouldn't bat an eye if i saw someone in a bar/club wearing this but Its completely inappropriate in the setting you describe.

Can we stop pretending that having your arse and tits out for lunch is perfectly acceptable and anyone who thinks differently is the second coming of Mary Whitehouse.

Puffalicious · 22/02/2023 21:38
  • tits out
Puffalicious · 22/02/2023 21:39

Can we stop pretending that having your arse and tits out for lunch is perfectly acceptable and anyone who thinks differently is the second coming of Mary Whitehouse

Absofuckinglutely

Westpoint · 22/02/2023 21:40

Underwear as outerwear - it's a key trend this season apparently!

www.vogue.co.uk/fashion/article/2023-outfit-ideas#intcid=_vogue-uk-bottom-recirc_df5616d0-f9df-44f7-85bc-792ccaf980f5_text2vec1

NeverDropYourMooncup · 22/02/2023 21:40

It's a terrible idea to wear that to a restaurant.

Especially if soup is on the menu.

JaneJeffer · 22/02/2023 21:40

She'll catch her death

Aftertheshowisover · 22/02/2023 21:40

Female or male clothing so often makes me think of The Emperor’s New Clothes. Not a good look. More a please give me attention.

declutteringmymind · 22/02/2023 21:41

Well I've seen worse.

LaurieFairyCake · 22/02/2023 21:43

Tacky and inappropriate

I'm completely laughing at the poster who said it wouldn't matter if you saw her vagina Hmm

I have literally never seen anyone's Vag apart from my own

Why would I want to see it over fried halloumi? 🤷‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤷‍♀️🤦‍♀️