To think husband is awfully petty

[teomama]

Can’t believe I’m actually writing this, but my husband got upset because I opened a box of chocolates that his sister gave him for his birthday and ate a few of them. I laughed it out at first, but he insisted it was rude to open his present. I think that’s incredibly petty and actually feel offended to be told off like a child. AIBU?

You behaved like a child.. a greedy mannerless one.

Thanks everyone! I do hope you’re more forgiving towards your own partners than you are here!

i think you were mean

no, i would be unforgiving if my dh opened and ate my chocolate box present.

My mouth actually dropped when I read your op!

My husband isn't a greedy guts like you so nothing to forgive on that front.

So happy there’s nothing to forgive @TomatoSandwiches!

It's not about "a few candies", it's about personal boundaries. People value being able trust that their things are safe in their home, especially a gift.

You say you wouldn't mind people opening your gifts, OP - do you think you might have some issues with your own boundaries?

I won’t have told my husband off if he did this because I don’t like chocolates and he knows that however he would still have asked me first before taking it. It’s a gift for me and it’s basic manners.

Come on, it's seriously cheeky to open someone's present and then consume it. You expected a free pass

It's only a few chocolates he needs to stop being such a tight arse 🤣🤣

Surely a reverse.

No one said they wouldn’t forgive their partners or take it Beyond a few words.

So what do you mean by ‘more forgiving’?

Yeah I'd be pissed too and think you were a right greedy CF

YABU

How rude are you?

You don't open someone else's present & eat it/use it. Then when it's open you wait to get ASKED if you'd like one, not just eat them freely.

That's exactly the kind of crap my ex would do.

I'm on your husband's side here. When he would eat/use something that I had been given, before I had a chance to, it made me feel really sidelined and unimportant. It's just a really crap thing to do

There is no where to go with this one OP. You are absolutely in the wrong. The nature of the present is not even remotely relevant, it's the Fa t that it's a present to him. It's his. For him to decide when to open it and who he wants to share it with. (If anyone) . It makes no difference if it's a box of chocolates or a super-yacht.. it's not yours.

Just apologise and accept that you are in the wrong.

Sorry OP not in our house. DH and I exercise restraint when it's been a present - gift receiver will open them and offer around. May end up having equivalent amounts but not free for all. Anything communal is free for all.

Of course you share things in the kitchen without asking. I assume it’s stocked from shared finances. His chocolates were a gift, they were for him, you shouldn’t have touched them.

Vvvu

All of that is normal stuff & irrelevant to
opening his gift & eating it.

I’m a teacher so at the end of year and Christmas I tend to have a few boxes of celebrations etc. If DH opened those then I wouldn’t mind. If they were a nice box of birthday chocolates then I would be very fed up. But my DH wouldn’t do that.

Very rude of you.

It was his gift and his chocolates. You should have asked first. No ifs or buts.

It's greedy and selfish, I'd be pissed off about it. Apologise and replace what you snaffled.

YABU. His sister didn't buy them for you. It's not much of a present if by the time he gets to them, someone else has opened them and helped themselves to the best ones.