To think husband is awfully petty

[teomama]

Can’t believe I’m actually writing this, but my husband got upset because I opened a box of chocolates that his sister gave him for his birthday and ate a few of them. I laughed it out at first, but he insisted it was rude to open his present. I think that’s incredibly petty and actually feel offended to be told off like a child. AIBU?

How long had he had them? If it was a few months then I could understand, although I think you should have asked him all the same.

YABVU. It was his present, not just part of 'whatever is in the kitchen'. It was very rude, selfish and entitled of you. It doesn't matter what you would have done if the situations had been reversed. As you can see from the 97% YABU, his is the more normal view.

Unless he does the same YABU and I think you should apologise and replace them.

Yeah sorry but that's entitled and greedy. They weren't yours to open, and then to just laugh at him and dismiss is feelings when he tries to tell you he's unhappy is doubly twatty.

YABU, they were his chocolates, given to him as a gift. Whether he chooses to share them with you is his decision. It's incredibly rude to open them yourself without even asking him. They aren't yours!

Dickish behaviour. And candies… that can fuck off too.

YABU

It's a reverse isn't it🙄

I wouldn’t care if DH opened chocolates id been bought as we’d share them anyway, and he wouldn’t care if I opened his. Equally though I’d probably ask just to be polite.

Wow, yabu.

It doesn't matter what hat you did for his birthday. It's not on to open and eat someone else's birthday chocolates.

Totally different if he'd opened them fist and offered them around.

Would you open your kid's or parent's present? You're being overly entitled because it's your husband. Very rude.

If they’d be hanging around for a while I’d suggest it was time to open them. I’d never just help myself.

Did you really apologise though? Cos it doesn’t exactly seem like you’re sorry……

If this isn't a reverse then if you act like a child, then you deserve to be told off like a child

How rude

He is not petty, you were rude.

The chocolates weren’t just any food that anybody could help themselves to - they were a gift from his sister. You deserve to be told off - and it’s interesting that you think this makes you feel like a child. It’s because you behaved like one.

People here are awfully dramatic. It wouldn't bother me if my other half had a couple of chocolates especially if they made the effort to give me a nice birthday. I would offer him some. I enjoy sharing nice food with my husband and child even if the food is part of a birthday present.

It’s a box of chocolates, and I didn’t think it would be too horrible to have a few as the box was just laying around. Obviously I concluded wrongly that because I wouldn’t mind him opening something on the kitchen table, he wouldn’t either.

So rude.

Gifts are gifts.

You made an effort for his birthday so helped yourself to one of his presents?

I am not sure if I hope this is a reverse or not.

You are in the wrong. They were a birthday gift, not yours to open.

General food in the kitchen is completely different.

‘Laying around’? What do boxes of chocolates normally do?

Sounds like you think he needs to hide his presents from you or it’s fair game.

Would you open and take something or use any of his other presents?

An open box of chocolates, slightly better. Open box and chocolates you know the owner dislikes and won't eat, fine.

Opening someone else's birthday present, not fine.

I don't think that's dramatic.

I'm way pettier than the OP's husband, I'd be planning retaliation.

He's not petty, you are rude and greedy. It was his present. Whether it would bother you or not is utterly immaterial - it bothers him and you should respect that and apologise and replace.

What on earth has the fact that it was on the kitchen table got to do with anything? Should he have to hide his presents from you to make sure you know that they are his presents?