To think husband is awfully petty

[teomama]

Can’t believe I’m actually writing this, but my husband got upset because I opened a box of chocolates that his sister gave him for his birthday and ate a few of them. I laughed it out at first, but he insisted it was rude to open his present. I think that’s incredibly petty and actually feel offended to be told off like a child. AIBU?

Presents are personal property in our house. Even once they are opened the non receiver has to ask for one/some in our house.

YABU.

It's a box of chocolates... massive amount of overreactions in this thread.

Yes it was rude.
My DH does this all the time. He even buys me chocolates so he can open them and have them himself - that’s how it feels to me anyway.

I don’t think what you did was a big deal. The way he reacted would make me feel really humiliated. It’s not like you smoked his Cuban cigar! He could’ve said it was greedy, made a bit of fun of your little criminal feast, but his reaction was mean and disproportionate in my view.

96% U?! Seriously? There must be a lot of picture perfect marriages around these parts if eating a few chocolates is to be so overwhelmingly condemned. My DP and I would laugh each other out of the room if one of us got upset about something so banal.

Surprised by the responses. My DH wouldn't be bothered at all if I pinched some of his chocolates and vice versa. But we are quite laid back about such things and would share them anyway.

96% U?! Seriously? There must be a lot of picture perfect marriages around these parts

It's got nothing to do with picture perfect marriages. It's just that opening someone else's present and eating some of it before they've had a chance to is a twatty thing to do, whether they are your husband, your sister, your friend, your child or whoever. It's not to do with the relationship as such, it's just about an individual doing something selfish and thoughtless.

You are incredibly rude and entitled to think you can open and eat someone else's gift.
Told off like a child? You deserve to be since you are acting like a spoilt and selfish one.
You should replace the box of chocolates and apologise.

I'd have gone nuts at you if you had done that to me.

Which in my house generally means that the receiver of the present gets to open it first and then offer it around.

We share too but we'd never open each others gifts first, once the receiver opens them then we'd share.

OP has had a real hard time on here, I'd be pissed off with DH if he did it to me but not at OTT as some on here.

YABVU They were his birthday present!

To me, it depends how long it was sitting in the kitchen for.

In our household a corporate gift from a customer or employer would be considered family property and available to all immediately, though we’d also think it very rude to just take a few and not offer them round. A gift from a personal connection (even a friend at work) would not be seen as up for grabs. But if you left a box of chocolates on the kitchen table for, say, a couple of weeks it doesn’t matter who it’s from or if you bought it yourself, that sort of taunting of everyone would eventually be punished by the box being scoffed by others.

I had an inkling you might be from a culture where the rude thing would be to be gifted chocolates and not share them!
As you’ve apologized already I don’t think there’s anything else you need to do!

What everyone else thinks and what you think OP is utterly unimportant. It doesn't matter what any other person on here does at all.

It matters to your husband so you should respect that and understand how he feels.

Ok but now, is he awfully pretty?

noone touches my chocolates espcially ones boguht as a present-i wouldnt do it to dh without asking first

Exactly ! My husband did laugh when I asked him if he’d be upset - it was a what the hell type of look ! It’s chocolates 🍫

YABVVVU and this would quickly escalate to ww3 in our house.

You don't steal chocolate.

Don't tempt me 🧐😇

I'm wondering if you are my friend @teomama ?! Is your husband a postie?

@NameThenChange no, he isn’t