Asking him to get rid of his dog after 7 years?

[Uktousa2022]

I am moving to the USA to be with my fiance. He has a pitbull/lab who has previously bit a little yorkie, the yorkie did start the fight, however unfortunately the yorkie died because the pitbull punctured a lung after 1 bite.

I have 2 cavalier dogs. I have extreme anxiety about taking my 2 dogs over there to live with this dog that has previously bit before. My fiancé says it was a total one off, he has since been neutered and is older now, and it was the other dogs fault. I have met the dog and it does pretty much sleep all day.

I just don't know if I can live my life anxious always watching my dogs around this dog - It is a small house - I really don't know how to get over this as we are both refusing to rehome our dogs. He does have family nearby that he could probably give him too, I would be going out to the US with just my dogs.

Because it’s killed another dog and has a history of being agressive.

Give him up and stay where you are with your dogs. What if your relationship doesn’t work out, what will you do then? It’s not reasonable to move into someone’s home and ask them to get rid of their pets (although as you said, his dog doesn’t have a decent life at all, being in a crate all day) . Nor does it seem reasonable to me to make your pets undergo such a traumatic change of life.

This has got fucking disaster written all over it. You are the ONLY person who thinks moving to another country in this situation is a good idea.

If you do, I guarantee you’ll be back on here in weeks wailing about how shitty your life is and how trapped you are.

Stay here. Get some therapy and work on your self esteem.

OP, how much time have you actually spent together in person?

I am asking, because you mentioned he might be the right person. I would not be giving up my life (and my dog) to move across the world for someone who might be the right person.

It sounds like you two don't know each other that well and you are just imagining this fairytale life you'll have together once you are there.

He smokes weed too? This alone would be a deal breaker for me when it comes to choosing a long term partner or someone to have a baby with.

Bloody hell OP. U are so naive its scary. This move will fail. You will lose your dogs. You will be aline there with an argumentative loser who will have his whole family behind him and against you when it goes wrong. Why is he a loser? Many red flags... crating a dog for 7 hours.... supporting that macho aggressive behaviour of dog being provoked ... Read arsehole thinking. Shuts u down ... instead of working on compromises....smoking a LOT of weed (any weed should be a deal breaker really as if alters emotions etc. But accept this isn't everyone's view). Asking u to give up everything and him nothing. IF U GO U WILL REGRET THIS FOR YOUR WHOLE LIFE. You are swept up. Everyone tells you there's flags all over yet u ignore them
YOUR BEST OPTION IS TO GO VISIT FOR A MONTH OR 2, WORK REMOTELY AND GET YOUR DOGS LOOKED AFTER BY FAMILY. I guarantee you will come back saying lucky escape. Do the right thing for you and your dogs - not that what sounds like a macho waste of space

You’re not a romantic, you’re immature and desperate.

Then dont go! Simples.