Should I bring up the texts I saw to dh?

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Dh gave me his phone to watch some videos and I saw a message pop up from his work colleague saying

"Yeah I know, she's too beautiful" so I just clicked on it and basically my husband started the convo to his colleague (male) about another colleague, saying "oh you can't miss her mate, she's stunning, absolutely beautiful"

To which the colleague goes "yeah quite taller than you though you will need ladders"

To my husband goes "that was what crossed my mind, imagine doggy style I would need a rope ha ha ha, every time she looks at me I get a hard on"

And then colleague replied with the above.

I want to mention it, but it will cause an argument and don't want to do that in front of my small children but is this normal lad convo I shouldn't have read?
I just feel kinda disgusted.

Would you mention it?

Justine are you Jeremy Clarkson?

@Justine2884

I think the lady in question should see it as a compliment

God this is grim thinking, mate.

Are you also the type to think women should be flattered by wolf whistles from strangers and smile in response, rather than feeling pissed off and scowling?

Have you really never had a conversation with the girls that's abit below the belt that you don't want other people to hear?

About an attractive colleague? When I was about 22 and single, maybe. Not like the OP's husband's comments though. And as a married person with children, hell no.

@BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz

It's about him clearly thinking of women (that he works with) as objects to be fucked. And talks about them with another man who also does the same

Absolutely this.

It's fine saying someone is beautiful but the sexual content afterwards is 🤢

He sounds like a jerk. I’d go bloody nuclear if I read that!!!

I stirred the pot abit because I had a couple days off work & I'm bored. But I'm done & ready to go back to my life now

Off you pop dearie.

I hope someone reports him and he gets fired…I’m sorry for what that would mean for the OP snd her family but that’s what he deserves.

I think you're missing the point.
It's not about him cheating, it's how he views women and talks about them to other people.

I wouldn't want to be married to a man who clearly doesn't respect women.

Are you a woman? If not, I'd thank you to leave us Talk about this - because misogyny is a massive issue and to find out your colleagues are speaking like this about you is disgusting and is actually an issue. It's a stackable offence.

Not just a bunch of "yummy mummy's with their first world problems"

Which is also sexist claptrap too.

Sounds like you need to get a life if this is what passes for entertainment 🙄

@Justine2884 Fellow scouser 👋

@Justine2884

Off you pop then 👋🏻

Some of us have higher standards than thinking we should be flattered by colleagues discussing the positions they'd like to fuck us in and how often they get a lob on thinking about us. The fact you think that is something flattering is quite sad really to be honest.

Horrendous. I'm sorry OP, I'm sure that was hard to read. It's only a matter of time before he has an affair with that kind of talk and lack of respect for you.

Sadly he's just not nice is he? Childish, immature, mysogynistic, low down base and disgusting. Tell that when you look at him you feel physically sick, then get rid

@Justine2884 I think you forgot to shave this morning mate, your stubble is showing through they makeup.

That would be the end of ‘us’ for me.

Thats a piece of shit partner you’ve got there, OP.

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But I get notifications all of the time from mums net so I just popped on.

Hmm. Did you pop on via a time warp from a 1970s sitcom, by any chance? Because that's where it sounds like your attitudes belong.

I'd be wearing his fucking knackers for earrings, OP.

It's a hideously vulgar objectifying exchange and if HR found out they'd fire his misogynistic ass. Absolutely obscene way to refer to a colleague. That poor woman going about doing her job and her workmates are swapping discussions of their erections and how they'd shag her.

Why are you with this piece of shit? You deserve better.

The lack of respect that he has shown towards his female colleague is disgusting. It is NOT banter that can be dismissed as blokes having a laugh.

It's also deeply, deeply unprofessional to talk in that way with a workmate. I mean, these men met in the workplace only 3 months ago and already they are comparing notes on shagging techniques and talking graphically about hard ons, in relation to a real person, not some celebrity or something. I bet it's the kind of workplace that would have had a copy of the Sun open at page 3 by the kettle and a Pirelli calendar on the wall in the 80s.

Sorry OP, your husband is disgusting. You have to call him out on it.

Do you have daughters?

Not RTFT but his friend said "you will", not "you would" which sounds as if something is happening between them and just not him daydreaming.

Is he particularly good looking? Sounds like he's short.

He's a disgusting pig. So sorry OP.