To be sick of giving this woman a lift home?

[MinceandMash]

I’ve got into a habit of giving a woman in my hobby group a lift home. To begin with it was done as a favour but now I feel like it’s become expected and she’s started to wait around for me at the end of a session. One time when I wasn’t able to attend she messaged me on FB asking where I was! I feel like I’m being taken advantage of. For context she lives about five minutes away from me but in the opposite direction meaning I have to drive to her house and then back on myself to get home. She doesn’t drive or own a car so car sharing isn’t an option. How the hell do I get out of this without coming across as a bitch?

Coming from you, that's a compliment, even moreso that you call me short sighted and narrow minded. The irony! I take it you don't have a mirror. The projection is hilarious, I truly had a laugh at you calling me that. I always love exposing posters' hypocrisy. Sorry that bothers you. I'm even more amused you think I use big words, I just thought I was using plain standard English. Perhaps to you, they are big words. 🙄😏 indeed.

I suppose I've spent too much time thinking about this, but re-reading some of my posts back I really don't know what "big words" I've supposedly used. I am ASD and am someone who is given to fairly direct forthright speech. Sometimes I'm told I'm too casual with how I speak. Now the problem is I use 'big words'. Sigh. I might get the balance right one day. Maybe.

For those of you having a bunfight on here to argue with HearMeRoar

Can we just point out having a health reason including seizure disorder doesn't prevent you from saying "thankyou" or acting appreciative of all the lifts this person expects each week from OP when it is out of her way.

That's what OP said upset her and why she doesn't want to do it anymore as she feels resentful of the entitlement and lack of gratitude of this person. OP didn't invite this person to the hobby group and has been volunteered by this person to drive her home
each time, even when not convenient for OP.

So Can we go back to OPs post and her reasons please rather than this derail.

allowing you to throw a few more unfounded negative remarks

and

your blinkered irrational ideology and hypotheses

sheer arrogance

superciliousness 'up your own backsidedness'

most unpleasant

know it all

just plain irrational

short sighted

narrow minded rhetoric and nonsense!!

along with all the other insults you've thrown my way, yet I am the one throwing 'unfounded negative remarks' instead of purely defending myself from your bile, hateful and personal attacks. You really need that mirror. There is only one of us throwing unfounded negative remarks, and that is you. And I am happy for all my and your posts to stand as a testament to that.

There has been a lot of supposition and speculation regarding what the OP has 'said' or 'not said' regarding the reason she wants to end the casual arrangement and stop giving lifts to this person...I have reread what she wrote several times and the only thing I can pick up on is contained in this paragraph:
"To begin with it was done as a favour but now I feel like it’s become expected and she’s started to wait around for me at the end of a session. One time when I wasn’t able to attend she messaged me on FB asking where I was! I feel like I’m being taken advantage of."
Nowhere does she say that she's not ever thanked nor that her kindness isn't appreciated, she merely says that she 'feels' taken of advantage of which is not the same thing at all?
In my opinion this has been blown up out of all proportion to the point where rational thought has completely evaporated and the OP can no longer see the wood for trees and making an easily dealt with non issue into an issue!!

It's Luddites, not Ludites 🙄

This has become really something, all this acrimonious commentary.
Perhaps the OP can take the bull by the horns and just let her unwelcome passenger know that a lift is now no longer possible, reasons don’t have to be given.

Don't be so tight. If she indicates expectancy in the future, tell her you are giving her a lift through kindness, and if you feel pressured you will stop.

This.

OP doesn't judge why someone may/ may not drive. She is annoyed that, without a please or thank you, this person has assumed that OP will always give them a lift.

Ask her to contribute towards fuel, it will soon put her off.

You could say, "I'm sorry I'm not going your way tonight, I'm popping in to see/check on a friend/relative. Do that every time, you don't want to give her a lift.