Boyfriend cancelled night away because he feels sick..aibu?

[songasongasing]

I booked a nice hotel a couple of hours away from home for tonight and paid for train fares as a little valentines treat.
Altogether cost around £250
It's been booked for a month.
Anyway it gets to today and he says "babe I feel so sick I can't go away -my back is aching and I've got a blocked nose"
Okay
So I say can we not just go -even if we just go to hotel and enjoy the room.
He refused
So that money is Wasted
Also I booked a bottomless brunch and the no show fee is £20

Anyway trains gone now so we have missed it
I'm in living room and he's watching tv in bed

Aibu to be annoyed ?

@songasongasing

He does of course have man 'flu.

But seriously if you cannot go do you have annual travel insurance? Sometimes given by bank or stand alone. If so you could try a claim ...

I'd have been really miffed but would have gone on my own without him.

Everyone is different - going alone sounds like bliss to me!

Also I doubt you would have had much fun if he forced himself to go feeling crap.

If you have never gone away on your own do you know how wonderful it can be?! A big bed to spread out in, room service if you don't want to eat in the restaurant, bath, bed, movies, walks etc No need to feel self conscious - lots of people do it and you/they make more effort to speak to others when you are on your own (if you want, you can just chill alone). Not too late to go, OP!

The fact that you'd find it pointless to go on your own, is why you're happy to stay in crap relationships.

They don't have children

@songasongasing
He's a proper pickle, sounds like it was or would of been an excellent time

You are one of those people who says they have flu when their nose runs a bit, aren’t you? ;-)

wow - this level of commitment from him about a small(in the grand scheme of things) prior commitment... says ALOT about his general attitudes surrounding the relationship and how invested he will be in you going forwards.

I'd LTB.

It's mental that people are referring to him as a child for playing computer games when he's feeling unwell...

I wouldn't want to go with anyone ill (talk about a downer! ),
I wouldn't want to go if I'll myself
I wouldn't want to be next to him on the train

I would have gone by myself.

@Deviniaursula she said it's too late notice for her friends to find childcare

No, it’s not a group thing!
It was her and boyfriend. No children. No husband.
Someone suggested she ask a friend along.

She said she couldn’t as none of her friends have childcare in place.

I think you’re reading your own whole thread 🤣

This!
A break alone would be absolute bliss!

He is sick. Instead of getting the rest he needs, you wanted him to get on a train and infect other people.

you could have taken the trip yourself. Traveling solo can be quite enjoyable.

😂 calm down.

Any other weekend perhaps. But being solo while surrounded by Valentine couples is not enjoyable, especially if you had hoped to be one of them.

If your not well your not well. Someone people don't want to have to suck it up and still go to things. I used to be like that but over time I've just learnt 1) its still shit if I go and 2) it just prolongs me being ill.

I have my 40th plans of going shopping and spa day and then came down vomiting and diarrhea 2 nights before it. Even though I was better I wasn't 100% and in all honestly I didnt have enough energy but I could of still done it but I wouldnt of enjoyed it as much. So we moved the plans and I had a much better time when I was fully recovered

So if he isn't well who is anyone to force someone to do something. If you think its something else and about spending time with u thats a different issue to sort out

All that expense by his girlfriend booked a month ahead and he cancels over a stuffy cold? No. I’m not the crazy one here.