Boyfriend cancelled night away because he feels sick..aibu?

[songasongasing]

I booked a nice hotel a couple of hours away from home for tonight and paid for train fares as a little valentines treat.
Altogether cost around £250
It's been booked for a month.
Anyway it gets to today and he says "babe I feel so sick I can't go away -my back is aching and I've got a blocked nose"
Okay
So I say can we not just go -even if we just go to hotel and enjoy the room.
He refused
So that money is Wasted
Also I booked a bottomless brunch and the no show fee is £20

Anyway trains gone now so we have missed it
I'm in living room and he's watching tv in bed

Aibu to be annoyed ?

And can we not start with the computer-games-is-he-12 schtick. Let's have a some Mumsnet-have-you-nothing-more-worthwhile-to-do schtick right along with it. Hypocrites.

Except FIFA is on his sofa, which is where he would be if he were unwell anyway? Are you being deliberately obtuse?

Sounds an amazing night and morning 😂😂 OK you don't need to get drunk on the brunch but I'd be thrilled

I would have gone solo or taken a mate? Not too late go now and enjoy yourself x

Yes he can game and yes, he should have got up off his feeble arse and gone on the trip you planned and paid for.

I have no time for those who fucking revel in minor ailments. You are out there and you know who you are. You're fucking boring.

Not to mention several hours on a train to get there.

Hey I know you're ill but let's go to a hotel and you can just be sick there. I'll then sit in the room with you all night and moan about how it's a waste.

""babe I feel so sick I can't go away -my back is aching and I've got a blocked nose""

A blocked nose. Oh please. Pathetic.

I wonder how all the posters saying he was unreasonable would react to a woman being told to suck it up when sick and go and put on happy face because her boyfriend had booked a trip?

If he was sick he was sick. Disappointing but why would you want him to go and feel like shit the whole time?

If you want validation that your boyfriend was rude then stay and get it because those here are all too eager to kick a man. But if you want a relationship with empathy for each other the YABU and get over it.

'its only a cold' said by some users here that wanted prison sentences for leaving the house during covid 😂

When I have a badly blocked nose I often feel dizzy, headachy and generally under the weather.

I don't sleep well as I struggle to breathe and I just generally want to chill at home. I'd go to work because I can't afford to lose a day of income but I wouldn't drag myself on a weekend away somewhere, especially if that meant sitting on a train for several hours and going out for a meal.

Why is it pathetic to want to stay home when you feel crap? 🤷🏻‍♀️

Again, the OP says there's always something wrong with him.
No one with an ounce of get up and go can be fucked with these type of soggy socks. Soggy socks are better paired up so they can bore each other with endless complaints about being ill together unto eternity.

@Schnooze

He didn’t even know it was happening, why would he pay her back? There is no way if a man booked a surprise trip that his girlfriend couldn’t go on for whatever reason that people here would say she owed him half his money back

Go on your own for God's sake

I'd have gone with a friend or family member instead, or alone and just dedicated the time to doing exactly what I wanted to do and being entirely selfish.

I don't think he was unreasonable tbh. Not chance I'd get on a train if I felt crap. Sure, maybe it is only a cold but if he's feeling rubbish then he's feeling rubbish, he can't help that and it's not like you'd have had a great time if he was moping about whilst you were there.

@Naunet

Tedious and correct. God forbid someone spoil the fun of ripping on this “unattractive wimp” by bringing up how different responses would be the other way round.

You didn’t go because being on your own in a hotel is not your preference, him not going because he’s ill is supposedly selfish. I’m sorry OP, the last thing I’d want to do if I had a ranging cold was to travel to spend time in a hotel and feeling pressured to ‘participate’ in someone else’s idea of romance.

Its unfortunate but giving that you paid for everything suggests that he wasn’t that keen to begin with. Next time, get him to transfer the money in advance.

Honestly do you really want to spend your life with someone so miserable. Who will happily waste your money like this. It's a cold. Go anyway.

What a baby your bf is, it's a bloody cold. He is not dying, I would be livid. Go get someone to take you and a friend and try enjoy the room.

Yesterday evening I started with a sore throat. This morning I woke up with painful sinuses and a blocked nose. I decided not to do Park Run as that didn't seem sensible. However, I had arranged for my 2 grandchildren (7 & 5) to come for a sleepover and so I've taken a couple of paracetemol and carried on so I didn't disappoint them as they were looking forward to coming.
I think it comes down to how much of a wimp you are and how considerate you are to those around you. He obviously isn't feeling awful if he's well enough to play computer games. I'd have more sympathy if he was in bed asleep or something tbh

Get a grip nothing wrong with him other than being a typical bloke.

He’s a knob. We’re all thinking it.

There are some vicious colds doing the rounds right now. I get it that you're disappointed, but you want to drag him out of bed and off to a hotel and bopttomless brunch? Come on.

I'd have gone on my own. The fact that you consider it ''pointless'' to go on your own is the reason that you should have taken a good book and gone on your own. Practice just being one person not half of two people.

Buy him a Dressing Gown of Doom next year, sounds like he's going to need it.