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To be horrified by these ‘baby boxes’?

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TheObstinateHeadstrongGirl · 11/02/2023 09:55

This just came up on my newsfeed and I’m absolutely horrified by the whole concept of women abandoning their newborns in the US:

www.newschannel10.com/2023/02/10/newborn-surrendered-baby-box-installed-less-than-3-months-ago/?fbclid=IwAR1qz7BbrIeF390b6YXl4mAscw82cTvt-Bzwnp_LMaZMMCjBcpltEZGHav0#ldzrvrvoa7ecauugx04

Im NOT having a go at these women, and this is supposedly to prevent newborns being abandoned in unsafe places.

But surely the answer isn’t “Hey brand new mum with raging hormones, probably depression, who is tired, stressed and not thinking straight - put your baby here for a nice new family” - it should be about supporting mums with PND, improving practical support, healthcare and rights of new mothers and reproductive rights. Not just “Oh well you don’t feel OK today so probably best you don’t be a mum, here’s a little box to pop your baby in”.

My spidey senses were tingling so when I did a bit of further research, the woman who started these is, of course, fiercely anti abortion. So that’s what it’s all about. it’s about not allowing women their reproductive rights but making them go through a birth they don’t want, have the trauma of having a baby they don’t want but it’s OK, and the heartache of giving them away - no harm done ey 😡

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Toddlerteaplease · 21/01/2024 02:40

It's only by luck that Baby Elsa was found. Better to have these boxes than a carrier bag in a freezing park.

greenspaces4peace · 21/01/2024 03:20

long ago there were a few safe spots where a woman could leave a baby, here in canada churches and fire halls were known to be safe havens. however churches are not longer open 24/7 and leaving a child outside a fire hall doesn't guarantee someone will see the child.
there are very few baby boxes (known as angel cradles or hope cradles) only in the biggest centers.
it's sad that they are needed but sadder still is being abandoned in a garbage bag, adoptions tend to be open in canada so should a mom regret her decisions there's always a possibility.

katepilar · 21/01/2024 10:29

TempestTost · 20/01/2024 21:21

I don't see how these could somehow mean women are less likely or able to have an abortion, that seems pretty dumb. I imagine the woman in question cares about babies and that's why she developed this idea - she doesn't want to see babies abandoned in trash cans etc. How that means she wouldn't support women getting help instead I do not know.

I am not sure they are actually helpful if you crunch the numbers. They seem to pop up when there has been a horrible case of newborn abandonment in the news, so I think can be a bit of a reactionary response. But some may feel that even if they only help one or two babies in a year, they are worthwhile.

Dont know about the situation in other countries, but where I am there has been a growing number of baby boxes since 2005. Its not a reaction to an abandoned baby. There about 90 in the country at the moment, located in cities and bigger towns.

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