To feel unsafe as a woman nearly all the time

[mammatilly]

I feel unsafe walking in rural areas
I feel unsafe walking at dusk/night
I feel unsafe home alone
I feel unsafe driving alone
I feel unsafe around male police officers
I feel unsafe around men

Our justice system is completely failing women in rape and domestic violence cases and is giving green light to men who wish to act violently

This patriarchal society is creating an Afghanistan style life for many women

Can't be bothered to RTFT, but no I don't feel like a women subject to the same risks and fears as those living under the Taliban 🙄

I would be afraid to walk in the evening in dodgy area, but driving alone? Are you sure you're not suffering anxiety? There's no safer transport option than driving in your own car. Much safer than waiting in the dark for a bus etc. Also it's very unlikely something will happen when you're home, have the doors locked etc.

Can you not see that you are playing into their hands by imagining yourself as a weak and feeble woman. You can't go on like this, it isn't healthy. Learn self defence. Even the tiniest woman can take a man down if she knows what she's doing. Find out about things you can legally carry that make suitable weapons. Brush up on your defensive driving skills. Make your home as safe as possible. Work on your self confidence. And for goodness sake, read about women's lives in Afghanistan!

Peak misogyny rather than peak mumsnet

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I agree referencing Afghanistan was unnecessary and inappropriate however it is the same trajectory

A positive takeaway from this thread - so glad so many of you do not feel under threat and are living wild free lives

I will find martial arts training for me to build confidence.

I'm not living a "wild free life" : just a normal one.

As all the women I know do.

You need to go to a GP. Being afraid to be home alone or in a car alone isn’t just indicative of being clinically unwell, it’s making you less safe. Presumably you “need a boyfriend” in the car or home with you.

Martial arts is not enough. You are not well.

Do you work with men? Do you feel threatened at work? This must be exhausting.

This goady attitude is confirming a lot of suspicions other posters have expressed.

This thread is so refreshing. Reading other threads, I honestly think I'm the only one not running scared every hour of the day.

I don't feel it to the extreme of your description but I think the majority of women adjust their life due to safety concerns-
Not walking home alone late at night
Having measures in place when travelling- texting to say you have arrived etc
Letting someone know if your going on a date
Making plans in advance when out late with friends for travel arrangements home

All of this things could be considered sensible, organised etc but they actual boil down to safety which is not something men typically consider.

It's very offensive to Afghan women who aren't allowed an education past the age of 8, need a chaperone and can only be seen by female medical practitioners. No medical staff will be female as you can't have education after the age of 8 so women will die.
I would much rather live here Vs there.

So, you don't think it's inappropriate and are actually defending your analogy🙄🙄

The only one of the scenarios you refer to where I feel unsafe is walking alone late at night. I never do that any more - I drive, get a cab or a lift home, or don't go in the first place if those options aren't available.

I think the majority of women adjust their life due to safety concerns

I do too and I think those on this thread who claim they don't, and that they don't know any women who don't, are deluded or lying. Every woman does at some point.

That isn't what the OP said.

And I haven't had many bad experiences - in fact when I was reading Laura Bate's book I thought she'd been sexually hassled more in one morning than I had in my entire life. But that doesn't mean I don't watch where I walk and run.

No one has said they don’t adjust their life due to safety concerns, we have said we don’t adjust our life in the way the OP states.

I have never in my whole entire life - I truly swear - been afraid to order delivery due to being a woman alone in the house. I wish I had - I’d be stones thinner!

just never ever happened. Sorry you live a life of fear.

Quite. The majority of people adjust their lives due to safety concerns: men, women and children.

The majority of people adjust their lives due to safety concerns: men, women and children.

Exactly. We lock our front doors. We lock our cars. We wear seatbelts

No, no it isn’t in the slightest.

Took the words right out my mouth.

When the OP is trying to equate life in modern Britain to Afghanistan under Taliban rule it's a bit daft to try and say that people are unreasonable to point this out as ridiculous.

Newsflash: you live in a Western democracy where you can do pretty much anything you want.

No, not my experience at all! But Afgahanistan??!!!