For not cooking my teenager dinner

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So I am really trying to use everything we have in the house before shopping for more.
today i made homemade tomato soup and garlic bread. My teen complained its not filling enough so they dont want that.
Cue her complaining for the next hour that she is starved, i gave her a list of things she could eat, tuna pasta, tuna mayo jacket potato, omelette, pesto pasta, even cereal.

She has now gone off in a strop because i wont go to the shop to buy her something saucy (?!) she hasnt eaten because nothing sounds nice. And now she’s gotten her dad involved saying i am starving her. Ahhhh

Does this thread hold the record for 'most usage of the word substantial'?

Sounds like a nice lunch to me. And you have offered her other things. It is her fault she is Hungry. She is old enough to pop to shoo if one is close by to buy herself something she wants. Could just say you are not running a restaurant. 😉

I agree that some people are like that and I roll my eyes at it too, but honestly it's not the lack of meat for me. I'd say the same if it were a soup with meat in it - it's more the lack of carbs or perhaps the fact it's just liquid, either way I'm always hungry soon after soup.

@aSofaNearYou

the soup was with garlic bread though op said

the soup was with garlic bread though op said

Yeah, that would certainly help a bit but unless there was loads of garlic bread I'd probably still be hungry by bedtime, in the same way that I'd be hungry after just a sandwich!

YANBU teens can be picky about food, one minute things hated are loved and vice versa. I just offer things and move on, it’s not worth a row, as you say your DD has the skills to make something for herself from what’s available.

I wouldn’t take too much notice of what she tells her Dad, say she could always go and eat with him (if he’s local).

Gosh what a tragedy

Gosh what a tragedy

What's the need for the sarcasm? I'm not on the teenager's side, I think she should have just sorted herself a snack, I'm just explaining why I don't find soup filling.

I’ve changed my view now we’ve had more details of the soup 😂

I’m now on Mum’s side.

Teens do sometimes have toddler like tantrums though, they regress and become like overgrown toddlers. Not excusing her behaviour just explaining it.

I think the word you’re looking for in that first sentence is toddlers rather than teens.

For fussy toddlers you just offer things and move on. For ungrateful teens behaving like toddlers, you parent differently.

A 16 year old who throws a strop over dinner and then tries to manipulate the situation by involving her (fool of a) dad is behaving very poorly. On purpose.

@aSofaNearYou

really? So what do you do when you’re sat at work and have a sandwich for lunch?

@aSofaNearYou

really? So what do you do when you’re say at work and have a sandwich for lunch?

Our 4 always know once our 2 weekly shop is done thats it for the next 2 weeks. There pretty good at cooking up food what's left at the end of the 2 weeks actually lol we've had some funny stuff.

Well I'm hungrier in the evening than at lunchtime, but I would probably want a snack at some point in the afternoon.

@hryllilegur no I wasn’t looking to replace with the word toddlers, far easier in my experience.

I’ve found it better not to engage in the teenage drama and I wouldn’t move on and expect a toddler to cook for themselves or go hungry.

I also suggested how to deal with the situation with Dad, which would not apply to a toddler.

What kind of parenting were you suggesting?

I'm mostly shocked about how much people eat these days.
You gluttons do realise, that home made soup is more than a soup-in-a-cup portion?!? Plus, like what.... 500 - 600 kcal in a buttered garlic bread?

Since when a bowl of soup and a chunk of bread plus snacks is not a meal? Since the "obesity" times clearly...

I was at my fattest in mid-teens. There's nothing great about being a teenage food hoover.

You’ll get a lot of posters on here telling you how sporty and thin as rakes their hoovers are though…

@LuckySantangelo35 You’ll get a lot of posters on here telling you how sporty and thin as rakes their hoovers are though…

Yeah, fully expected. I hope they realise that food habits and attitudes often last a life-time but the school rugby is temporary.

It's not that I'd calorie-count a sporty teen, but I don't think the attitudes of "soup is not a meal", "salad is not a meal", "fruit is not a treat/snack" will help those kids keep healthy in the adulthood.

Totally agree

Yep agree all shocked at some of the meal sizes on here and the sugary pudding thing. Having courses at home...um no that's just when we eat out. I'm not adding thinking of desert/starters into the pita that is the mental load of family meal planning.

I'm sure all the hungry wolves and strapping sons are rake thin with hollow legs though. I work in a university a lot of the late teenage students are fat.

Idk all teenagers I know are always dust bins because they are growing right. Also they always say they are hungry my niece is often telling my sister she's hungry after she's eaten a whole loaf of bread, and yes because she's a teen she's slender so not obese but that's not the point

They want to eat crap but op it seems like the options you have offered would be filling and not filled with rubbish.

I remember balefully looking in the fridge as a teen saying we had nothing to eat and mum had just done a massive food shop. I think it was more the fridge didn't stock what I wanted at that exact moment. And I didn't die of starvation when my mum told me to bugger off and go annoy my older sister (which I skipped off to do - my sister I'm sure didn't appreciate this)

It's a teen thing but not something I would actively be concerned about unless there's other flags you haven't mentioned op.

@zurala
She offered her plenty of options besides the soup and bread. I had soup, eggs and bread for my supper tonight.
I don't understand mothers of today. When my kids were young and when they still lived at home I made one meal. Eat it or don't. I came home from work and cooked a good meal for hungry people. Nobody expected me to cook again or buy food. Let miss spoiled child buy her own food and don't let dad interfere.

Sounds like you were lucky not to have children with additional needs or sensory issues or ARFID. Some of us have no choice but to be more considerate and mindful of our children's food.

Anyway, I just don't think soup is a dinner food, because it's not filling enough. I won't be changing my mind on that, no matter how many people here are stuffed after half a bowl.

Oh I dunno - its a food thread. Every orthorectic on MN will have views either than half a bowl of soup can feed a family of four for a week or that three loaves of cheesy garlic bread and a tureen of legume and tomato soup is a light snack.

You should have added a paragraph about how often to wash the towels as your teen throws them in the linen basket after one use. That would probably get us all the way to Easter.

Have you read the whole post, and the list of other meals the teen was offered? She’s just spoilt