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For not cooking my teenager dinner

520 replies

Ohdesr · 08/02/2023 21:57

So I am really trying to use everything we have in the house before shopping for more.
today i made homemade tomato soup and garlic bread. My teen complained its not filling enough so they dont want that.
Cue her complaining for the next hour that she is starved, i gave her a list of things she could eat, tuna pasta, tuna mayo jacket potato, omelette, pesto pasta, even cereal.

She has now gone off in a strop because i wont go to the shop to buy her something saucy (?!) she hasnt eaten because nothing sounds nice. And now she’s gotten her dad involved saying i am starving her. Ahhhh

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Dogcafedreamer · 10/02/2023 20:16

user12345678213 · 10/02/2023 19:20

Unless she is on a diet, soup an bread doesn't cut it for a growing teen.

I offered soup an bread to my poorly 23yo and she turned her nose up at it... went for egg and beans on toast.

Reacted like a teen.. no biggie.

Oh the thought of raising such an entitled DD!

Envy
JockTamsonsBairns · 10/02/2023 20:35

Dalekjastninerels · 10/02/2023 19:38

Yes; my oldest nephew is 16 and is not eating his parents (Brother is his Dad) out of house and home and neither did my brother.

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Same. My Dsis had two boys who are now 26 and 23, and I was close to them growing up. They ate "normally" (as I would consider 'normal'). Sure, they might make themselves a couple of slices of toast before bed, as my boys did, but nobody needed the massive meals often referred to on here.

Sizzlebot · 10/02/2023 20:39

JockTamsonsBairns · 10/02/2023 20:35

Same. My Dsis had two boys who are now 26 and 23, and I was close to them growing up. They ate "normally" (as I would consider 'normal'). Sure, they might make themselves a couple of slices of toast before bed, as my boys did, but nobody needed the massive meals often referred to on here.

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It's no wonder you see so many obese teenagers if they're allowed to eat such massive amounts of food.

BIWI · 10/02/2023 20:43

Hawkins003 · 10/02/2023 18:38

Reading with intrigue

So you've moved on from 'all the best' then?

What's the point of posting this?

Why not just watch a thread, rather than post pointless comments?

Courgeon · 10/02/2023 20:47

Sizzlebot · 10/02/2023 20:39

It's no wonder you see so many obese teenagers if they're allowed to eat such massive amounts of food.

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Agree, and particularly the amount of sugary crap, ice creams for "pud" or jam on toast etc etc, sponge and custard. Desert in our house is a banana! There's no way I'm cooking courses for anyone... Even visitors!

imnotwhoyouthinkiam · 10/02/2023 20:49

JockTamsonsBairns · 10/02/2023 20:35

Same. My Dsis had two boys who are now 26 and 23, and I was close to them growing up. They ate "normally" (as I would consider 'normal'). Sure, they might make themselves a couple of slices of toast before bed, as my boys did, but nobody needed the massive meals often referred to on here.

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My teen boys eat fairly 'normally' too. If anything DS2 in particular needs to eat more regularly.
My brothers ate the same as the rest of the family growing up. If anything I ate more because I was very very active and they were less so.

I've only come across teen boys 'inhaling' massive amounts of food on MN.

user12345678213 · 10/02/2023 20:52

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No one wants to listen to your censorship rant either, if you don't like it, use the hide button?

End of story.

Sizzlebot · 10/02/2023 20:56

user12345678213 · 10/02/2023 20:52

No one wants to listen to your censorship rant either, if you don't like it, use the hide button?

End of story.

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I'm sorry I've triggered your sensitive spot. But really, your British obsession with what constitutes an evening meal is boring beyond belief.

StanFransDisco · 10/02/2023 20:56

Yes you gave her other options.. but soup and bread is not a main meal.

MrsPetty · 10/02/2023 20:58

She’s not that hungry … or she’d eat what was offered! I’m quite strict on dinners. Eat what’s offered … or don’t! It’s not a restaurant 😂

Sizzlebot · 10/02/2023 21:00

StanFransDisco · 10/02/2023 20:56

Yes you gave her other options.. but soup and bread is not a main meal.

Says who? Says a typical lower-middle-class Brit with a chip on their shoulder.

mandlerparr · 10/02/2023 21:02

Welcome to my life. My eyes are in a permanent roll. They just want to eat pre-made food.

StanFransDisco · 10/02/2023 21:13

@Sizzlebot how do you know I'm a Brit?

Sizzlebot · 10/02/2023 21:16

StanFransDisco · 10/02/2023 21:13

@Sizzlebot how do you know I'm a Brit?

You don't have to be a Brit to have a British mindset. Class is still a big thing here, and it can suck you in. This thread is a perfect example.

Kanaloa · 10/02/2023 21:22

ozymandiusking · 10/02/2023 18:29

Sorry but I don't think just soup for an evening meal is enough. What about soup as a starter, followed by a lovely cheese omelette, and ice cream ( if you have any) for pud. You have to "sell" it to her.

😂

Or maybe she (a 16 year old) can choose to ‘buy’ into eating whatever food is made for her or preparing something herself.

Do people really dance round trying to ‘sell’ meals to stroppy 16 year olds?

StanFransDisco · 10/02/2023 21:28

@Sizzlebot so I have to be either British or have a British mindset to think soup isn't much of a main meal at dinner time? How absolutely bizarre!

Dogcafedreamer · 10/02/2023 21:30

StanFransDisco · 10/02/2023 21:28

@Sizzlebot so I have to be either British or have a British mindset to think soup isn't much of a main meal at dinner time? How absolutely bizarre!

Soup and roll is a perfectly good main meal!

HTH

JockTamsonsBairns · 10/02/2023 21:31

2bazookas · 09/02/2023 13:39

We had sons. As teens they ate a cooked breakfast every school day, followed by 2-course school dinner; came in from school and demolished a whole loaf of bread . jam and a pound of cheese to "hold them" until 6 pm and a very substantial two course dinner. They were all huge, skinny, very active, and ravenous the whole time. Teenage boys have a higher calorie requirement than grown men doing heavy manual labour. Hence the hollow-leg syndrome.

DH and I ate far less than them then, and still do. The hungry wolves are all grown men now, still very sporty and active, and don't eat like they did back then. But their teen sons do.

A pound of cheese daily? Or was this just some days? In today's money, a pound of cheese is roughly £4, and let's put the whole loaf and jam at a conservative £2. That's £140 every month on after school snacks alone! 😲
This makes me wonder if it's a wealth thing rather than a hunger thing?

Sizzlebot · 10/02/2023 21:34

StanFransDisco · 10/02/2023 21:28

@Sizzlebot so I have to be either British or have a British mindset to think soup isn't much of a main meal at dinner time? How absolutely bizarre!

Actually you've just got to be small-minded, which I guess is an international phenomenon shrug

StanFransDisco · 10/02/2023 21:35

@Dogcafedreamer in your opinion it is. It's not in mine 🤷‍♀️HTH

ArcticSkewer · 10/02/2023 21:37

JockTamsonsBairns · 10/02/2023 21:31

A pound of cheese daily? Or was this just some days? In today's money, a pound of cheese is roughly £4, and let's put the whole loaf and jam at a conservative £2. That's £140 every month on after school snacks alone! 😲
This makes me wonder if it's a wealth thing rather than a hunger thing?

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Guess what connects wealth to height ....

StanFransDisco · 10/02/2023 21:39

Jesus fucking Christ @sizzlebot first I was British.. now I'm 'small minded' because soup wouldn't fill me up at dinner time after a long hard slog at work 😂You seem to be a very strange person.

Sizzlebot · 10/02/2023 21:41

The British upper classes traditionally ate their biggest meal late; working class people ate earlier in the day. Hence the lower-middle-class obsession with "a proper evening meal". Come on people, it's 2023! No one cares when or what you eat.

Sizzlebot · 10/02/2023 21:41

StanFransDisco · 10/02/2023 21:39

Jesus fucking Christ @sizzlebot first I was British.. now I'm 'small minded' because soup wouldn't fill me up at dinner time after a long hard slog at work 😂You seem to be a very strange person.

Whatever.

StanFransDisco · 10/02/2023 21:44

@Sizzlebot I think it's you that's obsessed. With the British class system! Maybe I'm French, Italian or Moroccan... and need something more substantial than a bowl of soup when I'm hungry and knackered. Does that still make me British lower middle class? Even if I come from a different continent entirely?

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