For not cooking my teenager dinner

[Ohdesr]

So I am really trying to use everything we have in the house before shopping for more.
today i made homemade tomato soup and garlic bread. My teen complained its not filling enough so they dont want that.
Cue her complaining for the next hour that she is starved, i gave her a list of things she could eat, tuna pasta, tuna mayo jacket potato, omelette, pesto pasta, even cereal.

She has now gone off in a strop because i wont go to the shop to buy her something saucy (?!) she hasnt eaten because nothing sounds nice. And now she’s gotten her dad involved saying i am starving her. Ahhhh

Nope.

My son is 19 now and eats very nicely 😁 but went through a very trying stage a few years ago. But dinner was what it was. If he didn't want it, then there was toast. Obviously I didn't dish up something I knew he didn't like, but I am not a cafe.

To be fair, tomato soup and garlic bread is a light lunch. Teenagers are food hoovers as they are growing so much. I think they would need a bit more than that for their evening meal.

@Ohdesr she's starving herself by not eating the food

@jtaeapa you seriously think it’s reasonable for a teen to reject 6 dinner options and insist their mum goes to the shop to buy and cook their preferred meal?

Fo you not think that creates a sense of lazy entitlement and rewarding rudeness?

Are folk struggling with comprehension or deliberately ignoring the 5 additional meal options that OP offered?

I don't think tomato soup is a meal for me never mind a teen. Agree she should cook sometimes but she's not unreasonable to expect you to plan and provide a decent meal, tbh.

Tbh the soup was because the tomatoes were looking a bit worse for wear. However there were cupboard options and plenty of snacks! She was just being lazy. I do feel bad though. She said she has no appetite now

It depends on how old the teen is, a baked potato takes a good hour to cook, not many teens are good at whipping up a meal on demand. Cereal is not an evening meal. Why didn't the Poster cook one of the options she listed to feed her child.

😂 Decent meal.
I’m aware of my teens eating habits i have raised her so far! Jacket potatoes are also 7-8 mins in the microwave so if youre near death you can use this option.

She had snacks galore, she had the opportunity to cook. We also have fruit, veggies, eggs, cheese and beige bits in the freezer knocking about. I think she was being lazy more than anything

Tomato soup and garlic bread sounds like a reasonable meal to me. Surely you eat the meal first and then decide if it was filling enough or not?
Sometimes portions come up short or everyone is super hungry and we will then find desert/toast/something else to eat. It that’s after everyone has eaten what was on offer.

My teens cook for themselves/eachother 3x per week. If they don't like what I cook on the other 4 days they are welcome to cook then too.

If your teens can’t shove a spud in the microwave or make pasta-pesto then you might want to start upskilling them 🤷‍♀️

I'm 53 and I don't think soup and bread is dinner, it's lunch imo. However if that's dinner, eat it or make something else.
As a teenager, don't expect someone else to facilitate your preferences

I really did not throw a tantrum

I live 1 min from a convenience shop. I wouldn't find it any problem to get random bits for members of my family. I could be back in 5 minutes with something that someone wanted. I actually went this evening for one item for my dh who was tired and had a rough day.

It was a bit off for you to tell the OP to ignore my post. I didn't have a tantrum, I just pointed out that the OP is free to ignore whatever she chooses but that I don't really think that when she's asked for opinions that you should just tell her to ignore mine.

I don't agree with you on this issue. It doesn't mean I've had a tantrum.

I’d probably have a tantrum if offered soup and bread for dinner.

My teens are often unimpressed by what I plan to cook for dinner. In those circumstances they have to make their own food from whatever is around and do it before or after I cook a meal for everyone else.

I agree soup is not filling... but I would have just got something else myself.

Tomato and lentil soup with bread is filling and anyway thats quite late to have abug meal. She couldve had a cheese omelette. YANBU. She's acting entitled. Good teenage pushing the buttons tactics though!

Teens seem to have those real STARVING moments and they need big food, carbs, quick. I don’t think they often tend to be grumpy or mean, their hunger is very genuine and immediate.

Yanbu
She's just being mardy and dramatic. If the soup and garlic bread hadn't filled her she could have eaten after but to not eat at all is ridiculous.

Has she no arms or legs? Meaning she sadly couldn’t manage to cook or prepare any food for herself? If so that is really sad. If not I’d have simply said nobody starves out of laziness and refused to hear any more about it.

Of course YANBU! I do remember being a teenager though and I did tend toward the dramatic, I probably would have thought I was being starved too - always ravenous!

Great idea to use stuff up and make meals out of things in the cupboards before it goes out of date and is wasted.

I generally think of soup as a lunchtime food but I think if it's a hearty soup with lots of lentils and with garlic bread on the side that sounds like a lovely and very nutritious dinner. Couldn't she have had something extra with it? Stirred in some cooked pasta shapes maybe (minestrone style) and grated cheese on top?

if her dad is involved why can't he go to the shop to get her something "saucy" (leaving aside why she can't go herself)

you gave her soup and garlic bread and there is plenty of stuff in the fridge that she can make for herself. Presumably she is having an irrational teen strop. Why your husband is on board with it is beyond me.

Wow. When I was a teen, I ate whatever was being cooked, even if it wasn't quite what I fancied. If I refused, I'd be expected to find something in the house. She sounds a bit entitled.

I wouldn’t want soup for dinner so wouldn’t expect my teenagers to eat it either BUT you offered her loads of perfectly filling alternatives. I wouldn’t be going to tge shop for her.