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Original poster

For not cooking my teenager dinner

520 replies

Ohdesr · 08/02/2023 21:57

So I am really trying to use everything we have in the house before shopping for more.
today i made homemade tomato soup and garlic bread. My teen complained its not filling enough so they dont want that.
Cue her complaining for the next hour that she is starved, i gave her a list of things she could eat, tuna pasta, tuna mayo jacket potato, omelette, pesto pasta, even cereal.

She has now gone off in a strop because i wont go to the shop to buy her something saucy (?!) she hasnt eaten because nothing sounds nice. And now she’s gotten her dad involved saying i am starving her. Ahhhh

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Cherrysoup · 08/02/2023 21:58

Tell her to cook her own food, you have offered reasonable ideas and she has rejected everything.

NuffSaidSam · 08/02/2023 21:58

YANBU.

I had a very similar argument with a 2 year old today!

jtaeapa · 08/02/2023 21:59

I suppose it depends how far the shop is and how much money you have.

If the shop is round the corner and you have money to buy her something of her choosing, then I suppose YABU (I would have fridged the soup and eaten it myself tomorrow).

However, if the shop is far enough to be a nuisance and you are short, then YANBU.

quietnightmare · 08/02/2023 21:59

Oh well never mind. Perhaps she can cook for you tomorrow

Original poster
Ohdesr · 08/02/2023 21:59

I thought i hadnt really spoiled her when she was younger but it seems to be coming out in ways now!

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Whenwilliberich · 08/02/2023 22:00

jtaeapa · 08/02/2023 21:59

I suppose it depends how far the shop is and how much money you have.

If the shop is round the corner and you have money to buy her something of her choosing, then I suppose YABU (I would have fridged the soup and eaten it myself tomorrow).

However, if the shop is far enough to be a nuisance and you are short, then YANBU.

Has the teenager been offered food?

should OP get maccy ds for teenager because said teenager requested it?

tomato soup with garlic bread sounds perfect. If teenager was hungry they would have eaten it.

jtaeapa · 08/02/2023 22:01

I do have to add that if I offered some tomato soup to my two strapping teens for dinner after a hard day (boy/girl), then there would be a serious problem Grin. They would start eating anything they could get their hands on.

Original poster
Ohdesr · 08/02/2023 22:01

I can afford to go to the shop i just really dont want to go for the sake of going. I understand when there is nothing that you want to eat but honestly after my day at work i want to sit and relax not buy supernoodles at 10pm

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MeghanThyStallion · 08/02/2023 22:01

YANBU. Maybe show her this and ask whether she's hungry enough to change her mind yet.

For not cooking my teenager dinner
Chickenly · 08/02/2023 22:01

jtaeapa · 08/02/2023 21:59

I suppose it depends how far the shop is and how much money you have.

If the shop is round the corner and you have money to buy her something of her choosing, then I suppose YABU (I would have fridged the soup and eaten it myself tomorrow).

However, if the shop is far enough to be a nuisance and you are short, then YANBU.

Obviously not 😂

Ignore this OP. You are not unreasonable to not go out specifically to purchase and cook a different meal for your teen when there are perfectly good options at home regardless of how close the shop is or how wealthy you are.

Newpuppymummy · 08/02/2023 22:02

How old? I think there is a big difference between how I would handle this with a 13-year-old and how I would handle it with a 19-year-old

RoseBucket · 08/02/2023 22:02

jtaeapa · 08/02/2023 21:59

I suppose it depends how far the shop is and how much money you have.

If the shop is round the corner and you have money to buy her something of her choosing, then I suppose YABU (I would have fridged the soup and eaten it myself tomorrow).

However, if the shop is far enough to be a nuisance and you are short, then YANBU.

You plum.

Fairislefandango · 08/02/2023 22:03

Confused You did cook her dinner. Homemade soup, lucky girl! She needs to give herself a good talking to... and maybe cook you dinner next time!

jtaeapa · 08/02/2023 22:03

Chickenly · 08/02/2023 22:01

Obviously not 😂

Ignore this OP. You are not unreasonable to not go out specifically to purchase and cook a different meal for your teen when there are perfectly good options at home regardless of how close the shop is or how wealthy you are.

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Lol at you telling the OP to ignore my post. She is free to ignore it if she wants, but you telling her to ignore my post is a bit much. It's hardly offensive and I have 2 ravenous teens.

Original poster
Ohdesr · 08/02/2023 22:03

Ha ive saved that pic. Might not send it now though to not cause more drama.

Ahh yes she came home ate a protein yoghurt, a brioche roll, a banana, some pepperoni, half a melon. So she’s clearly on the edge or starvation

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jtaeapa · 08/02/2023 22:04

RoseBucket · 08/02/2023 22:02

You plum.

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You could at least state what your problem is with my post, rather than calling me a plum.

Chickenly · 08/02/2023 22:05

jtaeapa · 08/02/2023 22:04

You could at least state what your problem is with my post, rather than calling me a plum.

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Why should she state what was wrong with it? When I did exactly that you threw a tantrum anyway.

NuffSaidSam · 08/02/2023 22:06

Ohdesr · 08/02/2023 21:59

I thought i hadnt really spoiled her when she was younger but it seems to be coming out in ways now!

She's not spoilt, she's just a teenager. She'll come out the other side. Just stick to your guns.

JupiterFortified · 08/02/2023 22:06

YANBU. She’s not 5.

Chickenly · 08/02/2023 22:06

jtaeapa · 08/02/2023 22:03

Lol at you telling the OP to ignore my post. She is free to ignore it if she wants, but you telling her to ignore my post is a bit much. It's hardly offensive and I have 2 ravenous teens.

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I think you telling her to go out to a shop to buy different food because her stroppy teen stomped her feet is “a bit much”. Any ravenous teen I’ve met would just eat the copious food on offer…

zurala · 08/02/2023 22:07

Was the soup for dinner? I would only ever eat soup for lunch, it's not enough food for dinner, so YABU, you should have cooked a proper meal.

daffodilandtulip · 08/02/2023 22:08

My teen son wouldn't eat that but teen daughter would. They know that if they (genuinely, not because they're sulking or being arsey) don't fancy what I'm making, then they make their own sandwich or toast. I don't cook second meals.

Original poster
Ohdesr · 08/02/2023 22:08

Yeah it was tomato and lentil soup with garlic bread. She usually eats before and after dinner. I think it was pretty filling. She wouldnt know she didnt eat it?

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JennyDarlingRIP · 08/02/2023 22:09

She's not unreasonable for wanting more than soup for dinner, but you gave loads of other options including plenty of filling things.
She's just being a teenager , I wouldn't stress about it, she's not going to starve

redskydelight · 08/02/2023 22:10

hopefully you are making your teenager cook at least once a week?

I've certainly found mine are more appreciative of meals put in front of them once they realise that producing a meal isn't as easy as it looks.