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Super nanny

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Marmaladeoncrumpets · 06/02/2023 14:59

Watched what I assume was an old show on tv today (is super nanny still going?) and fairly shocked by the tactics used. I remember seeing it on Sunday mornings many years ago, before dc and Dh and I saying to each other, what a nightmare having kids looked, as we lounged around probably hungover and with no commitments for the day 🤣
I do remember thinking she was great, but then, I had no kids or no idea 🤷🏻‍♀️
Did you ever follow her?

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Emmamoo89 · 06/02/2023 21:44

Snugglemonkey · 06/02/2023 21:41

Did you turn out alright if you think that it was alright to be hit as a child? Sounds like Stockholm syndrome as a result of being a victim of domestic violence.

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And my parents aren't abusive at all.

Emmamoo89 · 06/02/2023 21:46

Emmamoo89 · 06/02/2023 21:44

I obviously don't agree with it and never said it was okay. but I did turn out alright thanks. And people are just so quick to assume shit

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And I think you don't know what that means. It's when you get kidnapped and fall in love with your captor. "
Stockholm syndrome

feelings of trust or affection felt in many cases of kidnapping or hostage-taking by a victim towards a captor."

Snugglemonkey · 06/02/2023 21:48

Emmamoo89 · 06/02/2023 20:04

Something I'm currently doing when my son bites me on the nipple when feeding him. I flick him on the cheek put him down for 5 mins and say you don't bite me on the nipple and when he goes back on he's so gentle. So he's learned. So I'll do what feels right at the time.

Omg! Why would you do that to a baby!? Poor baby indeed, this is disgraceful!

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Emmamoo89 · 06/02/2023 21:51

Snugglemonkey · 06/02/2023 21:48

Omg! Why would you do that to a baby!? Poor baby indeed, this is disgraceful!

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It doesn't hurt him. Calm down.

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Definitely this.

Emmamoo89 · 06/02/2023 22:06

I'm aggressive now 🤣🤣 you don't even know me. I'm soft as shite. Just have to laugh at you all. Petty women who have no fucking clue. If only you can witness my son. Because he's such a good content happy little man and I'm an amazing mam. Done commenting on here as I don't need to justify mysself or my parents because theyre amazing too. Ciao 😘😘

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chronictonic · 06/02/2023 22:13

steppemum · 06/02/2023 15:32

I think she gets a hard time now actually.
If you watch the programmes, alongside the time out stuff, there is vast amounts of getting families to communicate, making parents step up and parent, and getting routines and boundaries in place. She did a lot of teaching parents how to play with their kids.
She emphasised sitting down to a family meal, and talking to your kids, listening to what they have to say
All of which are good, and also tending to get 2 minutes compared to the long clips of temper tantrums which make better telly.

I remember clips of her talking to some of the men and giving them a verbal kick up the arse.

At the time, everyone did time out, so she was just of her time with that. (and no it didn't bloody work) but her back to bed does.
I find her annoying (and SOO LOUD) and over simplistic, but she had a lot of good stuff as well.

Totally agree with this.

OldSkoolLikeHappyShopper · 06/02/2023 22:23

She’s not asseptable at all IMO

WhiteFire · 06/02/2023 22:32

Hmm, this seems to now be bullying of one poster rather than discussing the subject of the OP.

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TimeToFlyNow · 06/02/2023 23:11

We never called it the naughty step, the almost 20 year old still remembers and isn't damaged by it in any way

As for the natural consequence of throwing food on the floor being no food, well my only food thrower would have loved that . No food and no consequences for throwing

Boomboom22 · 06/02/2023 23:13

I find it amusing that most of the criticism when explained what they would do it's like they read a supernanjy book about talking to your child, getting to their level, understanding their workd and the reasons, interacting with them. So much of what these posters say is what she advocated for. It just shows how much impact her use of child psychology had that now people look back and think her methods are harsh! If anything we may have gone a bit too far on the gentle parenting side, but her impact of getting parents to listen to their kids and meet their needs not the parents own was clearly large.

SandyY2K · 06/02/2023 23:20

I found her interesting and she brought structure to a lot of chaotic homes. Some of the kids were just wild and the parents were ineffective.

She was helpful in getting the family organised and having them all involved in things..like activities and chores.

The naughty step is now called the thinking step.

Emmamoo89 · 06/02/2023 23:27

WhiteFire · 06/02/2023 22:32

Hmm, this seems to now be bullying of one poster rather than discussing the subject of the OP.

Thank you ❤️

Sukisal · 06/02/2023 23:29

OldSkoolLikeHappyShopper · 06/02/2023 22:23

She’s not asseptable at all IMO

Neither is your mocking of her speech impediment IMO.

MustTryHarderAgain · 07/02/2023 00:30

I agree OP. I remember watching it when I was younger and child free, and thinking it was possibly a but exploitative to the children, who couldn't consent to be on it, but I assumed her methods were sound. Now I have learnt more about parenting she seems really problematic, not gentle at all, very authoritative.

motherofqilins · 07/02/2023 00:43

@MustTryHarderAgain there is nothing wrong with authoritative parenting (not to be confused with authoritarian). It puts the adult and parent as the authority while still taking the child into account. it means that the children grow up to be people that are respectful of others and understanding consequences as well as responsibility. it means they do not grow into little narcissists that think the world resolves around them and only their feelings matter.

all this software gentle parenting has led to a generation of kids that thinks they answer to absolutely no one and rules never apply to them and bad behaviour receives no consequences.

MustTryHarderAgain · 07/02/2023 00:57

@motherofqilins yes sorry you are quite right I meant authoritarian, I am half asleep. I don't think you are describing gentle parenting though when you talk about a generation of children who think rules do not apply, as gentle parenting should have firm boundaries and help children to respect others. Maybe more permissive parenting, which is very different.

I suppose it is all personal preference. I just wanted to speak in support of the original poster, as on reflection my husband and I also decided that super nanny's techniques were not for us (whereas prior to having children I had thought she seemed quite reasonable).