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Even Vera 😓

226 replies

Wavingnotdowning · 05/02/2023 21:44

Even Vera 😓

Just watching tonight's Vera. Obviously men should be allowed in womens' hostels. Daren't make a comment out loud as the teenagers have swallowed woke hook line and sinker.

OP posts:
OMG12 · 13/02/2023 10:36

RufusthefIoraImissingreindeer · 13/02/2023 10:17

I haven't lumped them together, that's what the fucking etc is for 🙄

If someone sees a transphobic OR racist OR homophobic post OR any other type of attacking post then they should report them

Sorry, I put another post saying I’d quoted the wrong post. For some reason every time I’ve tried to link a certain poster here it links somewhere else!

RufusthefIoraImissingreindeer · 13/02/2023 10:36

OMG

OM actual G

I didn't see your following post! Sorry!

RufusthefIoraImissingreindeer · 13/02/2023 10:37

OMG12 · 13/02/2023 10:36

Sorry, I put another post saying I’d quoted the wrong post. For some reason every time I’ve tried to link a certain poster here it links somewhere else!

Crossed

I'm going to sit down in a dark room 😀

howmanybicycles · 13/02/2023 10:37

RufusthefIoraImissingreindeer · 13/02/2023 10:19

Absolutely....so I assume you report them as homophobic posts

Personally I think anyone saying a TW is in the dating pool for a lesbian is being homophobic. As yet, the powers that be don't see that.

OMG12 · 13/02/2023 10:42

Iam4eels · 13/02/2023 10:15

words - they have meanings - buy yourself a dictionary.

Oooh, sick burn.

This is why you can't even debate the issue. You're all so twisted up in your anger that you don't want a discussion, you just want backslaps over who can be angriest and group-hate sessions.

Your post makes no sense. Hey I’m not part of an ideology which thinks nothing of issuing death and rape threats an ideology that uses the tag line “no debate”. So come on let’s have a proper debate.

The motion to the house is “Transwomen aren’t women. Gender ideology is just a collection of ideas which on balance are extremely harmful to women”

off you go- what is your response against this motion.

OMG12 · 13/02/2023 11:04

RufusthefIoraImissingreindeer · 13/02/2023 10:37

Crossed

I'm going to sit down in a dark room 😀

Lol- can I join you?

Babdoc · 13/02/2023 13:09

I have always felt that resorting to emotional insults and childishly accusing people of “hating” you is a sure sign that you have no rational, adult arguments to support your position.
Hence the transactivists reliance on “No debate”, followed by rape and death threats and incitements to “throat punch a terf”.

Wavingnotdowning · 13/02/2023 13:56

It is I who am not allowed my voice. I respect the views of my children, but I also expect the same in return. I am worried that young people today do not allow others to differ in their opinions. This is extremely dangerous. I hope, Timesawastin' that you allow others to disagree with you?

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WomanStanleyWoman2 · 13/02/2023 14:31

Surely a grown woman can cope with her children disagreeing with her?

OMG12 · 13/02/2023 18:19

WomanStanleyWoman2 · 13/02/2023 14:31

Surely a grown woman can cope with her children disagreeing with her?

Well you’d think grown men would be able to cope with others disagreeing with them butHere we are (warning contains examples of threats of violence against women collected from various media)

Iam4eels · 13/02/2023 19:02

And you think that's representative of all trans people do you?

What are your thoughts on the many posts on social media (and the fair few deleted on MN today) making shitty comments about Brianna Ghey?

OMG12 · 13/02/2023 19:11

Iam4eels · 13/02/2023 19:02

And you think that's representative of all trans people do you?

What are your thoughts on the many posts on social media (and the fair few deleted on MN today) making shitty comments about Brianna Ghey?

Sorry I’m still awaiting you response to my previous question

Iam4eels · 13/02/2023 19:15

Your previous question is too big to answer completely enough by one person l.

I think everyone has a right to live their life free from hate. I don't feel personally threatened by the existence of trans people. I think the vitriol by the extremists on both sides does more harm than good and my experience is that almost everyone I've encountered in RL falls into a live and let live middle ground.

WomanStanleyWoman2 · 13/02/2023 19:16

OMG12 · 13/02/2023 18:19

Well you’d think grown men would be able to cope with others disagreeing with them butHere we are (warning contains examples of threats of violence against women collected from various media)

Well, quite. But the OP didn’t raise these men and doesn’t share a home with them. I was responding to her suggestion that she had somehow been silenced by her own children.

Wavingnotdowning · 13/02/2023 20:13

I think the point has been missed here. We are in a situation of people, including family members, being cancelled for expressing their views. I totally accept my children's views, whether I agree with them or not. I am not transphobic. I do, however, feel that conversations have to be had about trans gender and female safe spaces. However my children, and my daughter in particular, has, I feel, been radicalised to such an extend that I am fearful to disagree with her because she becomes overwrought and may decide to cancel myself and my husband.

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JanBee57 · 13/02/2023 20:16

Let's move on to something even worse and more sinister from Vera.
Correct me if I'm wrong but didn't Vera say in the most recent episode "what's HE doing making a discrimination complaint?" about a white policeman.
White people can't be the victims of racism - only non-whites, so only white people can be guilty of racism? Really?
Who writes this hate speech and why isn't it investigated?

WomanStanleyWoman2 · 14/02/2023 01:37

Wavingnotdowning · 13/02/2023 20:13

I think the point has been missed here. We are in a situation of people, including family members, being cancelled for expressing their views. I totally accept my children's views, whether I agree with them or not. I am not transphobic. I do, however, feel that conversations have to be had about trans gender and female safe spaces. However my children, and my daughter in particular, has, I feel, been radicalised to such an extend that I am fearful to disagree with her because she becomes overwrought and may decide to cancel myself and my husband.

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Happylittlechicken · 14/02/2023 05:28

So @WomanStanleyWoman2 do you believe women should be locked up with violent male rapists, and when those rapists are released, that they should share hostels, changing rooms and toilets with women. As you believe transwomen are women if they say so (because there is no other way they can be a woman), that is what you are supporting. Either self ID is valid, therefore everyone who says they are a woman is a woman, and IB should be in female prison, or TW are not women and belong in male spaces? What is your opinion?

WomanStanleyWoman2 · 14/02/2023 07:47

So @WomanStanleyWoman2 do you believe women should be locked up with violent male rapists, and when those rapists are released, that they should share hostels, changing rooms and toilets with women.

Where have I said any of that?

RufustheFloralmissingreindeer · 14/02/2023 08:16

WomanStanleyWoman2 · 14/02/2023 01:37

😆😆😆

Theres something wrong with you….

WomanStanleyWoman2 · 14/02/2023 08:22

If it’s wrong that I find a grown woman claiming her daughter is going to “cancel” her laughable, I don’t want to be right.

Iam4eels · 14/02/2023 08:24

WomanStanleyWoman2 · 14/02/2023 08:22

If it’s wrong that I find a grown woman claiming her daughter is going to “cancel” her laughable, I don’t want to be right.

I found it hilarious too.

Heaven forbid your teen have a different opinion to you and goes in a strop about it 😂

Iam4eels · 14/02/2023 08:25

If my teen ever cancelled me it would only last for as long as it took for them to want food or money.

OMG12 · 14/02/2023 15:41

Iam4eels · 13/02/2023 19:15

Your previous question is too big to answer completely enough by one person l.

I think everyone has a right to live their life free from hate. I don't feel personally threatened by the existence of trans people. I think the vitriol by the extremists on both sides does more harm than good and my experience is that almost everyone I've encountered in RL falls into a live and let live middle ground.

It’s really not -i will help you

  1. define a woman
  2. are there any circumstances a man can become a woman as defined in 1. Above?
  3. Do you have the right to give consent for other women as to what they feel comfortable with esp in areas such as rape advisory services, medical services, toilets, changing rooms etc
  4. if you believe that transwomen are women how do you solve issues arising out of 3 above.
  5. what are you views on the way trans gender issues have been dealt with in relation to children?
it’s not difficult. Copping out with just be kind, let people live how they want just doesn’t work because it affects many women on multiple levels, from feeling safe to policy.
Iam4eels · 14/02/2023 15:46

It's not a cop out. Literally no one I know in RL gives a shiny shite about any of this stuff and certainly not to the degree posters here do. Trans people aren't put to get you or take your rights away, they just want to crack on with their lives same as you. Its the extremists on both sides who are creating the issues.