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Deliveroo Driver knocked at my door asking for money.

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avamiah · 05/02/2023 20:50

A couple of hours ago there was a knock at my front door so as it’s already dark by then I asked who it was and he said your delivery driver so I opened it as I was expecting a Amazon delivery and I was shocked to see a Deliveroo driver.I recognised him as a driver who has delivered to me on numerous occasions.He said he been waiting for a order from me but none had come and could I help him out with any spare change.
I was speechless to say the least and said No and shut the door and have been in shock for the last few hours thinking did that just happen.
To say it’s freaked me out is a understatement and I would appreciate any advice.
Thank You

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SandraCumin · 07/02/2023 13:36

So sad to see that nobody has any sympathy for this poor person. If it was me or anybody with a heart I would have invited him in and shared a meal with him, maybe got to know and understand his position.

But I suppose that class system is still very much alive in this day and age, no sympathy for the downtrodden, the ‘common folk’, they probably brought it on themselves didn’t they?

PinkFrogss · 07/02/2023 13:43

SandraCumin · 07/02/2023 13:36

So sad to see that nobody has any sympathy for this poor person. If it was me or anybody with a heart I would have invited him in and shared a meal with him, maybe got to know and understand his position.

But I suppose that class system is still very much alive in this day and age, no sympathy for the downtrodden, the ‘common folk’, they probably brought it on themselves didn’t they?

I’m glad your experiences have led you to have that level of trust in other people, and I hope that trust is never misplaced.

However, my experiences as a woman have led me to be automatically distrustful of men, and to limit risky situations as much as possible. Inviting a random man into my house when I’m alone is pretty high up on the risky list. As much as I’d feel sorry for him my safety will always come first.

I imagine your house is always full and you must be so busy, what with all the homeless people you obviously invite over and cook for regularly.

OnTheRunWithMannyMontana · 07/02/2023 13:49

SandraCumin · 07/02/2023 13:36

So sad to see that nobody has any sympathy for this poor person. If it was me or anybody with a heart I would have invited him in and shared a meal with him, maybe got to know and understand his position.

But I suppose that class system is still very much alive in this day and age, no sympathy for the downtrodden, the ‘common folk’, they probably brought it on themselves didn’t they?

This has absolutely nothing to do with "the class system".

This is risk and safety. I find it rather worrying that you would invite an unknown man into your property knowing literally nothing about him.

Gabby8 · 07/02/2023 13:56

SandraCumin · 07/02/2023 13:36

So sad to see that nobody has any sympathy for this poor person. If it was me or anybody with a heart I would have invited him in and shared a meal with him, maybe got to know and understand his position.

But I suppose that class system is still very much alive in this day and age, no sympathy for the downtrodden, the ‘common folk’, they probably brought it on themselves didn’t they?

Most posters including OP do have sympathy and are concerned, they just aren’t prepared to be emotionally blackmailed or put their safety at risk. As previous posters have said there are other ways to get help other than this approach.

The man in question can be desperate and in need of help and be overstepping a legal boundary …The two things aren’t excludable.

The assumption that he could be a risk comes from the fact he has shown a fundamental lack of respect for basic boundaries. He may well be harmless but personally I’d rather not risk it.

HRTQueen · 07/02/2023 14:02

SandraCumin · 07/02/2023 13:36

So sad to see that nobody has any sympathy for this poor person. If it was me or anybody with a heart I would have invited him in and shared a meal with him, maybe got to know and understand his position.

But I suppose that class system is still very much alive in this day and age, no sympathy for the downtrodden, the ‘common folk’, they probably brought it on themselves didn’t they?

I personally feel sadder that men prey on women as we are conditioned to be kinder. What would he be asking for next as a favour

and class system give over this is to do with a man seeking out a women he feels he can manipulate easily

an honest man wouldn’t be approaching a women who he is quite sure is single as he wouldn’t want her to feel uncomfortable

Logburnerperils · 07/02/2023 15:34

SandraCumin · 07/02/2023 13:36

So sad to see that nobody has any sympathy for this poor person. If it was me or anybody with a heart I would have invited him in and shared a meal with him, maybe got to know and understand his position.

But I suppose that class system is still very much alive in this day and age, no sympathy for the downtrodden, the ‘common folk’, they probably brought it on themselves didn’t they?

You can't be for real surely. Class has sweet fa to do with this and you know it. No one of sane mind would invite a stranger in to their home after they knocked asking for money.

ensayers · 07/02/2023 17:37

Deliveroo will just ask for your order number, and because you hadn't actually placed an order then they'll say it's nothing to do with them try the police.
Police will say, erm we'll have somebody drive past, and then in a week's time they'll drive past lol

TheFormidableMrsC · 07/02/2023 17:42

SandraCumin · 07/02/2023 13:36

So sad to see that nobody has any sympathy for this poor person. If it was me or anybody with a heart I would have invited him in and shared a meal with him, maybe got to know and understand his position.

But I suppose that class system is still very much alive in this day and age, no sympathy for the downtrodden, the ‘common folk’, they probably brought it on themselves didn’t they?

You would have invited a complete stranger into your home with your young daughter present and cooked for him? Of course you would.

Redladybirdbaglady · 08/02/2023 09:23

I'd definitely report this to Deliveroo and the local police. It's a blatant abuse of his role and who knows who else he's been trying it on with.

PoseyFlump · 08/02/2023 14:38

While my instincts say report I think if this happened to me I probably wouldn't unless I felt he was involved in drugs, alcohol, gambling sort of vibe. But you have a daughter and live alone so that's additional worry.

I'm trying to imagine how desperate someone with a job could be to risk losing it by asking for a little bit of money. I wouldn't think that way before the CoL crisis but there's some shocking stories around now.

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