One day notice to attend a wedding???

[Stardust35]

Received a verbal invite one day before.
Would you go?

Currently the situation I'm in.

This probably means she has a lot of friends and has been on the 'A list' for lots of others, but wasn't in this particular case. It's only saddos without many friends who worry about whether they're on the A list or the B list.

Or just people who thought friends got invited to weddings and not kept in reserve.
If you can't afford it, don't invite people, fair enough. I just didn't realise that folks had a spare list before.

@Maireas obviously I don't know but I prefer to think positively instead of getting offended about things so I would choose to see it that way.

Sure, but would depend on the exact circumstances.

I was invited to a wedding at the last minute because I'd only become friends with the couple after they'd sent their original invitations. It was nice.

Last minute invite to a child-free venue 100 miles away where the couple were just trying to make up numbers for their Instagram? No.

Fine. I'm not offended
I've never been asked to a wedding at the last minute.
I just didn't realise that there were reserve lists. Every day is a school day

I would where a marriage is taking place hastily arranged because someone close to the couple is near death.

Not sure about other ones though.

We don’t really know anything, thanks to the OP’s post and run. We don’t know if it’s a very small wedding where the couple couldn’t afford to invite many people, or a huge affair for 300 people, where anyone not on the original list was definitely low priority. We don’t know whether the OP is pissed off at being ‘snubbed’ by someone she thought was a close friend, or is someone the couple isn’t that close to, but whom they like and thought might enjoy it now there’s space available.

I don’t think I’d be tying myself in knots over whether I was first reserve or not though. Even if you’re invited at the same time as everyone else, unless you’re the best man or bridesmaid, do you ever really know how high up the list you were? No one would ever accept an invitation if they analysed it to death like this.

Very true, @WomanStanleyWoman2
All speculation.

TBH, I've never given it much thought, because life is too short to seek offence and then find it. I've been on the A list for some weddings, and on the B list for others. It's all fine. But we are all different, and some people enjoy being offended.

Who would on earth enjoy being offended?
How odd.
Anyway, each to their own with lists or whatever. It's pretty much all speculation as the OP hasn't shared further.

Are you at the wedding now @Stardust35?

I hope you went@Stardust35

if it wasn’t going to involve to much cost yes i’d go if it was needing a hotel travelling miles or something no i wouldn’t not last minute

We had a last minute invite to a distant cousins after people dropped out and places had been paid. It was at a hotel outside of town so taxi and cost of drinks were too much for us st the time (I know we could have drove and not drunk but that's now how we wanted to spend our Saturday.

If it was now when money isn't tight I would go in a flash.

There's a limit to how many guests a wedding can afford. You didn't make the cut, but someone dropped out. No-one's being insulted here, it's just how guest lists work. Go if you're free and fancy it.

No I wouldn’t. I would assume you weren’t originally invited but have now been chosen to be invited to make up numbers due to cancellations. I couldn’t be bothered personally unless it suits you and it’s a nice day out with free food and drink.

Probably more fun than many a preplanned occasion. On with the gladrag in your wardrobe, and enjoy! I'd go with you if the invite included a plus one.

No, I'm not keen on weddings so the ridiculously short notice would be a perfect excuse for me to decline. Unless it was a very casual affair I wouldn't have anything to wear anyway!

no sorry I wouldn't go. for our own wedding we had 4 people drop out day before due to covid. no way did I think to ask someone else at such short notice. we just took the hit with the hotel as numbers had all ready been confirmed. i just would feel I wasn't good enough to be invited to the wedding originally. if it was a last minute wedding that was only announced that is a different story

Has somebody else cancelled and now they want you as a replacement? Because they still want a present in exchange for the food they payed for?

I did this! Friend getting married, hadn't been able to invite many people due to cost. People dropped out last minute so she invited a few of us - we were just pleased we'd get to see her get married, we'd been sad to miss it in the first place.

Unless there's some backstory, I'd go if you can, you're free and you like them!

How is it a weird thing to ask about? Wedding invitations are normally in writing at least a month in advance.

I wouldn't personally, but that's because not keen on weddings in general, so any excuse to get out.

Entirely depends on whether I had mates going and would have a lovely time with them! I’d take a bottle of champagne and a card if I went.

A couple of friends fell out with us over this scenario. Unfortunately you have to give family first refusal