One day notice to attend a wedding???

[Stardust35]

Received a verbal invite one day before.
Would you go?

Currently the situation I'm in.

Yes

No, they’re inviting you so the money they spent on food for the guest who dropped out isn’t wasted. They’re inviting you to help themselves

This make no sense. They will be spending the money regardless of whether they invite someone or not. They are not saving anything.

Unless you think they are counting on an extra gift? But I really don't think most people think like that!

Me too. And I’d twat them in the face just in case they hadn’t got the message. Maybe shove a red hot sausage up their arses to seal the deal.

I would.

Well I did.

Copped off with the best man & spent the night with him in a fab hotel.

Bit OTT isn’t it? I get why someone wouldn’t go, but I’m not sure the happy couple have invited OP as part of a dastardly scheme to damage her social standing by painting her as someone who’ll accept literally any invitation. You don’t see many brides cackling with Machievalian glee that Susan from three doors down has been exposed as having no plans on a Saturday.

*if I wasn't good enough to be given an invitation to begin with I'm not filling the space because someone else pulled out and you don't want money wasted on uneaten meals.

I would tell them this as well, not just politely decline.*

This is such a sad way to look at the world. I never think I am not good enough for anything, nor do I ever think others think that about me. Because it's not true - I'm good enough to go anywhere and meet anyone. But not everyone in the whole world can be invited to a wedding, if someone drops out and the bride/groom asked me, I'd assume they were thinking 'Hey, not all is lost, now we can ask Amy if she'd like to come - she's a laid back kind of person, she won;t be offended over nothing at all, she'll have a good time and be a good laugh, lucky us '. But then I don't have self esteem issues,

If you actually delivered that 'not good enough' speech as you implied in your last sentence, you look complettely barking.

@WomanStanleyWoman2 judging from some of the responses on here from the self-important professionally offended you might think this is the case

Exactly.

If you actually delivered that 'not good enough' speech as you implied in your last sentence, you look complettely barking.

And it says more about @Ihatepcos than about the bride who might have thought that Ihatepcos was her friend.

What a great way to end a friendship.

I get invited to very few weddings so if it was something I felt like doing, had the time, it was near enough, no other expectations then sure, I'd be there.

If it was a nasty second cousin who lived 200 miles away and was insisting that I bring an expensive present and pay for my meal and drinks, then no.

Even if I wasn't thant close to them...Honestly I have never turned down a free meal 😅

As long as its going to be a net positive, like if I am going to have to drive for hours and find accommodation then no. If all I have to do is pull out my nicest dress and they will feed me and we will have a party then I am there.

Yeah if I was free and fancied it. I’ve been invited to a couple of weddiNgs at short notice as a replacement for drop outs. Didn’t mind at all.

Yes

If someone I knew was just having family to their wedding and one dropped out and they invited me in their place then that's fine.

Equally if I'd been invited to the evening and a few very close friends (who they'd known years) had been invited to the day, but one now couldn't go so they asked me if I'd like to go, then perhaps.

If they had loads of friends going and I wasn't invited to any of it until the day before, then no!

There are some right miseries on here. So what if you may not have made original numbers. They may have a small wedding, or family they couldn't not invite. The fact remains they are friends and would like you to be there even if a last minute replacement for a distant cousin who they never see who has dropped out. If it was a friend and I could go I would.

It would depend if I wanted to I think!

Have a great time. You'd be mad not to go: it's a happy party and you were top of the list of people they wanted but couldn't fit in due to budget.
Take a bottle of champagne as a last minute gift and wear the smartest ironed thing you have.
As a last minute invitation you aren't obligated to go all out/gift list etc etc: it's the best way to enjoy a wedding with no build up stress and planning!

I would feel touched I was top of the reserve list and they felt comfy enough to ask me.

Yes I would go if it wasn't inconvenient.

I've gone as a fill in before for someone I liked very much and I understood why j wasn't on the first cut. It was great!

I also asked two couples 3 days before my wedding who i'd invited as evening only to come for the whole day and they did.

I'd go if you're free and would enjoy it, not if you were very hurt not to have been invited in the place.

How do you know she was top of the reserve list? They may have gone through a few refusals because of the short notice.

So you're frequently on the Reserve list?

No. I would feel I was only invited at the last minute because someone they wanted to be there had pulled out and their place already paid for so i was a substitute not a much wanted friend.

What a great attitude

Who cares? All weddings have limits on numbers, and not being invited in the first place just means you didn't make the first cut. Big deal. I didn't make the first cut at a friend's wedding but went at the last minute and had a fantastic time. Why would anyone spend any time thinking about it?