One day notice to attend a wedding???

[Stardust35]

Received a verbal invite one day before.
Would you go?

Currently the situation I'm in.

So you weren’t the first choice person of who to invite to the wedding (presuming it’s due to a last minute drop out and not a very last minute wedding) but you were still a choice. If it’s not too much hassle then go and enjoy yourself. Sometimes the best things are the spontaneous things

Not a chance.

If I wasn't good enough to be given an invitation to begin with I'm not filling the space because someone else pulled out and you don't want money wasted on uneaten meals.

I would tell them this as well, not just politely decline.

I had this: an old school friend phoned me to say a mutual friend's bride-to-be had just called him, rather annoyed, to say that she'd just found out the groom "hadn't got round to inviting anyone" from his friendship group (completely in character and believable in his case), and to ask him to help her contact people about the wedding which was the following day.

I'd have gone if I'd been free, if only to mock him gently, but I was at the other end of the country with a work commitment I couldn't get out of.

If the same thing happened again, I'd go if I could.

I'd rather not, simply because I have other things I'd rather do than attend a wedding, but if I was the type to enjoy it and in the mood to socialise, why not go? It's not a personal insult to be last-minute, even if they are only inviting now because they have empty spaces to fill. Unless it's someone you thought you were close to, who "should" have invited you initially, why would you be offended at not being invited to someone's wedding?

If I didn't want to go (because realistically, I wouldn't), I'd unfortunately be busy or have something else come up. At least in this situation you don't feel that you must attend or risk being thought rude!

I have done this before. Old family friend (parents’ friends’ child) phoned me and explained they would have invited us originally, but numbers strictly set and we were first reserve. Told us two relatives were ill and would I like to come with a plus one? We went, had a ball. Why not?!

I think that’s a bit unfair. People have concentric circles of relationships. It’s not about not being good enough. It’s about how close to you they are.

Not the op, just in a similar situation

No.
I'd say I've already got plans.

You know somebody else has dropped out and you're just filling a gap.

I'd go if I could, ie not got a previous commitment, able to get babysitter and not too far away. I'm sure I could find something suitable in the wardrobe my fat bum will fit into.

It's a night out isn't it, refuse nothing but blows!

Oh I see. Have you decided to go?

I’d go without a doubt if free.

If I was free, it was local, i knew a few people who were going & liked the person in question I would definitely go. Love a good wedding! Obviously b list/drop outs but unless it was very close family/friend I would never be offended not to be invited.

My parents "upgraded" a couple of their local friends to full day invites when a couple of people dropped out and they were happy to join us.

Yes if I was free and wanted to
ive been upgraded from evening only to full day more than once and never offended
Even when I got married 35 years ago numbers were limited and not everyone made the full reception list
Seem to remember we had 50-60 day and 100-120 at night

I don’t understand what Viques said to warrant that response.

Me neither, perhaps there are reasons we are not privy to, but I am letting it go……….🙂

they must think you’d be very eager for a free meal and would jump at chance and clear your schedule to come day before a wedding

This is a bizarrely paranoid way to interpret the invitation. Do you always look for ways to turn nice gestures into insults? You must be incredibly hard work.

I think we have a mutual friend! One of DH’s friends did this. Also totally believable in his case too. He “just assumed we all knew when it was” without, you know, telling us.

if I like them/if it's convenient/if I fancy a day or night out/.

TBH I hate weddings at the best of times, so I wouldn't have gone even if they'd asked me 6 months ago - I would have had an excuse at the ready! However, I wouldn't be cutting off my nose to spite my face!! Go if you want to. Or not.

I was invited to a wedding maybe two days before, someone dropped out and I was single at the time. I was delighted, dashed out, bought a new frock, faked tanned and off I went and had a lovely time.

This ^ otherwise I’d feel I was just being used to fill up a space

I wouldn't, but then I am not exactly a party animal anyway.

Do you want to go?

If I wasn't good enough to be given an invitation to begin with I'm not filling the space because someone else pulled out and you don't want money wasted on uneaten meals.

Are you always so easily offended @Ihatepcos?

Lots of posters have given plenty of reasons why couples have to limit their guest list. I wouldn't be offended at all if it was someone I liked and I wasn't doing anything.

Hell, I don't even mind just being invited to an evening do.

I once happened to meet a friend in the hairdressers on the morning of her wedding. She asked me along there and then. It was a very small and informal wedding so it didn't feel too weird. In fact it was very lovely! Both the bride and groom were non-UK so rather than have lots of friends/family travel they just kept it small. The reception was in their own garden.

I'd actually already bought them a small wedding gift even though I wasn't originally invited.

So yes - if you're free, nearby and you think it would be fun.