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what to do about dog problem?!

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sundaysundae1 · 31/01/2023 23:59

i know this comes up time and time again on here, and some people have very strong opinions on the situation, but after yet another walk where my dog was harassed by an absolute monster off the lead, and another tragic dog bite story in the news, im frankly sick of it.

I have a beautifully natured retriever who comes everywhere with me. We have horses and access to land, and he can run within the grounds of the property which is all fenced off anyway. We also frequently go to dog fields and dog areas where they are allowed off the lead. But when walking in public- parks, streets, countryside, fields and basically everywhere else, he stays on the lead. He is fully trained and socialised and i would trust him with my life and he largely ignores other people and animals unless they stop to pet him, but he is a dog! They can do impulsive things. I dont trust that he wouldnt get hyper and run up to a family to say hello and accidentally knock over a child with excitement, or that he wouldnt run up to another dog to play. He wouldnt mean any harm, but not everybody likes other dogs and frankly i wouldnt want a strange dog running up to me or my kids. Just because i think he's the cutest, most adorable boy in the world doesnt mean that to someone else he's not a terrifying giant slobbery monster that could hurt them. Therefore he stays on the lead at all times.

i am sick to the back fucking teeth of other idiotic and selfish dog owners letting their badly behaved dogs off the lead to approach other people and dogs. he is on the lead. he doesnt want to say hello and neither do i. I just dont undestand the mindset that that behaviour is ok? its even scarier around livestock in rural areas- i dont care how well trained your dog is, NOBODY can guarantee their dog wont impulsively chase sheep or animals. Even if these owners are so selfish not to care about others- dont they realise their dog could be shot dead by the farmer?! if you love your dog so much, why would you risk their safety like that?!

and as for the discussion about dangerous breeds and the massive increase in bites, we absolutely need to change the law around dog ownership. We need to tighten up about certain dog breeds. Yes, all dogs can bite and kill including my retriever, but some of these dogs are built like hippos and have traits bred specifically for fighting or aggression, and are completely unsuitable for 99% of owners. The idea that anyone upon turning 18 can go and buy an XL bully with absolutely no training or licensing is insane. Im sick of excuses that Rover the american mastiff x pittie x malinois x XL bullie is a safe gentle giant who wouldnt harm a fly. Im sure he is, but if he followed his instincts and breed traits and ended up mauling someone, it would be much more catastrophic than from other dogs. From a dog owner perspective, i dread seeing these dogs because im terrified of them breaking free and ripping my dog to shreds. I was harassed and chased by an out of control XL bully/pitbull type dog whilst on my horse which i genuinely thought would maul my horse with me on it. This animal was built like a tank and it was the most terrifying moment of my life.

I also want to clarify that I've actually owned 2 dogs of a breed considered to be 'bad' and they were dogs with a working purpose. Dogs like malinois' are largely unsuitable for non working homes and we need to stop pretending otherwise.

But on the flip side, the problematic dog owners with out of control dangerous breeds will still find a way to own these dogs- after all pitbulls are banned yet still a relatively common dog. And if these problematic owners are prevented buying these dogs and get a less notorious breed, will this breed then end up becoming problematic too?

people mention dog licenses and tighter control of dog ownership but the problematic dog owners dont care about that and it wont make a difference

we have a real problem with some entitled dog owners but i honestly dont know what the solution is!

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Godlovesall26 · 01/02/2023 09:39

HufflepuffRavenclaw · 01/02/2023 09:31

I'm not sure but SOMETHING has to be done. Not just about the aggressive, large dogs which are bought as a status symbols, but about the idiot owners of all species who buy a dog then do not train them and allow them to cause a menace to other people.

I have no interest in your dog. Keep it to yourself. If you cannot train your dog to come back every single time you call it, then it should be on a lead.

On another thread someone said that in the US it is a legal requirement to have a dog on a lead in all public places. I would strongly support this, if you want your dog to run free then you book a space in one of the secure fields set up for this purpose. And by "lead" I mean one of the short metre long leather/cord ones, not those massive extending ones which are 20 feet long.

So in my country I mentioned (with several essentially forbidden categories (western European country)

  1. most places do not allow dogs except like blind assistance
  2. most are walked on leashes : it doesn’t have to be a one meter one, you can get long ones that are immediately retractable
  3. kind of like bike lanes, it’s not really the practice to walk on the pavement alongside kids
  4. even small breeds ownership isn’t encouraged in small apartments because they simply don’t get their exercice needs met : so you either get an old sleepy one or another pet ex cat
HufflepuffRavenclaw · 01/02/2023 09:41

OK then, why not a law which says "animals must be on the lead in built up areas". Towns and cities. Anywhere that the roads have a speed limit of 20/30/40. On the lead on streets, in parks.

If you want your animal to run free then you must leave the town/city and find a park, field, forest whatever in a rural area.

And before everyone starts bleating on about how they live in central Manchester/Glasgow/London and would have to travel for HOURS and spend a FORTUNE to get to that sort of area - tough. Owning a dog is expensive and inconvenient. Get used to it. Or buy a hamster.

Cherry60 · 01/02/2023 09:42

HufflepuffRavenclaw · 01/02/2023 09:31

I'm not sure but SOMETHING has to be done. Not just about the aggressive, large dogs which are bought as a status symbols, but about the idiot owners of all species who buy a dog then do not train them and allow them to cause a menace to other people.

I have no interest in your dog. Keep it to yourself. If you cannot train your dog to come back every single time you call it, then it should be on a lead.

On another thread someone said that in the US it is a legal requirement to have a dog on a lead in all public places. I would strongly support this, if you want your dog to run free then you book a space in one of the secure fields set up for this purpose. And by "lead" I mean one of the short metre long leather/cord ones, not those massive extending ones which are 20 feet long.

What is defined as a public place? As a dog owner I would support a policy of leads on in all parks if a fenced area could be set aside for dogs to run in off lead.

HufflepuffRavenclaw · 01/02/2023 09:43

I'd say that was a fair compromise, @Cherry60 . A clearly marked off, fenced in area where the doggy people can take their animals and that those of us who don't want to be around their dogs can avoid.

At the moment it's a free for all.

sundaysundae1 · 01/02/2023 09:44

vivainsomnia · 01/02/2023 09:36

the majority of dog owners are sensible. But the problematic ones ruin it for everyone
100% agree with this. What I don't agree is that 99.9% of dogs should be restricted because of the 0.1% that cause problems when ultimately, restricting the very large majority won't change the danger caused by the very few problematic ones.

My dog adores their free walk in the countryside and needs the run. We are 3mns drive away (or walking distance if we have more time). It would take much longer to drive to the enclosed dog of leash field). They are totally harmless, 5kilos of fur, never ever shown any sign of agression. They are 100% more at risk of other dogs attacking them then them attacking anything. I still would not want all dogs on the lead everywhere.

‘It would take much longer to drive to the enclosed dog of leash field’

Sorry but distance and cost and inconvenience of dog fields is irrelevant. You chose to get a dog, this is part of owning a dog. At times I cba going in the car all the way to the dog field, but I bought a dog and dogs need safe off the lead time. It’s my responsibility as an owner to provide that.

you seem to have ignored every single point I previously made to you re having your dog off the lead around livestock. If your ‘5kg of fur’ dog decided to have a silly moment (which you cannot 100% guarantee he won’t) he could kill someone on a horse, or kill livestock, or cause an entire flock of sheep to miscarry, and probably end up shot in the process. When it’s not your livestock, it’s not your risk to take.

dogs should never be off the lead around other peoples livestock. Absolutely crazy to think otherwise.

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Godlovesall26 · 01/02/2023 09:44

HufflepuffRavenclaw · 01/02/2023 09:41

OK then, why not a law which says "animals must be on the lead in built up areas". Towns and cities. Anywhere that the roads have a speed limit of 20/30/40. On the lead on streets, in parks.

If you want your animal to run free then you must leave the town/city and find a park, field, forest whatever in a rural area.

And before everyone starts bleating on about how they live in central Manchester/Glasgow/London and would have to travel for HOURS and spend a FORTUNE to get to that sort of area - tough. Owning a dog is expensive and inconvenient. Get used to it. Or buy a hamster.

It’s not an official law for us but it’s societal practice really

Maybe my message got lost, so sorry I’m repeating it : do you really have NO restrictions on breeds here ?

flabbygoldfish · 01/02/2023 09:46

It is a toxic mix of inexperienced and ineffective owners, lack of accountability and responsibility, poor breeding practices and too many of the them. Breeds do have some influence but I would much prefer a well trained Bully to an out of control terrier.

a local farmer close to me just lost a field of sheep to do a dog attack. Dog bites at A&E have reached a record high.

There needs to be a huge crackdown on dog/owner behaviour and dogs removed from owners & pts if untrainable. Dogs should only be bought from licensed breeders & not over the internet to get a grip on puppy farms.

Just like that poor woman killed by a cow walking in a public path. Did she have a dog worrying the cows and/or were their calves? Common sense says don’t walk through a herd of cows with calves, even if there is a footpath. Usually there are warning signs which people choose to ignore. 😔

sundaysundae1 · 01/02/2023 09:46

Godlovesall26 · 01/02/2023 09:44

It’s not an official law for us but it’s societal practice really

Maybe my message got lost, so sorry I’m repeating it : do you really have NO restrictions on breeds here ?

In the UK? There are 4 banned breeds IIRC. But the problem is that with backyard unregulated breeding, many people own dogs that actually have banned breeds in them and often the owners don’t know (although some owners do and they intentionally want a banned breed)

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Ricco12 · 01/02/2023 09:47

I agree my poor dog was attacked 2 x in a week at 9 months old but out of control Labrador's . Different dog each time and owners with zero control over them.

I'm also sick of working spaniel owners. Idiots buying a working breed then thinking long walks is enough stimulation for them. The amount of nuance spaniels I come across is a joke. Jumping all over my kids who are a bit nervous of strange dogs. While the owners say oh they so friendly.

There is no answer to this madness though unfortunately. I would fully support a all dogs on lead ban though even though it would negatively effect my dog. Because the dog situation in Uk is getting out of control.

HufflepuffRavenclaw · 01/02/2023 09:47

Maybe my message got lost, so sorry I’m repeating it : do you really have NO restrictions on breeds here

There are restrictions on breeds. Pit bull types, Japanese and Brazilian fighting breeds. But there is no law which would stop someone living in a studio flat buying two St Bernards.

Godlovesall26 · 01/02/2023 09:47

Godlovesall26 · 01/02/2023 09:44

It’s not an official law for us but it’s societal practice really

Maybe my message got lost, so sorry I’m repeating it : do you really have NO restrictions on breeds here ?

And yes, it’s also considered cruel to have an energetic dog if you don’t have a garden or free space (as in free from people) where it can be walked without leash (an eternal leash is cruel).

So I agree, if you love dogs that much you’d care more for their well-being
which is why I have an old sleepy cat ☺️

drpet49 · 01/02/2023 09:49

The majority of children who are killed by dogs are killed in their home or someone else’s house.

Godlovesall26 · 01/02/2023 09:50

HufflepuffRavenclaw · 01/02/2023 09:47

Maybe my message got lost, so sorry I’m repeating it : do you really have NO restrictions on breeds here

There are restrictions on breeds. Pit bull types, Japanese and Brazilian fighting breeds. But there is no law which would stop someone living in a studio flat buying two St Bernards.

That’s really a people problem then. It’s a recipe for disaster unfortunately. And so cruel to those dogs.

flabbygoldfish · 01/02/2023 09:50

They are totally harmless, 5kilos of fur, never ever shown any sign of agression.

funnily enough this is what the owner of the dog said after it attacked & killed that seal (Freddie) by the Thames a couple of years ago. But he would never hurt anything - after it has just killed.

the dog walker the other week was attacked by harmless dachshunds & a cockerpoo.

Totally harmless until they’re not.🤔

Thereisnolight · 01/02/2023 09:51

redboxer321 · 01/02/2023 09:30

I think it's time we admitted that the situation we have now with human beings 'owning' another sentient being does not work for either species. Well, it may work for some dogs and probably works for larger numbers of people but for every dog living what we think is a happy life (and who are we to judge?), many others suffer. From ill-bred dogs that endure a life of suffering, to those whose only role in life is to produce puppies to make humans rich, to racing greyhounds, to dogs made to fight other dogs or go on badger baits and the like, to hounds belonging to hunts, to dogs owned by well meaning people who ultimately fail their dogs, to those that spend their entire day alone in a house waiting for their owner to come home and so on.
As well as that, you've got people like the XL bully advocate above who claim they are dog lovers but demonstrate their utter selfishness and complete lack of empathy by refusing to show any consideration for dogs who have become reactive through no fault of their own, have become elderly and can feel vulnerable or simply just don't want to interact and rather than control her dogs simply says, not my problem.

I have a dog that I rehomed. I adopted her because I thought I could give her a better life than she had. But the fact that dogs are reliant on humans to 'give them a life' is in my view utterly wrong.
A poster further up said: "There's room for more animals than just humans on this planet...". But the fact is, there's not.
What I'd like to see is a drastic cut in the number of human beings on this planet and space for other animals to live natural lives. I'd like to see domestic dogs allowed to die out, they should be taken care of but no more breeding should take place and their ancestors - the majestic wolf - having space to live their own lives free from human interference.

sadly you’re probably right.

I own a dog whom I love and try to treat well. I know we treat him better than most people treat their dogs. He gets a min of 2 hours off-lead walking with one or other of us every single day and is never left alone for more than 2 hours at a time. But he is an adult animal who is so very dependent on us for everything and I feel very uncomfortable about that. The truth is, I don’t think it’s right and I agree with everything you’ve said.

paintitallover · 01/02/2023 09:52

It's not just the irresponsible ones, though. There is a whole extra pile of people who look after their dogs but treat them like children, and are highly defensive of them if they growl at people. Such as the one who told me my child must have dive done thing after her dog nipped my child. If yes, despite the fact the vet muzzles it, I later discovered. Another lot who spoil them so the dog runs the house-see programmes like Dogs behaving badly. Them a further lot never walked. I don't live in a deprived area, and I can count a few dogs like this.

Minimalme · 01/02/2023 09:52

It sounds as if you have your dog on a lead unless I've is in your fenced off field or in a dog walking fenced area, but on a lead everywhere else?

I don't think it's much fun to walk a dog on lead - for you or the dog. Other dogs off lead will come up to say hi, it will always happen, whether you want it to or not.

Just stick to the fenced off areas or try training to improve your dogs recall. A retriever is big enough to 'tell off' other dogs who are over friendly.

Thereisnolight · 01/02/2023 09:53

ginslinger · 01/02/2023 09:27

I agree with you - I rescued a reactive dog and did my absolute best to walk him in quiet places, always on the lead, with a yellow ticket that said reactive dog, with a jacket that said reactive dog. I would call to dog owners with their off-lead dogs and ask them to call their dog which was approaching mine because my dog might attack. Then the day came when the owner refused to call back and said he was just being friendly and my dog bit their dog. And then it was all my fault despite me having done everything absolutely correctly. Our dog was rehomed to a very quiet country family. I miss him very much.

But the dog is probably happier.

Godlovesall26 · 01/02/2023 09:54

drpet49 · 01/02/2023 09:49

The majority of children who are killed by dogs are killed in their home or someone else’s house.

I was just about to ask that actually : the dogs I see in the papers are part of our danger category breeds : like do people not think before getting them when they have kids?
And what’s with the next door neighbor’s dogs escaping ? That’s a huge safeguarding issue

For ref her the fines are around 4000, quite a deterrent I’d think
Do you have fines ?

Id also imagine they’re less likely to take them to the vets (or they’d be immediately fined) so no vaccinations, no evaluation of behavior, no nothing. It’s sad

Cherry60 · 01/02/2023 09:55

@ginslinger that must have been really hard even though was the right thing to do 💐

sundaysundae1 · 01/02/2023 09:56

Minimalme · 01/02/2023 09:52

It sounds as if you have your dog on a lead unless I've is in your fenced off field or in a dog walking fenced area, but on a lead everywhere else?

I don't think it's much fun to walk a dog on lead - for you or the dog. Other dogs off lead will come up to say hi, it will always happen, whether you want it to or not.

Just stick to the fenced off areas or try training to improve your dogs recall. A retriever is big enough to 'tell off' other dogs who are over friendly.

And there in lies the problem. My dog is on the lead in public areas and I take him to dog fields and specific places he is safe to go off the lead.

its not much fun for horse riders to be chased by out of control dogs. Or for children to be chased by out of control dogs. Or for dogs to be chased by out of control dogs. Or for sheep to miscarry. Or for livestock to be mauled.

my dog has fantastic recall but he is a dog and I have enough brains to know no dog can be 100% trusted not to have a silly moment, and I have enough respect for other people to know they don’t want my dog approaching them so I won’t risk the possibility of it happening.

jesus wept some people on this thread

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Godlovesall26 · 01/02/2023 09:57

Thereisnolight · 01/02/2023 09:53

But the dog is probably happier.

I’m so sorry for you @ginslinger but you did the best responsible thing : putting his needs as a priority

Cherry60 · 01/02/2023 09:59

The microchip system was supposed to help deal with the issue but I never understood why they thought it would help. It needs 'policing' ie like the dog wardens of old, and that will require funding.

OrlandointheWilderness · 01/02/2023 09:59

I think breed definitely DOES come into it. That doesn't mean dogs of a particular breed should be banned, it means the owners of those particular dogs need to understand the breeding and character traits of the breed, then train and work appropriately.
And training!!! Should apply to EVERY SINGLE DOG OWNER!! it doesn't matter if you have a French bulldog or a Great Dane, every dog should walk to heel, walk past other dogs and people nicely and recall perfectly. That isn't fancy training, that is the very very basic level and I've never met a dog that couldn't be trained to do it, and older ones with ingrained bad habits can still be trained. The problem is people don't want to give the time to it, and it takes a lot of time.

GinClassHeroes · 01/02/2023 09:59

nalabae · 01/02/2023 03:09

Dogs are allowed in this country and can be off the lead. If your dog is bad with other dogs that’s your problem not the owner of the friendly dog.

fyi XL bullies are naturally kind tempered, they are breed from pits but mixed with other bull breads or even retrievers/labs. It is bad owners who don’t know how to deal with them and beat them for punishment making the dog aggressive.
My dad has two XL Bullies who would change your mind on them.

See, I disagree.

We have a dog who is allowed off lead. She’s a collie from working stock so when we shout on her she’s back at our heels within seconds. Although she’s off lead, she’s always under full control, and doesn’t go out of our sight except when running off the path through the trees - but again, she’s back as soon as we shout.

If we see another dog off it’s lead approaching, we leave her off her lead. If we see a dog on its lead, she’s immediately called back and put on her lead.

our previous dog was a rescue and was dog reactive, so he was on his lead unless in a private setting, or in somewhere that we could guarantee no dogs would be (one of us would stand guard) - there was absolutely nothing worse than when walking him and someone let their off lead dog run up to him and then acted surprised when he barked and snapped at them. He was perfectly fine passing a dog who was on its lead though.

Having a working stock border collie kind of means we need to let her off her lead - she needs to run. We knew this when we got her, so we worked 1:1 with a trainer and extensively socialised her with other people/dogs - unfortunately covid struck two months after we got her which made things harder. It’s absolutely crazy to me that people CHOSE to get a dog during covid.