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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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149 replies

onedayatatym · 29/01/2023 10:33

Have been speaking to someone for a couple of days, met yesterday. He was responsive, the only off putting thing was he called me non stop at certain times of the day:

• met and the attraction and vibe between both was there
• I had a room booked as was potentially staying over - so we went to it

So he tells me that he is a virgin, I'm 32 and he's 28. Obviously he knows I've been in relationships and I am not a virgin, he has too but no penetrative sex involved for him.

Long story short, after lots of touching and kissing he asked me to go further. I asked multiple times whether he was sure. He was fine and we did.

Afterwards he tells me he is seeing a therapist for PTSD, due to a traumatic mentally abusive previous relationship. He starts panicking and saying it hasn't sunk in etc etc. I can't believe I'm not a virgin anymore, what have I done...

We eat, he goes home and he messages me a lot later to ask if I got home. I'm very cool calm and collected. I've also suffered majorly abusive relationships but I'm 100% a stronger person now.

He then goes on to say it still hasn't sunken in, and I responded with, what do you think will happen when it does? His reply was he will become depressed and erratic. At this point I'm thinking what on earth,,. So I say good night and this morning there has been zero contact.

I'm not sure how do deal with it, shall I cut off clean or just give it a minute?

OP posts:
DixonD · 30/01/2023 14:39

Are you sure you’re both teachers?

TallulahBetty · 30/01/2023 14:41

I do not believe a word of what he's told you. Sorry.

Ludo19 · 30/01/2023 14:41

FuckoffeeBeforeCoffee · 30/01/2023 14:28

"He's" just posted.

Yeah I thought that was some coincidence..........

theemmadilemma · 30/01/2023 14:48

Floraanddougal · 29/01/2023 10:38

I think that if you meet a 28 year old virgin who calls you non stop it’s best not to take him to a hotel and shag him as soon as you meet him

😂

Bringmethesleep · 30/01/2023 14:50

For feeling this way http://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/amiibeingunreasonable/4731775-for-feeling-this-way

Bringmethesleep · 30/01/2023 14:50

Bringmethesleep · 30/01/2023 14:50

For feeling this way http://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/amiibeingunreasonable/4731775-for-feeling-this-way

👀

Ludo19 · 30/01/2023 14:51

Yeah I'm calling bullshit

beAsensible1 · 30/01/2023 14:52

Remona · 29/01/2023 10:40

I’d think that you’ve been fed a pack of lies.

hard agree.

Paturday · 30/01/2023 14:53

I mean, it’s not going to go anywhere if it’s this much effort and drama from the start. Or at least, it wouldn’t if it was me. Can’t be arsed with that.

neverbeenskiing · 30/01/2023 14:53

beAsensible1 · 30/01/2023 14:52

hard agree.

We all have! The guy OP allegedly de-flowered has just started "his" own thread.

Ludo19 · 30/01/2023 14:54

Are you a teacher, or do you work in finance??

Hoppinggreen · 30/01/2023 14:56

Ludo19 · 30/01/2023 14:54

Are you a teacher, or do you work in finance??

Probably neither

Ludo19 · 30/01/2023 14:59

Hoppinggreen · 30/01/2023 14:56

Probably neither

I agree but a fantasist

uncomfortablydumb53 · 30/01/2023 15:03

He's lying about something, but I wouldn't want to find out what
Don't contact him again

MissMaple82 · 30/01/2023 15:18

Ffs why did you sleep with him ?

MissMaple82 · 30/01/2023 15:19

MaireadMcSweeney · 29/01/2023 10:54

Having casual sex does not indicate low self esteem.

It actually does

MaireadMcSweeney · 30/01/2023 15:41

MissMaple82 · 30/01/2023 15:19

It actually does

No it actually doesn't though

Butchyrestingface · 30/01/2023 15:53

Floraanddougal · 29/01/2023 10:38

I think that if you meet a 28 year old virgin who calls you non stop it’s best not to take him to a hotel and shag him as soon as you meet him

Yup.

Butchyrestingface · 30/01/2023 15:54

neverbeenskiing · 30/01/2023 14:53

We all have! The guy OP allegedly de-flowered has just started "his" own thread.

Where? Where?

Cherrysoup · 30/01/2023 15:56

A year and a half in a relationship yet never had sex? But one night with you and he leaps into bed? Yeah, right!

FuckoffeeBeforeCoffee · 30/01/2023 15:58

@Butchyrestingface

It's been deleted.

FloydPepper · 30/01/2023 16:01

kingtamponthefurred · 29/01/2023 13:38

If you really took his virginity at 28, why isn't he more grateful?

Oooh, not sure that’s a great thing to say. Pretty sure you wouldn’t say this about a bloke taking a 28year old woman’s virginity

Butchyrestingface · 30/01/2023 16:14

FuckoffeeBeforeCoffee · 30/01/2023 15:58

@Butchyrestingface

It's been deleted.

Fiddlesticks. Hopefully he'll be back.

JellyBeanFactory · 30/01/2023 16:40

" Fiddlesticks "

Not heard a that for a while.

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