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WIBU - Grand MIL totally disrespected boundaries

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Mumto4MO · 27/01/2023 23:08

I was visiting her today with the baby without my husband. This was an unplanned visit as I was with MIL food shopping and she wanted to pop in before we went home. LO just got over a viral infection.

GMIL comes up like “are you coming to me? Are you coming?” And I am visibly uncomfortable explaining how she was sick and she insists and insists that she’s not contagious so I oblige. Then she says “I will only kiss her on the side of the head” and I SEE her kiss her on the cheek. She then picks her up and goes walking around with her, this frail woman who falls and injures herself all the time. I said no she’s heavy and she whined “but I never get to hold her I want to hold her”. She sees her once a week. She was touching her hands the whole time which go straight into her mouth. I told her that I was the one sitting up with her all night all week while she screamed and cried in pain.

I feel disgusted at myself that I didn’t just put my foot down and say NO after she ignored me several times and now I feel like giving her a text or something to explain that I feel disrespected. I wrote one out but I don’t know if I should send it or just leave it and don’t visit her for a while. If my husband was there she never would have acted like this.

WIBU to send her a text detailing why I am upset and ask her not to do this again?

OP posts:
DiddyHeck · 29/01/2023 13:58

Blondebakingmumma · 29/01/2023 13:54

This is the worst thread I have read in a while. We should be supporting each other, not kicking someone when they are clearing needing help

What's your advice then?

Blondebakingmumma · 29/01/2023 14:02

i have given my advice in a warm manner without name calling and putting down the OP. It can be difficult as a first time mum. Especially with anxiety. No need to be harsh to her

Perfect28 · 29/01/2023 14:04

You can't wrap the kid in cotton wool

HeidiMumsnet · 29/01/2023 14:06

Hi everyone. Just a gentle reminder that the purpose of Mumsnet is to make parents' lives easier. However, we can see that there are several comments on this thread that are certainly not in this spirit. Please think before you post –we'd hate to have to delete the entire thread. MNHQ

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