WIBU to have asked for a favour?

[NothingOnTopButABucketAndAMop]

My car failed it’s MOT on Tuesday, I could not afford the repairs so it’s off the road basically.
I don’t go many places anyway but I did need shopping so I messaged a friend telling her my car was off the road and could she take us shopping sometime this weekend.
Initially she said she would then a few hours later (when her husband got home if that means anything!) she messaged back saying actually she had too much on. It would have taken her an hour and a half max.
Now I’m thinking WIBU to have even asked at all??!

Whoops! ...stems from being rather chaotic. Lovely person but it can get wearing always being asked for favours. In your position I would try to manage somehow without asking for a lift. In your friend's position I might be thinking how long is your car going to be off the road and is this going to go on for some time.

Yeah that's really out her way.

And she'd spend more than £5 on petrol. So yes just do an online shop.

Husband getting home probably meant he said ‘oh no, I’ve arranged for us to do x’/‘ y is popping over’, perfectly normal.

When our car broke down two days before Christmas some years ago a friend offered to take us shopping after seeing a Facebook post which was lovely, and unexpected. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with asking but if you put one person on the spot (rather than a generic social media ‘ is anyone free?’ post) there’s always the risk of a no.

If Tesco is only 15 mins from your house why can’t you get a taxi or bus? Especially if it takes her 30 mins to get to you prior to going to Tesco?
Surely easier all round to do an online shop?

An hour and a half out of her way plus just 30 mins for the shopping element? No chance!

So you can’t afford the extra £5 for delivery, fine.. but you expect your friend to pay for petrol to take you?

were you not planning to give her petrol money? Would probably be cheaper to do the order to be honest!

not unreasonable to ask, but I understand why she didn’t want to do that!

Soo unreasonable. How do you think people without cars manage to do their shopping?

Sign up for delivery saver as you can cancel it. £7 a month for my Asda and I have a weekly delivery over £40

It would cost her the same to get to your house as it would to pay for a delivery.
Totally fine to ask and also fine for her to change her mind.

so you weren’t planning on offering petrol money then?
that would be more than £5

Friends help each other out, they don’t take the utter piss out of each other. I’m staggered that OP had the cheek to expect a friend to waste over 2 hours of her weekend just to save herself a couple of quid!

@2bazookas

What a horrible attitude. I’m married but I certainly was not self-centred when I was single and neither are my single friends.

You sound like a smug married.

Op refuses to answer that. Op knows she is a CF.