WIBU to have asked for a favour?

[NothingOnTopButABucketAndAMop]

My car failed it’s MOT on Tuesday, I could not afford the repairs so it’s off the road basically.
I don’t go many places anyway but I did need shopping so I messaged a friend telling her my car was off the road and could she take us shopping sometime this weekend.
Initially she said she would then a few hours later (when her husband got home if that means anything!) she messaged back saying actually she had too much on. It would have taken her an hour and a half max.
Now I’m thinking WIBU to have even asked at all??!

Wouldn't it be simpler to get a taxi/bus or do an internet shop, make do with the local shopping theme and time?

Sure ask but if people can't do it there would be another way

I would not have asked somebody for a favour like that, not when there are very simple alternatives, such as online shopping and taxis.

You weren’t unreasonable. It was a perfectly acceptable request between friends. Friends help each other out don’t they?

It entirely depends on the friendship.

It's not unreasonable to ask but you need to accepts that she either can't or doesn't want to do it.

People generally have plans for the weekend, even if the plan is to rest and do nothing, giving up an hour and a half to watch you shop isn't going to be high on the list of things to do.

We went years without a car, public transport or walk to the supermarket, then a taxi home.

I think I would only have asked if I knew my friend was already going.
So if she normally does her food shopping on Saturday fine to ask to tag along. But if she normally goes Thursday evening I wouldn’t have asked her to go again on Saturday.

I think it's not a problem to ask, but she is entitled so say no. Can you try a home delivery maybe?
Maybe she's worried that it'll be a weekly expectation if there's no end date to your car being off the road.

Why on earth wouldn't you just do an online shop or get the bus? We don't have a car, yet somehow we shop. I can't imagine why you even thought to ask.

I notice the lack of a "please" in your request too, if you put it like that then expect someone to be a bit frosty.

Fine to ask, but equally fine for her to say no.

But I think for something like this, I would have explored other options to manage it myself first. Particularly as it sounds like this isn't just a one off but might be a recurring need for some time.

Book an online shop. I wouldn't take anyone shopping at the weekend either. We have extra curricular activities every Saturday which already take up too much of my time and Sunday is one day we get to chill out.

Did you say please?

It's not a crime for her to say no, can't you do an online delivery or get a taxi/bus?

Fine to ask but also fine for her to say no. Weekend s can be vvv busy. Take a taxi or bus.

it would take her half an hour to get to my house then maybe 15 minutes to get to Tesco from here.

It’s fine to ask, but it’s fine for her to refuse. Get a taxi or do an online order.

It wasn’t great that she initially agreed and then changed her mind.
Are you sure it was her DH saying she couldn’t?

YABU so a 45 minute drive each way, then a hour and a half or so for shopping that's nearly 4 hours!

Not unreasonable to ask if she is a good friend, not unreasonable to say no. I would probably have phrased it more like “if you are going shopping over the weekend could I tag along” rather than expecting her to make a special trip but that’s just me.

Half an hour to your house? That’s too big an ask. It’s an hour and a half driving and then however long you take in tesco.

You weren't unreasonable to ask. But I'd have done it by a phone call rather than a text.

She wasn't unreasonable to decline. I wonder whether she was thinking she might be asked to do this weekly, seeing as you don't know when your car will be back on the road.

As others have said, online shopping is easy. Although maybe you are an Aldi or Lidl devotee and they don't deliver.

Was she the first person you approached?

Why can't you do an online shop ?

This changed it imo - so an hour round trip just to get to you, 30 minutes round trip to get to the shop - then however long to do the actual shopping (an hour max?) then unloading and maybe staying for a cup of tea - easily 3-4 hours!

1.5 hours travelling? Plus shopping time. Yes, that's too much of an ask.

An hour and a half for shopping?? No half an hour max

Bloody hell! I was thinking a mate living around the corner.

Of course you are being unreasonable to want someone to drive for 90 minutes there and back. Have you seen the price of petrol? Get a taxi or order online.