Weird to go to a concert/holiday with 16 year old daughter?

[RedLines]

I am a father of 4 and only my youngest is at home.
Divorced and have my 16 year old daughter half the time.
I have taken her to a couple of concerts - Billy Eilish etc and have just bought a couple of tickets for another concert, at her request.

My new partner of over a year is very put out by this and thinks it is wierd and unhealthy for a father to be taking his daughter to a concert.

Similarly, I have an interest in a house in Spain and last year went to Spain to the house with her for a fortnight, the other kids were busy and didn't come or there was only a couple of days overlap with my eldest daughter.

My partner thinks that it is really weird that a father goes on holiday alone with his daughter.
For context this is a house that has been in the family for 40 years and has 4 bedrooms and two bathrooms and has been a holiday destination every year for all of the family.

I am blindsided by the position taken by my partner!

Can I ask if

1.) It is unusual or wierd for a father to go to a music concert with his 16 year old daughter

2.)It is unusual or wierd for a father to go on holiday with his 16 year old daughter (she was 15 last summer)

Why would it be weird for a parent to spend time with their child?

Yes it's very weird. Your partner's opinion that is. You should be bloody proud of such an amazing relationship with your daughter.

No not at all. It is lovely!

Just to add to the list of people who don't think its weird. I've taken my daughter (from a divorced relationship) to a concert and she loved it. Thought never entered my head that it was weird and the problem would have been with the people who did think that way.

Hell, I'm thinking of going on holiday with my dad this summer and the thought never entered my head that that would be weird....because I'm normal.

your partner is weird and likely jealous and emotionally immature. I would get rid of her before she damages the lovely relationship you have with your daughter.

Do not listen to your partner and start alienating your daughter because of your year long girlfriends insecurities. Your daughter could end up with huge rejection issues and cloud her judgement of positive relationships going forward

You partner is weird and jealous get rid.

It might be unusual in her circle, not weird. Dad + DD at football fairly common.
Wish I had had that kind of relationship with my daughter.

You sound like a great dad. It’s lovely your daughter enjoys spending time with you. Is your partner jealous?

Neither are weird, wish my dad or step dad just made an effort to see me.
Your new girlfriend triggering red flags with me though!
How much else of your life does she try to control or poo poo in your relationship?
Is she much younger than you or does she just not understand that these are things parents who care about their children do with them, if the can?
Do not let your new partner change the way you treat your child/children. If your 16yr old didn’t want you with her at the concert or to go on holiday with you I am sure they would tell you or ask if they could take a friend instead. As put out as you’d be I’m sure you would happily accommodate her.
I wonder if your new partner would be so miffed about you going on holiday with or to concerts with your daughter if you were her mum?
The problem here is your new partner not how you treat your child.

What a fabulous Dad you are!

I don’t think it’s weird at for a normal
healthy relationship.

my only question as to why she would say this is if there are symptoms of mini wife/Disney dad syndrome but don’t know enough background to fully comment.

It's lovely that you get on so well with your daughter and enjoy going to concerts and on holiday together. Whatever you do - do not let this woman spoil that.

The woman sounds awful by the way.

She’s jealous. And to be jealous of a man’s relationship with his child and to such an extent you try to break it, is heinous.

I regularly take my adult child to concerts, and in fact her and my friends kids, all now between 20-25 come with us regularly, sometimes singularly sometimes together. We see lots of tribute bands and also we took them to see queen and Adam Lambert last year. We are taking her alone to see Bruce Springsteen in the summer. We also go on holiday and long weekends away. We have done it since they were early teens. We have lots of fun together and we love having them with us. We don’t take them every time, but if we think it’s something they will enjoy we invite. And we pay.

it is normal, if I got with a man who tried to tell me I shouldn’t do these things with my daughter , they would be gone. Even worse tried to say I was abnormal for it. No further discussion. End of. In the bin you go you fucking weirdo.

The red flags are a-flying.

Do not REPEAT DO NOT have any children with this woman. She is a cuckoo.

She is jealous of your daughter and she is testing the waters of what she can get away with to start to alienate her from you. Vindictive women coming into a man's life will always pick off the eldest female first.

Trust me, I've been there when it was done to my own daughter by her (now ex) step mum.

Either sharply put your foot down (this will probably get rid of her anyway) or get rid immediately and enjoy being a great father and role model, your daughter is blessed.

Your partner's weird. And jealous. It won't improve, trust me.

Doesn't strike me as weird.

Does it impact your partner at all?

@RedLines You sound like an AMAZING father!
Run, run, run!

Some of my favourite memories are of going to gigs with my dad growing up (and still go with him now in my 30s)

Tell you partner to eff off.

No. You are not weird. Just a good dad.

Its a wonderful thing for dads to want to do that. And for daughters to be happy to. I wish my dad did!

Chuck this one back.

Not weird at all - you sound like a lovely Dad and it will be so nice to look back on these memories in years to come. I hope my kids want me around when they’re that age! Here’s hoping.

Can I join the weird club? My 20s DS and I last year went on a city break, to a festival, to a couple of concerts and on multiple nights out, including to night clubs with friends of his and mine. As a parent it's a huge compliment when older DC choose to spend time with us and to me it's reaping what you've sown.
Please don't let your partner persuade you that you're wrong.

It is lovely that she wants to spend time with you!