DP and I have been TTC our first child for 6 months. I am very close to my immediate family (see them weekly, speak daily) and wanted to tell my mum from the beginning but DP said no. He's a private person and didn't want any pressure from family (which I don't think they would do anyway).
Our TTC journey hasn't been straightforward. I'm disabled and have had to stop/change medications, and go through two rounds of genetic testing to see what the chances are of passing my condition on (minimal, thankfully). I'm already under an obstetrician and lots of planning went into even getting to the point of TTC. I'm finding it emotionally and physically challenging and need support, and people to share my excitement with too!
DP said we would review at 6 months, but he is still saying no to telling anyone. He says I can go to him for support, which I do, but I'd really like to share this with my mum. DP doesn't get excited about things like baby names or prams, and is very laidback so I feel I am carrying all the stress and worry. I would have no problem with him sharing this with his immediate family or best friend.
AIBU, because at this point I really feel that he is?!
AIBU?
To want to tell immediate family we are TTC
jugglingplates · 26/01/2023 09:21
Am I being unreasonable?
333 votes. Final results.
POLLJohnnysgirl · 26/01/2023 09:35
but I'd really like to share this with my mum
Why? . Share the pregnancy by all means, but ttc should really be between the couple involved, tbh.
Do you really want to report every shag to your Mum, and have her cross her fingers that this is the one that does it? I find that totally weird.
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RudsyFarmer · 26/01/2023 09:33
The OP has said she is disabled and accessing a lot of medical intervention that she’d like support with, from her family. This isn’t a simple case of TTC and only wanting to talk about frivolous things like names and prams.
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