To want to tell immediate family we are TTC

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DP and I have been TTC our first child for 6 months. I am very close to my immediate family (see them weekly, speak daily) and wanted to tell my mum from the beginning but DP said no. He's a private person and didn't want any pressure from family (which I don't think they would do anyway).

Our TTC journey hasn't been straightforward. I'm disabled and have had to stop/change medications, and go through two rounds of genetic testing to see what the chances are of passing my condition on (minimal, thankfully). I'm already under an obstetrician and lots of planning went into even getting to the point of TTC. I'm finding it emotionally and physically challenging and need support, and people to share my excitement with too!

DP said we would review at 6 months, but he is still saying no to telling anyone. He says I can go to him for support, which I do, but I'd really like to share this with my mum. DP doesn't get excited about things like baby names or prams, and is very laidback so I feel I am carrying all the stress and worry. I would have no problem with him sharing this with his immediate family or best friend.

AIBU, because at this point I really feel that he is?!

You should grow up.

It's not about OP/DH having sex, it's about the OP wanting an outlet of all the stress and pressure of TTC when there are other issues at play.

TTC when it's not straightforward or not going to plan is absolutely souldestroying. OP has the right to talk things through with close family and friends if she wishes.

No, perhaps you should though.

OP has put this in AIBU.
She clearly wants opinions. Each to their own on what they choose to do but I gave mine.

Personally its worse when people know you're TTC.

If OP wanted everyone to agree with her then this shouldnt be in AIBU.

Op your medical difficulties/ disabilities are your business and you should be able to tell who you like. The TTC is another (though related) matter and under normal circumstances I would say you shouldn't tell anyone if your dh doesn't agree. However given your circumstances I would want to tell my mum. You don't have to give the ins and out of your sex life (like some people seem to think you would), but a simple 'we'd like a family in the future so due to my medical conditions I am having some extra tests/ interventions so that when the time comes my body is more prepared'.