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To expect MIL to put some pyjama bottoms on on?

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BillHadersNewWife · 25/01/2023 13:07

I genuinely don't know. I had a thread about her staying with us the other day...she's 75 and has sold her house and is meant to be looking for another. She goes to bed but then gets up a few times...normal things...back and to the kitchen for a drink or to the bathroom whatever. Bur she's always wearing a t shirt and knickers...and it's not a long nightie type t shirt but one that just sits above her knickers.

I find this so...invasive or something. I just dont want to see MIL in her knickers. However...I am admittedly a bit of a prude sometimes.

Should I say something or not? Jokingly maybe?

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Scalottia · 27/01/2023 11:28

NooNooHead1981 · 26/01/2023 22:21

One thing that had just crossed my mind I'd not thought of before... and it is a bit gross... is whether she is ahem clean shaven in her lady parts, and whether her garden is a well grown one? I mean, if it is, then maybe one or two might, you know, fall out of her pants and that's going to be you getting the dustpan to sweep them up...

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Fucking hell what is wrong with you? What a bizarre comment!

Tdcp · 27/01/2023 11:46

NooNooHead1981 · 26/01/2023 22:21

One thing that had just crossed my mind I'd not thought of before... and it is a bit gross... is whether she is ahem clean shaven in her lady parts, and whether her garden is a well grown one? I mean, if it is, then maybe one or two might, you know, fall out of her pants and that's going to be you getting the dustpan to sweep them up...

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Bloody hell, are you okay?

Aprilx · 27/01/2023 11:59

KnittedCardi · 25/01/2023 15:33

Neither dd nor I go round in knickers and a t-shirt

In the summer do you walk around your house in a bikini? Does she? What's the difference?

Who on earth walks around the house in a bikini?

Who walks around somebody else’s house in their knickers? It is bloody rude. It is also quite different to a bikini anyway.

KnittedCardi · 27/01/2023 12:06

Who on earth walks around the house in a bikini?

We all do in the Summer. It's hot. We are going in and out of the house into the garden in 28/30c heat, why wouldn't you?

LaDamaDeElche · 27/01/2023 14:30

It's not exactly warm now. Doesn't she have a dressing gown or something? Turn the heating down if all else fails 😂

Justbefair · 27/01/2023 17:28

Would anyone think about getting dressed just to pop to the loo half asleep? Wouldn't bother me but as it does for you maybe buy her some longer nighties? if it was fil a differnet story 😆

Treesandsheepeverywhere · 27/01/2023 18:33

I would fond it odd, and I walk around naked at home.

Would people really be comfortable with say their sister walking around in their knickers and bra-less in front of their partner?
Its more about decency in someone else's home.

Sennelier1 · 27/01/2023 18:38

Oh well, if it may be a consolation, it's only temporary. After my FIL died my MIL insisted we took her for clothes-shopping. She didn't fit in my car, so my DH (an only child) had to drive. She made it a habit lifting her blouse or dress higher than her breasts to show the fit was right. Me and DH both were embarrassed but she insisted we had to check the clothes weren't too tight. It was a relief we weren't living with her.

NooNooHead1981 · 27/01/2023 19:08

@Tdcp yes, thank you. I realise my comment was a little OTT so I apologise if it was a bit much... sorry 😞

NooNooHead1981 · 27/01/2023 19:10

@Scalottia sorry if my comment was a bit bizarre. It seems to have upset a few people, so I apologise for that. I guess I'll refrain from writing exactly what I think oh these threads from now on...

AnnieSnap · 27/01/2023 20:26

NooNooHead1981 · 27/01/2023 19:10

@Scalottia sorry if my comment was a bit bizarre. It seems to have upset a few people, so I apologise for that. I guess I'll refrain from writing exactly what I think oh these threads from now on...

If that is the way you think, it’s for the best 😲

T1Dmama · 28/01/2023 12:28

FGS she’s an adult, you’re an adult… just maturely ask her to wear something more appropriate when wandering around the house. Tell her it makes you all uncomfortable.
If you can’t talk to your own mother in law about this then get her son to!

Zax · 29/01/2023 18:36

Just walk into her room naked one day and see what she says. That should sort it out. 😁

Stewball01 · 31/01/2023 07:43

I'm 78 and never wear a bra in the house.

AtticusFrost · 31/01/2023 12:21

@Zax Yeah because being naked is exactly the same as wearing a top and pants.

PoseyFlump · 31/01/2023 16:26

You know when someone asks a question on MN and the majority say it's no big deal but the OP doesn't accept that as an answer? Well, that.

Gwenhwyfar · 31/01/2023 16:30

PoseyFlump · 31/01/2023 16:26

You know when someone asks a question on MN and the majority say it's no big deal but the OP doesn't accept that as an answer? Well, that.

The majority agree with OP as you can see from the vote. (Currently over 60% YANBU).

Lndnmummy · 31/01/2023 16:32

Don't put the heating on in the evenings and ask dh to get her pjs and a dressing gown?

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