My DD is 10 weeks old. I have left her for a few hours with my mum once and am leaving her with my mum again for 3 hours this week.
MIL seems miffed that I've asked my own mum and not her. Asked me if she can have her next time.
I'm not opposed to MIL ever looking after her granddaughter. But my baby is still tiny and I'm the one who is with her 24/7 and knows her better than anyone. I trust my mum more than I trust MIL. I know that if I tell my mum to do something a certain way with regards to my DD, she will do it. With MIL, I'm not so sure. She doesn't always listen to me and has done things in the past eg put baby in the carseat in her coat even though I told her the guidance nowadays says not to do that. She just acted as if she didn't hear me and proceeded to pit the coat on - I had to take it off. Or telling me my baby was tired and standing up trying to rock her to sleep. I told her 3 times she was hungry and she just wouldn't give me my baby back until I reached out for her.
One day she can babysit. But not yet. AIBU?
AIBU?
Don't want MIL to babysit (yet)
DeeDeeDaisy · 25/01/2023 00:07
Am I being unreasonable?
736 votes. Final results.
POLLPonoka7 · 25/01/2023 00:21
I think have MIL round her a bit more, so you can move towards her having her at around six months. If one of the things that she's liable to do is early weaning etc then put her off for three months. Letting her take her for a walk when the weather gets better will be a good start.
WandaWonder · 25/01/2023 03:41
Once my baby was born my baby felt as much my husband as mine so if he wanted our baby to stay at his parents (which we did) unless there was genuine serious safety concerns my baby would
I don't own my child
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