She has a Gucci belt, but lives with her parents

[Shallowshallowness]

New mum in the mums group, seems a bit up her own bum about designer labels and clothes etc. She’s often a bit sneery and definitely does that withering looking you up and down type of thing.
Her, m her Dh and kids, live with her parents in a big house, she dives their spare Land-rover car and they pay her dc’s school fees.
Aibu to think she’s got a bit of a nerve to act high and mighty when none of it is her money and the rest of us earn money to pay our own mortgages, bills and cars and therefore maybe don’t own a Gucci belt 🙈😅

I don't get the critical reverse-judgy replies.

OP is irritated that this woman wields this belt and looks down on folks that 'can't afford the belt' when belt wearer lives with parents and presumably has much lower bills compared to OP?

Perhaps OP could afford the belt, or can't, and either way maybe OP doesn't want such a belt anyway?

Sheesh, it's not hard a massive effort to see things from the OPs point of view.

It would annoy me too OP. YABU.

Gossipy and bitchy. Women like you let the side down. Get something to do.

@Bundler That’s true, as it could be for so many others who may have all sorts of shit going on in their lives, but still don’t look others up and down like their a piece of shit..how about them having a crappy time, then someone doing that to them

@CloudyOwl Thank you! Confused by some of the replies!

@Francisca459 I’m the bitchy one? 😫

@Bellalalala No, hate the attitude no matter what the circumstances

Op is assuming that the Gucci belt wearer is looking people up and down like a piece of shit, she may just have resting bitch face or be thinking entirely different thoughts altogether.

Absolutely nothing wrong with wearing a bloody Gucci belt if you like if that's your style . OP is judgmental and it smacks of reverse snobbery

@Liebig 😂

@misssunshine4040 Oh fgs

Jesus, how jealous/insecure/tragic would you have to be to care about some random who wears a fancy belt and lives with her mum. You must be fucking bored.

You have no problem with others living arrangements but quite happily sneer at this person simply because they own something you don't. It sounds as though the family is enjoying a good quality of life so why shouldn't they continue to enjoy it. It's not their problem you're working yourself into the ground to pay your bills.

That's literally most people from families of money....

Read your post over again and say that's not a bitchy, judgemental nasty post.
People like you put me off ever going to mums groups.

So why does where she live, whose car she drives and who pays her school fees matter at all?

It’s sounds like you don’t like her attitude. But instead of simply disliking her and distancing yourself, you are doing exactly what she is doing. Coming up with reasons to sneer at her. And to make yourself feel better because she makes you feel insecure. You need reasons so that you can feel better about yourself.

and your thread is an attempt to make sure you feel better, by inviting other people to sneer at how she lives her life. Because it will make you feel better if people agree you are the better person.

It reads to me like you are both doing the same.

I wouldn't recognise a Gucci belt if it slapped me round the face. You're obviously pretty brand conscious too OP

YABU to give a damn enough to start a thread on mumsnet about her.

How do you know so much about her is what I’d like to know enquiring minds and all that.

well naw it isn’t who gives a fuck let it go and ignore

I think the point is this woman doesn’t actually have any money

Ok, don’t think my post came off as intended at all 🙈
Some nasty replies, bowing out now, I’m obviously to blame 🤷🏻‍♀️😫

I know some people like this. Lazy fuckers too. Yeah they're twat's alright. I wouldn't let it bother you.

Ask her if she got her belt from New Look. If she is going to be a dick about labels and make everyone feel uncomfortable at least have some fun with it.

So what did you intend?

It's because they are like that woman themselves probably 😉

‘Wielding’ the belt? Isn’t she just wearing it?

I’m much more amused by the idea of a spare Land Rover or two just lying about waiting for someone to use it. Or indeed intrigued as to how the OP can distinguish ‘withering looks’ that are DEFINITELY this woman disapproving of other people’s lack of Gucci, rather than her suffering from trapped wind, social anxiety or existential despair at the Tories.

So you don't being 'judged' but are doing it yourself... noice...

@Bundler

teeth or trouser (Chanel) braces?