My friend had two kids with a married man. His wife has no idea!!!! Should I???

[Shoot4theMoon]

A distant friend on Facebook who I used to be close with when we were young has two children, 12 year old and 5 year old, their father is a married man of 25 years, he won’t pay child support, my friend struggles badly where iv had to lend her money last year for food as she had only an apple in for her child to eat, she won’t contact the child support incase this man’s wife finds out and it ruins his marriage. I think his wife deserves to know the damn truth and yes it’s none of my business but this distant friend is never going to tell the wife…. I found her on Facebook after a little digging….. should I?? Shouldn’t I???

None of your business but if you were neighbours that would be OK it appears (previous thread on here)

Some people want to be told by random people it seems

She knew what she was doing. No sympathy. Any man who chooses not to pay child support speaks volumes. He didn't pay before, he won't pay after his wife finds out, and worse still he'll hate her and resent her for ruining his marriage.

Exactly what I was thinking

Firstly, I think she scammed you.

She'll have blown her cash on Xmas presents and not left enough for food but the apple story is bogus.

But to correct a couple of points above: foodbanks restrict how many times you can go eg only once every 2 months. So if someone is continually out of food they won't help. Also single parents don't get the full 85% childcare costs on universal credit. It's up to that. The vast majority get less.

Unfortunately it's not your fight. She needs to do it when she's ready.

It doesn't ring true to me op. What mother would let her kids go hungry rather than claim child maintenance that she's entitled to claim. Not me. My childs not having an apple for dinner when they don't have to.

Social Services need to be involved if she's genuinely not able to feed the children.