To be angry over a name

[Barbie46]

My baby is 6 months old and we named her a very uncommon name that was special to us. Recently we met an old friend of my husband's, they are still in the same circle but not close friends anymore. He asked us the usual questions about a new baby including her name. He and his partner had a baby in the last few days and called their baby our daughters name.
He did not mention anything about her name when we told them it and I am feeling irrationally angry that they have used our daughters name.

I’m sure this has been done to death on Mumsnet - no one owns a name.

You've said it yourself, your anger is irrational.

Bit odd, but one to suck up I guess.

You can be angry, but to what end?

And what's the point....some other child who isn't going to be close to your DC has the same name....so what?

I'd try and chill out a bit if I were you.

You don't own it. They've got every right to call their baby what they want.

Is it Balonz?

It will pass

Yabu. You didn't invent the name.

You could well find that when your dad starts a school there will be 4 in her class with the same name. What seems highly unusual to you, will also be so to others but will have come to their attention for some reason the same as it has to you. Get over it.

They have not used your daughters name. The 2 children just share a name and there's nothing wrong with that.

Meh. You said you’re not close with these people so shouldn’t matter much. You can’t own a name

It really depends how uncommon the name is.

Balonz 😆😆😆

My advice to expectant mothers is to name your child Gearoidin, after me. You can bet your bottom dollar nobody's going to 'steal' THAT! Christ, nobody can even pronounce it!

I'm embarrassed for them if it's a really unusual name. Copied a friend in their circle!! Morto

But is the name as unusual as you think? Sometimes it's possible to believe that a name is extremely rare because it's number 350 but it turns out that it has risen 8 places the year before last and 15 places this year.

If that is the case then it's two people independently feeding the trend for the names revival.

How do you know it wasn't already on their list before you mentioned it? Surely it's not that unusual your darling child is the only person in the world that has that name?

Surely that's a compliment that they love the name.

Seriously? YABVU...you dont own a name.

Standard reply!

You spend so much choosing a name so you have every right to be annoyed! Unfortunately you will either have to suck it up or cut them out your life.

This conversation has come up so much in my circle that I actually don't think it's irrational. Beyond your control but it's not unusual!

It’s embarrassing for them if they copied
but maybe they’d already picked it and they were sad to hear you’d already used it too.

either way, you don’t own a name. I’d see your point more if it was your sister or best friend
but you barely see these people from the sounds of it. There’s going to be more than one person with your child’s first name in the world.

If you've literally made the name up based on your name and your DH's, then yes it would be weird and worthy of raising a brow at, if not then you've got to get over it.

"A baby's name already being taken" is one of the most common threads on MN / AIBU.

If you’re Katie price and the name is princess Tiaamii then you have a point. Otherwise, no.

I know I can not "own" a name but we live in a small town, anyone who has ever asked her name has always responded with oh I've never heard that before or the likes. Maybe I am being unreasonable, probably because my baby is only 6 months old and someone else is already using the name.

The one good thing about this is your baby is older than friends baby, so friends & family will know your baby had name first. Hope this helps you a wee bit. Enjoy your new baby & their name.