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Well I totally messed that up

165 replies

BlackenedDog · 21/01/2023 23:37

met DPs mum for the first time today. It could not have gone worse.

First, I walked dog shit onto her carpet.

Secondly - she was showing me around her bungalow and telling me she has only just moved in and it all needs decorating as the previous tenants had god awful taste. She used the hallway as an example. I agreed with her that it was awful, she then showed me her bathroom - I said it was even worse than the hallway. She’d just decorated the bathroom.

Thirdly, I knocked a glass off the kitchen side (trying to be helpful and take the mugs away), she was NOT happy at all, apparently she’d had those glasses for years.

Fourthly, I somehow damaged the flush on the toilet. I pressed it and it wouldn’t stop flushing. DP had to take the top off and mess with it.

To make me feel better, DP told me she didn’t like his ex “either” so not to worry.

Mortified and feel like calling time on the whole thing. I can never face her again.

OP posts:
Hankunamatata · 21/01/2023 23:41

Hopefully she will grow to like you and you can laugh about ti in years time.
Was the bathroom that bad 😂

Guavafish1 · 21/01/2023 23:43

1st impressions

BlackenedDog · 21/01/2023 23:43

Hankunamatata · 21/01/2023 23:41

Hopefully she will grow to like you and you can laugh about ti in years time.
Was the bathroom that bad 😂

Yeah it was bright pink but she’d got paint all over the ceiling etc just like in the hallway, it looked like it had been done by the same person! 🤦‍♀️

OP posts:
SunshineAndFizz · 21/01/2023 23:44

Mate, cut your losses and break up with him now 😂

DuncanBiscuits · 21/01/2023 23:44

Oh well, it can only get better…

Calphurnia88 · 21/01/2023 23:44

It's not unreasonable to feel mortified right now, but hopefully you'll see the funny side soon (even if you do wake up in a cold sweat at 3am still thinking about it in 5 years time 🤣).

Did DP see the funny side?

BlackenedDog · 21/01/2023 23:45

SunshineAndFizz · 21/01/2023 23:44

Mate, cut your losses and break up with him now 😂

I honestly think I’m going to have to 😂

To be honest he didn’t seem all that thrilled about me either when he dropped me off so maybe I won’t have to 🤦‍♀️

OP posts:
IWineAndDontDine · 22/01/2023 00:30

The bathroom 😂😂😂😂😂 fucking hell, I have a discount for b&q if you want to buy a nice shovel to dig yourself out of that pit.

excelledyourself · 22/01/2023 00:34

OP, I do feel rotten for you. I really do.

But also... Grin

Arabellla · 22/01/2023 00:34

If you brought dog shit into my home I think I’d ask you to leave.

Deathbyfluffy · 22/01/2023 00:36

Arabellla · 22/01/2023 00:34

If you brought dog shit into my home I think I’d ask you to leave.

It’s a mistake, they happen.

BrutusMcDogface · 22/01/2023 00:38

Arabellla · 22/01/2023 00:34

If you brought dog shit into my home I think I’d ask you to leave.

I don’t think she did it in purpose!! 🙄🤦🏻‍♀️

OP- bless you. Sounds like a string of disasters that would happen to me! Hold your head up.

I hope you will be joking about this with your mil in years to come, but if it doesn’t work out, it wasn’t meant to be!

thaegumathteth · 22/01/2023 00:45

Well you know what OP? When I met MiL for the first time I was sweet and nice and polite and bought her flowers and I was only 20 so I wasn't even sarcastic like I am now.

Guess what? She still doesn't like me!

So, meh!

thaegumathteth · 22/01/2023 00:45

Arabellla · 22/01/2023 00:34

If you brought dog shit into my home I think I’d ask you to leave.

Wtf? I don't think she came in and deliberately bent down and smeared the shit everywhere as some kind of dominance thing.

WineDup · 22/01/2023 00:47

Arabellla · 22/01/2023 00:34

If you brought dog shit into my home I think I’d ask you to leave.

I presume they mean in their shoes rather than as a “thanks for hosting” present

WineDup · 22/01/2023 00:49

thaegumathteth · 22/01/2023 00:45

Well you know what OP? When I met MiL for the first time I was sweet and nice and polite and bought her flowers and I was only 20 so I wasn't even sarcastic like I am now.

Guess what? She still doesn't like me!

So, meh!

I don’t know why but the whole “I was only 20 so I wasn’t as sarcastic as I am now” thing has me smirking at myself, because it’s so true! I can’t imagine having to actually impress someone with my personality nowadays.

HereComesMaleficent · 22/01/2023 00:49

Oh OP, I'm so sorry.

Maybe it's the universe giving you a sign?

Or

You and DP will laugh about this in a decade or two...

I don't know, but I'm so sorry but I did laugh at the bathroom part 😳🤣

typopro · 22/01/2023 00:50

I'd buy her some nice new glasses to replace the broken one and a wee thank you/apology card

AutisticLegoLover · 22/01/2023 00:54

Oh OP, I'm sorry but I did laugh! It played out like a scene from a sit com as I read it. I hope you can look back and laugh. These things happen and sadly lots of them happened to you at once.
How long have you been with DP?

ladydimitrescu · 22/01/2023 01:00

Fucking hell 😂😂 I'm sorry op but this is brilliant. I think you sound fantastic

TheDoraMilaje · 22/01/2023 01:02

I could never forgive walking dog poo into my house. Shoes should be off at the door. Everything else would be forgivable though, hope it gets better with MIL

JobSeekingMissile · 22/01/2023 01:03

Maybe it is fate's way of letting you know he's not the right one

excelledyourself · 22/01/2023 01:07

TheDoraMilaje · 22/01/2023 01:02

I could never forgive walking dog poo into my house. Shoes should be off at the door. Everything else would be forgivable though, hope it gets better with MIL

Never? Really??

thisusernameisnotavailablepleasetryanother · 22/01/2023 01:11

I did find that funny, although you must feel mortified. I'm sure everything will be okay, and you can all laugh about it in the future.
Maybe next time take your shoes off when you go in to someone else's home.

FunnyWorldWeLiveIn · 22/01/2023 01:14

Well lucky it's her son you love. Don't worry you might a laugh about it one day.

Maybe just smile and nod next visit 😆

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