To think that a man standing outside a school in girls uniform is not OK?

[crinklemum2]

Name changed as this is very local and he was seen wearing my DD's school uniform.

A local school uniform shop shared images to reassure parents they would not be selling him any items. Essex police say he poses no risk and people should stop sharing the photos. He looks to be late 50s/early 60s.

He's been seen around schools - both primary and secondary - dressed as a school girl (in their uniform). I am fucking outraged that the police don't seem to think that's an issue. God forbid we offend men or shame their fetishes.

AIBU that this must be an antisocial behaviour at the very least?

I queried if it was sarcasm
Am I allowed to query a comment that sounds like sarcasm
Are there rules

Ps. I’m not worried whether people agree or disagree, I’m just stating the law. In case people aren’t aware. Trying to be friendly, offer advice, etc etc. isn’t that what talking is all about. Debating, discussing other points of view.

Every one has a voice

Groomers groom adults into turning a blind eye, tolerating them; and they do that even if they don't expect to benefit directly.

It seems to be working.

Nah, they’ll start with the Not All Men bullshit.

Oh good grief. I don't get why the police can't go for conduct likely to cause a breach of the peace, if nothing else. Keep on taking him in, til he gets bored and gives up.

Just when I thought I couldn't hate the police any more than I did already..

That facebook page belonging to the Uniform shop is interesting, and as they say, a way of keeping it in the public eye. It's only a matter of time until a local parent has a Hard Word with him. Hopefully they won't get done by the police, but unfortunately... Makes me and .

I am incensed by the fact that perverts are allowed to walk around in plain sight protected by the guise of the alphabet soup umbrella.

There was a time that I would have believed that too, but the IKEA thread disabused me of that notion.

Yes, it should be law!

I don’t really see what the problem is.

AGAINST THE LAW! FFS!

I’ll tell you who doesn’t have a voice, everyonehasavoice, children. Children rarely have the opportunity to speak up, so we’ll speak up for them. We don’t give a shit whether he’s broken a law. What he is doing is wrong. It’s wrong and no one will convince us otherwise.

Really TandoraTroll ?

Exactly and it makes me wonder what sort of people would try to minimise the behaviour or excuse it.

It's so clear what it's going on but there is a parade of people coming up with a variety of spurious reasons as for why it is ok when it never has been!roll

It's not OK. It's really not.

This is total drivel! If you want a legal procedure to be used against him there has to be enough evidence to constitute a reasonable suspicion that he has committed a crime or is about to. Googling what other people who dress like him have done is ridiculous, and a much more alarming direction than his behaviour.

He has committed no crime. There is no evidence that he is going to commit a crime. Pissing off the authoritarians of Mumsnet is not a crime.

But he’s not causing any harm to children?

It's a pretty simple answer. Adult sexuality is not for kids. An adult who does not appear to understand that, and indulges their fantasies or fetishes around children is breaking a boundary that nearly all adults understand should not be. And thus to be regarded with deep suspicion

Acting out a kink in front of children is non contact sexual abuse.
Non contact sexual abuse is a crime.

Is there a possibility that a few eggs well past their best by date might somehow connect with him?

It would appeal to my odd sense of humour if all of the dads were to get the same uniform and stand outside with him though, you know, not doing anything. I expect that would give him fewer subversive thrills.

Ignore the bridge dweller.

I don't get why the police can't go for conduct likely to cause a breach of the peace, if nothing else.

Because there's no legal basis for doing so

Maybe not physically (YET) but mentally how do you know he's not.

Id like to say that I’m surprised that there are apologists for even this 200 four high red flag behaviour on this thread - but sadly I’m not

My thoughts exactly.💪💪👏👏

Kink and fetish between consenting adults in designated and appropriate spaces relies heavily on the aspect of consent.

Going out and involving unsuspecting adults or children in your kink or fetish takes it into deviance territory and is reviled by responsible fetishists.

This man, whatever his motivations, is wilfully crossing boundaries and if he needs any sort of help to realise that it should be organised by the appropriate authorities primarily to protect the victims - ie the children being exposed to his inappropriate behaviour.

It really isn't rocket science.