To think that a man standing outside a school in girls uniform is not OK?

[crinklemum2]

Name changed as this is very local and he was seen wearing my DD's school uniform.

A local school uniform shop shared images to reassure parents they would not be selling him any items. Essex police say he poses no risk and people should stop sharing the photos. He looks to be late 50s/early 60s.

He's been seen around schools - both primary and secondary - dressed as a school girl (in their uniform). I am fucking outraged that the police don't seem to think that's an issue. God forbid we offend men or shame their fetishes.

AIBU that this must be an antisocial behaviour at the very least?

The local police and the family are more of an expert on this man than you or anyone on this thread is.

We should just do away with psychiatrists then - we'll just ask the local beat Bobby his opinion 🤣🤣

Sorry, I see you did answer. So what’s your insight into child abusers? What made you so sure of the claim that one would ever be so blatant?

I agree society needs to fear the mentally ill less. However - that is NEVER going to happen when every time someone does anything bad, it is talked away (murder, hanging around schools dressed as a school girl) with "perhaps he has mental issues"/depression.

Agreed. They’re doing what they can which is work with the family to expedite MH services and monitor the situation.

Live and let live within the law and if you have cocnenrs, tell the cops and dont take the law into your own hands as it is never right.

Sounds odd but I'm sure the cops are on to this.

Why did you list murder as something that is “talked away”? That’s so odd.

Because of course the police are never misogynistic or wrong.

Neither have they been Stonewalled to within an inch of their lives to believe 'trans rights' trump safeguarding.

This guy's clearly a pervert. He might have mental health issues, but the safeguarding risk is blindingly obvious.

So men should be free to dress up as a school girl, follow school girls onto a bus and take pictures of them? Why?

Because it literally is. How many times have people been murdered and it been blamed on mental health issues. All you need to do to confirm that is read the comments on articles.

Because it literally is. How many times have people been murdered and it been blamed on mental health issues

Or "kinky sex gone wrong" 🙄

Anyway the thread will be full soon and drop away which I'm sure was the intention.

I hope any lurkers have taken note.

Maybe he meets one every time he meets a mirror? 😬Maybe, whom am I to know? I don’t know anything

Pay attention to whom he doesn’t have any empathy about too, the girls in question. He hasn’t said a word about it. I wonder if that’s because he has nothing else to tell them apart from ‘get over it’, ‘be kind, he’s mentally ill!, ‘you can’t be kind when a man makes you uncomfortable? you’re a bigot’

it reminds me of the wi-spa incident where people told the 9 year old girl that it was her fault, she shouldn’t look at other people’s genitals. (Pervert was defended even by the guardian, like 3 times, they wrote 3 articles, then all silence when the history of sexual abuse was discovered…)

Indeed, no concern for the girls and how this impacts them whatsoever.

Where are the police? Are they too busy intimidating Gender Critical women to have time to sort this one out.

Can't believe all the 'but the police have SAID its ok what he's doing, so poor man won't anybody THINK OF THE DEVIANT PERVERTS?!
For all thone saying he and his behaviour is harmless.... Will you offer up your kids to have their photo taken by him?

The thing all the perv apologist posters coming on to threads like this, and the IKEA men with their pup play fetish one, don't seem to realise, is that instead of convincing anyone that we are all just a bunch of hysterical women and that these men aren't doing anything wrong, it just makes the lurkers and other posters see the extent at which male sexual fetishists are being allowed to get away with behaviour that isn't and should not be publicly acceptable.

We see clearly those trying to dismantle child safeguarding and erode the boundaries of women and children.

This behaviour has nothing to do with gay or trans people, it's about men getting off on displaying their fetish in public.

Anyone loitering around schools, following children onto buses and taking pics should be the biggest safeguarding red flag. A man blatantly displaying his schoolgirl fetish in front of school children with zero consequence is off the scale.

This is not harmless behaviour.

@Whatsnewpussyhat
instead of convincing anyone that we are all just a bunch of hysterical women

Oh, I think you lot do a good job of doing that yourselves. With buzzard comments like smelling Y chromosomes and such. Not really how rational persons act on a forum.

"this individual does not pose a risk." - Essex Police.

How can they be so sure? ANY man persistently hanging around outside a school who isn't a father of a pupil should be considered to pose a risk, no matter what they are wearing.

It doesn't matter if he is vulnerable, or has a learning difficulty, or any of the rest of it... those men can and sometimes do sexually harass and assault women and young girls too. The children's safety and comfort should be PARAMOUNT. The police can tell loiterers to move on... and they usually would in the case of any other man loitering outside a school.

When you add the school uniform aspect, the chances that his actions are driven by a fetish increase exponentially... I think there just isn't enough awareness of autogynephila. People assume that a man wearing women's clothes must be some poor tortured soul living with unimaginable mental suffering when a large amount of the time it is quite simply a fetish.

All the perverts are now in plain site.That’s the whole point,they want to be seen and get a reaction.They get a sexual kick from being seen.You need to wake up to the fact that this isn’t something new in society,these men are being emboldened by Stonewall and most Labour MPs.The naivety of some women is appalling.

Onnabugeisha · Today 14:43

No. I’m operating under the reports from the police having checked this man out and spoken to the family that he is mentally ill, not a pervert about to sex offend.

Me and you were both on the same MAP thread over Christmas, I explained on that thread that my mum knew what my rapist intended to do before she let him move in.

Do you honestly think she'd have told the truth if I'd told a policeman at the time? Or do you think she'd have lied and declared him a wonderful person who was pure good and would never harm her child?

Those closest to a suspected wrong doer are the last people you should rely on for a character witness

it's about men getting off on displaying their fetish in public.

It absolutely is. This is the crux of the matter. And women know this. What the apologists don't realise is that there are so many of these men going around that we've all met them and we don't have the patience or tolerance for their nonsense left. It's gone, worn down by the staring and the grabbing and the groping and the whispers and the shouting out of vans and the rapes and the demands and the porn everywhere and we don't want it for the next generation and we're past the point of accepting any excuses for you and your horrible, grubby mates.

@Boiledbeetle
Thats a fair point about the family tbh. After all my parents literally pimped me out to pedophiles from age 7. I don’t like to talk about it much.

Exactly Geisha, i wasnt gong to mention it until you did. But I know you know that families can't be trusted.

So why are you trying so hard to defend this?

No, men rational people defend a perverts actions with excuses of mental illness with no thought or concern as to how the girls are impacted. If only we could be more like you, all the perverts could finally left alone to be themselves 🥺

How many women do you think search for "schoolboy porn" and dress up in uniforms? Come on, be honest.

This is just more "but women commit violent crimes too" and "lesbians can be predatory in women's toilets" bollocks intended to play down male violence.

The man dressed as a schoolgirl has a cock. That is why he is always more of a potential threat than a bizarrely dressed woman.