To think that a man standing outside a school in girls uniform is not OK?

[crinklemum2]

Name changed as this is very local and he was seen wearing my DD's school uniform.

A local school uniform shop shared images to reassure parents they would not be selling him any items. Essex police say he poses no risk and people should stop sharing the photos. He looks to be late 50s/early 60s.

He's been seen around schools - both primary and secondary - dressed as a school girl (in their uniform). I am fucking outraged that the police don't seem to think that's an issue. God forbid we offend men or shame their fetishes.

AIBU that this must be an antisocial behaviour at the very least?

So what do we think will happen here?

Police, not at the moment. School? Parents? MP? Is the entire country powerless regarding such obvious taunting and perversion? Surely not.

The entire Trans movement has always seemed very sinister to me. All that hoo haa for a tiny number of people apparently affected. Perhaps it was/is a way for those under the radar, i.e. not professing to be trans to engage in behaviours which up to the GRA etc. would have been strongly challenged by society.

I'd say he's also enjoying the orgasms.

Yes he is. His behaviour is threatening and he’s actually been taking photographs of the children and riding the school bus. The police don’t want to deal with it because they don’t want the fallout from those who will shout ‘transphobe’ if they do.

I hadn’t realised he threatened anyone, that definitely is a crime.

But it’s not a crime to take photos of children if they are in a public place unfortunately (there was a thread about this a few months back).

And it’s up to the bus driver/school to ensure he’s not getting on the bus.
If he gets on without permission then it’s definitely a police matter but if the driver is letting him on then it’s not.

@2023pending well clearly it's his family who are the ones trying to get the help because I imagine he doesn't have the capacity to do it himself.

Just because he has mental health problems doesn't mean he's not dangerous FFS!

If the person in question is doing this for attention it can go two ways - ignore it and the attention seeking becomes more extreme and leads to a very messy outcome.

The other way is to remove them and also get them the support they need for whatever reason - the children come first in my book.

Maybe there is no physical risk but there is a psychological risk - children being advised to look the other way, be kind etc - when they do come up against a similar person who is a risk their ability to judge it is compromised and confused.

Plenty of time to address at an age appropriate time that everyone is different, be kind, freedom of expression etc but it's not at home time at the school gates when the only consideration should be whether they want a snack and have remembered their homework and gym bag..... 🙄

Another thing to add to the list of known precursors to escalated behaviours then!

Sadistic?!

Behaviour likely to lead to a breach of the peace. this is an actual thing. If the police continue to ignore it, make an actual break of the peace by staging a (peaceful) demo. do not allow this weird and creepy man to escalate his behaviour.

Yes, just look at the ESG funding policies.

You will only get the grant/money if you are fully inclusive with special emphasis on the TQI+

He has the capacity to go uniform shopping and lie it's for his Grandaughter.

Because, according to some, he ain't dooin nuffin rong!

But really, does he have mental issues? He is cognisant enough to be able to source 2 different school uniforms, wear the correct uniform outside the correct school at the correct time for the kids coming out and then get on the bus and presumably pay correctly to travel.

People with mental issues don't tend to think rationally like that. In fact they often don't get the support they need until thier behaviour becomes so disturbing and bizarre that it starts getting plastered all over social media.

Ignore the wearing the uniform part and he is still a man without kids at the school hanging around, watching children, getting on their bus, taking picture of them.
Police need to give their heads a serious wobble!!!

Yep, it’s disgusting. He’s probably told police he is a woman and so they won’t do anything

How can the school lecture about Stranger Danger when they're also telling the children that anyone can be anything. If a boy can be a girl and woman can be a man (and vice versa) then an old man in a school uniform can be a schoolgirl if he says so.

He needs to be barred from going near these schools or the pupils and if he ignores that then he should be arrested.

Why don’t you read the thread? Read the links posted? Switch your brain on? That sort of thing? Are you really so painfully hard of thinking that you can’t see what the issue is here? It’s not us that people need worry about being on a jury. Please Lord let’s hope you and a few others here never get that call.

He has the capacity to make sure he’s in a girls uniform, to make sure he’s in a wig, to make sure he’s there when the children are getting on the bus, to lie about the purpose of the skirt and to make sure his uniform fits perfectly. 🤔

I think rows of parents with umbrellas like shields so he can’t see the school and the children can’t see him. Don’t interact at all.

As for the IKEA business I’ve decided it is no longer a place where I can safely take my children. Who wants their kids exposed to that shit!

The handmaidens and apologists seem to be emerging from their pits. Hold your positions ladies!

But it’s not a crime to take photos of children if they are in a public place unfortunately (there was a thread about this a few months back).

If a man in your workplace decided he would like to come to work from now on in a school uniform and take pictures of his female colleagues you'd be fine with that? Or, if this same man was stood outside your workplace every day taking photos of you and your colleagues, then got on the same bus you wouldn't feel intimidated? Why should kids be ok with it?

If there really isn't a law which stops men from harassing children on a daily basis then there should be.

Police in my area move homeless people on for existing ffs!!

If you continue to read the rest of my post that youre quoting, it's quite clear that I haven't said its not fetishm.