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To think the misogyny directed at Madonna is grim

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Letshaveablackcelebration2022 · 18/01/2023 20:06

Obviously Piers Morgan is a monumental arse but his attitude is typical of the misogynistic abuse directed at Madonna. She’s doing a world tour of her 40 years of greatest hits. Mick Jagger, Elton John etc are all also still touring into their 70’s and 80’s and that’s fine as they are ‘legends’ but Madonna, arguably one of greatest female artists ever is tragic and gets loads of abuse for how she dresses, what she wears, how much Botox she has, etc etc.

Total and utter misogyny.

To think the misogyny directed at Madonna is grim
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ConcordeOoter · 18/01/2023 21:09

donttellmehesalive · 18/01/2023 20:57

I think it's fair enough if you've always found her to be 'cringeworthy'. She is not everyone's cup of tea after all. But if you have only really thought this in recent years then you should consider why you hold that view because I suspect it's because 'old women' should dress, age and behave a certain way that she doesn't conform to or care about. And all sorts of projection and nasty theories abound but really maybe she has just always loved dressing, acting and behaving a certain way and that didn't stop automatically when she hit a magic age.

Really it's about Piers Morgan's need to observe it publicly.

Personally I think as they age people should comport themselves with a bit of bloody dignity and we all know it's weird, gross, cringy, however you describe it when aging people stray very far from that.

Note though I said people. Everyone's got social "shoulds" and "shouldn'ts" to deal with unless they are a total narcissist, and some are particular to one sex or the other. Picture if you will some old male pop star in the same scenario and.. yeah... it's the same sort of thing.

crochetmonkey74 · 18/01/2023 21:11

ReamsOfCheese · 18/01/2023 20:14

Her attitude to normal female ageing is a product of internalised misogyny. That's tragic.
I don't think it's misogynistic to point that out.

Haha so the woman is the misogynist but the man (known for being foul) isn't

This place is crackers

Bunty1958 · 18/01/2023 21:13

OMG I'm a 1958 born girl too.
If Madonna was still just wanting to shock to show older women can be sexy then good on her.
Sadly I think she's lost her way. Come on M accept your age no more plastic surgery and honestly who wants to look at a 64 year old gyrating bum!

IneedanewTV · 18/01/2023 21:18

Well I intend to try and buy tickets for her show. Great entertainment and she is 7 years older than me and I hope I’m as fit as her when I’m 65.

Cabella · 18/01/2023 21:18

Shouldn't this thread be on the feminism section of MN?
Personally I was surprised those pics of Madge under a bed were published, they are indecent.

dovelove · 18/01/2023 21:20

MrsMcisaCt · 18/01/2023 20:52

I have never understood the love for Madonna. She is talentless, can hardly sing, wrote crappy pop songs, and dressed to shock. She wasn't even attractive. Elton John was a talented singer songwriter in his day. No comparison.

And yet she's worth 550 million and has been more successful than Elton!
Hahahahaaaaa

All with no talent lol

Habreathmint · 18/01/2023 21:21

I think she's revolting and pathetic. She hasn't produced any decent music for 20 years. Her behaviour is deranged and creepy. It's got nothing to do with her age or sex, she's just shite and lost the plot. If Jagger etc acted like her I'd feel sick too. The big difference with her and Elton John etc is that they are genuinely talented performers with fans that want to hear the music. Madonna has always been style over substance and resorts to getting her tits and arse out at any opportunity to distract from her lack of talent. The way she behaves with her adopted son is beyond creepy.

ImpartialMongoose · 18/01/2023 21:22

Letshaveablackcelebration2022 · 18/01/2023 20:13

@Devoutspoken eh? Am using them as a comparison. Older men touring = ok, older women = tragic and embarrassing apparently. Double standards

That's not true about older singers though. Tina Turner, Diana Ross, Cher etc. Madonna is ridiculed because she is ridiculous.

ArseInTheDogBowl · 18/01/2023 21:25

That's not true about older singers though. Tina Turner, Diana Ross, Cher etc. Madonna is ridiculed because she is ridiculous.

Stevie Nicks and Christine McVie too. Cannot imagine Stevie Nicks posting pics like Madonna's in a million years 😂

Fluffymule · 18/01/2023 21:26

Madonna can do what she wants. I admire her accomplishments, career and her attitude.

To achieve the level of success she has in the male dominated, sexist and cut throat music industry is extraordinary. Nobody can take that from her, she has earned her place in entertainment history.

I very much doubt she gives two hoots about the stuff deemed negative, why would she give a toss what Piers Morgan thinks?

And she isn’t a fool. She knows that by putting content about herself in the public domain, she invites commentary and discussion - good and bad.

Madonna has always been her own driver of publicity and public engagement to help sell her music/films. She is doing as she always has done, now it’s on instagram rather than in a glossy coffee table book for example.

A world tour is a hard sell right now. Many artists are struggling with the costs of touring when balanced against falling ticket sales. Madonna knows pictures of herself in twinsets and pearls are not going to get the column inches, media commentary and social media traction she will need to help shift tickets.

She knows exactly what she is doing. Always has done.

bellac11 · 18/01/2023 21:26

Habreathmint · 18/01/2023 21:21

I think she's revolting and pathetic. She hasn't produced any decent music for 20 years. Her behaviour is deranged and creepy. It's got nothing to do with her age or sex, she's just shite and lost the plot. If Jagger etc acted like her I'd feel sick too. The big difference with her and Elton John etc is that they are genuinely talented performers with fans that want to hear the music. Madonna has always been style over substance and resorts to getting her tits and arse out at any opportunity to distract from her lack of talent. The way she behaves with her adopted son is beyond creepy.

It is interesting that women getting their breasts out, gyrating, getting their bum out, exposing themselves is seen as empowerment and 'pushing boundaries'

When men do it, its predatory, creepy and 'flashing'.

I find it creepy and intimidating all round from both sexes

Cabella · 18/01/2023 21:27

@Habreathmint
" I think she's revolting and pathetic"

Completely agree.

dovelove · 18/01/2023 21:27

Fluffymule · 18/01/2023 21:26

Madonna can do what she wants. I admire her accomplishments, career and her attitude.

To achieve the level of success she has in the male dominated, sexist and cut throat music industry is extraordinary. Nobody can take that from her, she has earned her place in entertainment history.

I very much doubt she gives two hoots about the stuff deemed negative, why would she give a toss what Piers Morgan thinks?

And she isn’t a fool. She knows that by putting content about herself in the public domain, she invites commentary and discussion - good and bad.

Madonna has always been her own driver of publicity and public engagement to help sell her music/films. She is doing as she always has done, now it’s on instagram rather than in a glossy coffee table book for example.

A world tour is a hard sell right now. Many artists are struggling with the costs of touring when balanced against falling ticket sales. Madonna knows pictures of herself in twinsets and pearls are not going to get the column inches, media commentary and social media traction she will need to help shift tickets.

She knows exactly what she is doing. Always has done.

Couldn't of put it better myself

Changechangychange · 18/01/2023 21:29

bellac11 · 18/01/2023 20:29

You are aware that when humans start behaving in a bizarre, odd and worrying way, it is noticed by other humans who may assing various reasons to that. The person might have MH issues, disorders, be unhappy, might have substance misuse issues.

Thats why people comment on it.

To be fair, this is not new. Her Sex book caused absolute outrage, people acted like it was literal hardcore porn. The Like a Prayer video was condemned by the Vatican (it is incredibly tame, and actually quite pro-Christian). Outraging people for attention is what she has based her whole career on, it’s no like she has no idea she is having this effect on people. She isn’t stupid.

If she wanted to sit at home with her knitting I’m sure she would do, but she did that for a few years when married to Guy Ritchie and didn’t seem to enjoy it much.

FrostyFifi · 18/01/2023 21:30

She can obviously do what she wants but her face is absolutely freaky now, total uncanny valley.

I mean, sorry for noticing and all that but I do have eyes.

XenoBitch · 18/01/2023 21:31

FrostyFifi · 18/01/2023 21:30

She can obviously do what she wants but her face is absolutely freaky now, total uncanny valley.

I mean, sorry for noticing and all that but I do have eyes.

This.
She looks really bloated and strange.

BreviloquentBastard · 18/01/2023 21:33

She's absolutely free to do whatever she pleases, behave however she likes, and age however she chooses.

The other side to that particular coin is that people are also free to say she looks like a badly inflated alien balloon and that her behaviour is cringey and embarrassing.

bellac11 · 18/01/2023 21:33

Changechangychange · 18/01/2023 21:29

To be fair, this is not new. Her Sex book caused absolute outrage, people acted like it was literal hardcore porn. The Like a Prayer video was condemned by the Vatican (it is incredibly tame, and actually quite pro-Christian). Outraging people for attention is what she has based her whole career on, it’s no like she has no idea she is having this effect on people. She isn’t stupid.

If she wanted to sit at home with her knitting I’m sure she would do, but she did that for a few years when married to Guy Ritchie and didn’t seem to enjoy it much.

Im old enough to know her history, I dont need it all overly explained to me.

or mansplained if you're a man.

Habreathmint · 18/01/2023 21:36

I have to add that Piers Morgan is a hateful twat. The thing about Madonna is how she's gone from being disciplined and controlled to being sloppy and increasingly detached from reality. I'm fairly sure drugs and/or alcohol must be involved. It's a shame she'll be remembered for making a twat of herself and looking weird. Like Michael Jackson. She could barely stand up for her last 'tour'. I dread to think what the next one will be like.

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bellac11 · 18/01/2023 21:37

Habreathmint · 18/01/2023 21:36

I have to add that Piers Morgan is a hateful twat. The thing about Madonna is how she's gone from being disciplined and controlled to being sloppy and increasingly detached from reality. I'm fairly sure drugs and/or alcohol must be involved. It's a shame she'll be remembered for making a twat of herself and looking weird. Like Michael Jackson. She could barely stand up for her last 'tour'. I dread to think what the next one will be like.

That is exactly the issue and its why descriptions of her previous work years ago are not comparable.

SimonRiley · 18/01/2023 21:37

Letshaveablackcelebration2022 · 18/01/2023 20:22

@SimonRiley She can do what she wants with her face, she can filter her photos and she can most certainly hang out with her daughter. It’s the double standards she is judged by that make me want to vomit.

who the fuck is anyone to tell her how to age?

You didn't address my point though, you would judge a bloke for doing the same thing as she is doing.

Elton John looks like a fucking twat with that dead animal on top of his head and his stupid tracksuits. Trying to be cool with his crap remixes of his old songs. His ego trip Rocket Man film. Alleged affairs with younger men or is that just his husband. I judge plenty of embarrassing old men as much as I do Mandonna.

Changechangychange · 18/01/2023 21:38

bellac11 · 18/01/2023 21:33

Im old enough to know her history, I dont need it all overly explained to me.

or mansplained if you're a man.

So you thought getting her tits out was perfectly normal when she was 35, but the same behaviour is “bizarre and worrying” and possibly indicative of mental illness age 65? Ok.

longwayoff · 18/01/2023 21:38

Piers Morgan? Has Madonna spurned him like Meghan did? He's a creepy old reprobate whose star turn is his paid for misogyny. Tosser. Madonna can do what she likes. However, if the goddess that is Dolly Parton goes looking under the bed for her glasses, having forgotten to put her drawers on, I'll be very concerned about her.

HotDogJumpingFrogHaveACookie · 18/01/2023 21:38

OP it's weird how personally you're taking people's comments about Madonna.

It isn't misogynistic. There isn't a valid comparator that I can think of as I'm not aware of a male artist behaving in the way she does. If there were, I'm sure people would also be cringing at his desperate need for sexual validation.

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