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Yoghurt Gate - WIBU?

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MullerCornerMorons · 18/01/2023 08:16

With all the famine and BS going on in the world now, I’ll start off by apologising for the absolute ridiculousness of this AIBU. Just light hearted to see opinions…we have a demanding toddler so are constantly tired and grumpy. Get ready for it…

Our rule book toddler has a yoghurt and fruit in the mornings before nursery, I knew yesterday when I left for work there was ONE left.

Finished work got him for nursery (DH works lates) After his dinner last night he wanted a yoghurt, I said no as there’s only one and you’ll be sad if you don’t have a yoghurt in the morning, took some convincing cus, you know, toddlers!

on DH way home from work he called & asked if we needed anything from the shop, I said well probably yoghurts, he said no we have yoghurts. Before going to bed it became apparent DH had eaten said magical yoghurt before he went to work.

Cut to this morning! toddler has thrown a ‘Tom Cruise on set’ style fit due to the lack of yoghurts in this establishment.

DH came upstairs to me ranting that I shouldn’t have promised a yoghurt without checking, and even though he said there were yoghurts I should have checked in case he’d eaten it and didn’t remember - because how should he know right?

YNBU - DH should be aware of his actions like a grown up without input from his wife and, moreover should also be living in constant fear of the day there is no yoghurts

YABU - I should have checked when he said there were yoghurts as how can a poor bloke recall if he’s eaten the last yoghurt…who can be expected to recall 8 hours ago

Finally (if you made it this far) - this is only meant to be lighthearted, DH is not abusive and is a truly wonderful man but it does infuriate me he has no forethought at all and when things go wrong it’s my fault for not stepping in…

OP posts:
Hereslookinatyoukid · 18/01/2023 11:15

MullerCornerMorons · 18/01/2023 09:44

🤦🏼‍♀️ Tbh we do have 6 cows out back and a diesel generated udder sucker, plus 6 child slaves that complete the milk to yoghurt process we can’t be fucked to do. But alas we STILL choose to buy our yoghurts individually from the supermarket 10 towns over in our SUV, we even get a plastic bag to carry it in…AIBU?

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You could have made vegan, planet-saving cashew yoghurt overnight and the fact that you refused to do so suggests you like setting DH up to fail. I suggest he is the one to get his ducks in a row and LTB and go NC immediately. Un-MNetty hugs AND 💐 for DH who is the innocent victim in all of this.

Jarstastic · 18/01/2023 11:15

I've found in my household that there's no point in saying things, they just forget or feign ignorance. I write in black marker on things 'For X packed lunch' 'Do not eat, for recipe' etc and it works ok.

done4now · 18/01/2023 11:18

pelargoniums · 18/01/2023 10:24

I was kidding about OP making her own yoghurt. Far too sugary, give the toddler some bone broth each morning instead – sacrifice one of those six cows to the cause!

@pelargoniums

You would advocate giving a toddler non-vegan broth? I would expect a visit from social services in your shoes. 😂

OP, I blame you for having allowed the toddler to become involved with Scientology in the first place. I understand they're highly ritualistic about their secretive yoghurt practices.

ApiratesaysYarrr · 18/01/2023 11:25

QuietYou · 18/01/2023 10:28

on DH way home from work he called & asked if we needed anything from the shop, I said well probably yoghurts, he said no we have yoghurts. Before going to bed it became apparent DH had eaten said magical yoghurt before he went to work.

I'm not saying this is your fault but what I don't understand is knowing the importance of yoghurt why at the point he said "no we have yoghurts" you didn't say "no we have one yoghurt so get some more"

Finally, someone said what I was thinking! I mean, someone would have had to have bought yoghurts the next day anyway to pacify TTC (Tiny Tom Cruise), so when you knew there was only one left, why didn't you correct his statement?

I think there is fault on both sides here, husband for eating the yoghurt, and OP for not saying " there is only 1 yoghurt left, so we will have to buy some tomorrow anyway, might as well get them now"

Hankunamatata · 18/01/2023 11:27

We have seperate yogurts for dc breakfast. They are hallowed and no one is allowed to touch them except dc for breakfast. At one point I did label and date them for each day after a yogurt gate style episode 😂
But it was siblings rather than parents who munched them

oakleaffy · 18/01/2023 11:30

Why on earth didn't you let your husband buy more yoghurts when he asked?
It's a crazy thing to say ''No'' to when they are eaten daily.

You are more at fault here for saying ''Don't buy any'' .

BunchHarman · 18/01/2023 11:36

oakleaffy · 18/01/2023 11:30

Why on earth didn't you let your husband buy more yoghurts when he asked?
It's a crazy thing to say ''No'' to when they are eaten daily.

You are more at fault here for saying ''Don't buy any'' .

Read.

He said no, the OP asked for yoghurts.

dogdaydown · 18/01/2023 11:38

oakleaffy · 18/01/2023 11:30

Why on earth didn't you let your husband buy more yoghurts when he asked?
It's a crazy thing to say ''No'' to when they are eaten daily.

You are more at fault here for saying ''Don't buy any'' .

Oh dear

ArthurFoxache · 18/01/2023 11:42

Nothinglikethebest · 18/01/2023 11:00

Does your DH have a birthday coming up, a yoghurt maker would make a great gift.
Or if it were me I’d make a joke of it for a while, every time you buy yogurts for your child buy some for your DH as well, extra points for the most childish ones you can find. Also I would be buying yoghurt covered raisins, yoghurt covered banana chips and anything else yoghurt related I could find and giving them to DH saying “I saw these in the shop and thought you might like them”.

This is exactly what I would do... 😁

pinkyredrose · 18/01/2023 11:51

Beees · 18/01/2023 08:19

To be honest all I took from that post is that your husband is not a truly wonderful man no matter how lighthearted you think the matter is.

Just in case you needed reminding that you're on AIBU! 😅

SchoolTripDrama · 18/01/2023 12:02

@Beees *Bought. Brought us a completely different word with a completely different meaning

midsomermurderess · 18/01/2023 12:08

Does everything now need to be prefaced with ‘first world problem here’? Despite living in a prosperous part of the world, people do still have problems, issues, gripes and irritations. But yes, the LTB, he’s a controlling freak, do seem rather unnecessary.

TheOrigRights · 18/01/2023 12:16

midsomermurderess · 18/01/2023 12:08

Does everything now need to be prefaced with ‘first world problem here’? Despite living in a prosperous part of the world, people do still have problems, issues, gripes and irritations. But yes, the LTB, he’s a controlling freak, do seem rather unnecessary.

If you don't add the "first word problem" disclaimer the first response will be something along the lines of "Oh I wish I had your problems" with a massive eye roll. So many people are just looking for ways to be offended or to claim their medal for being the first to the bottom.

OngoingCrisis · 18/01/2023 12:18

After reading this thread, yoghurt doesn't sound like a real word anymore 😂

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MullerCornerMorons · 18/01/2023 12:19

Catching up on lunch break, and praise the lord or L. Ron Hubbard as tiny toddler Tom Cruise would say (thanks PP 🤣) thanks to all those that understood the assignment that this genuinely was just light hearted @done4now @pelargoniums @Hereslookinatyoukid to praise a bit a few, many more obvs.

To the gaslight gals, I’m sorry I don’t have the drip feed (that you desperately hunt for) to come back and say, “well now you mention it, I’m not allowed to wear makeup, we have shared social media accounts and he often glasses me on a Friday night BUT only if I’ve incorrectly stock counted his stash of tenants super” instead I give you this:

  • Yes, my DH is a drip, he does struggle with mental load and pre planning and definitely shouldn’t have tried to deflect this morning - but he apologised swiftly and has also been out on a Y run before leaving for work.
  • Yes, he did need to ask me what we needed from the shop, as actually I am the house Mystic Meg and he does defer to me more than I’d like. Something I’m hoping sending him this thread will fix once and for all!

But

  • I have never used our lawn mower/strummer/hedge trimmer/jet wash/been to the tip/sort the shit in the garage or loft/put the recycling or bins out etc
  • DH 9/10 is the one to do the shopping
  • He is funny and warm and kind and silly and a great dad (when he’s not eating TTTC’s yogs)
  • Most importantly he’s hung like a donkey sooo won’t be LTB anytime soon..
  • He has a multitude of occasions where I’ve been the cock, and likely doesn’t post about said cockness to Reddit, so I think I win cock of the marriage

In answer to other posts, TTTC’s yog of choice is not a Muller Corner it’s Okyos. Glad we cleared that up, you can rest at peace now.

Also, allegedly DH didn’t know it was the last Yog…I know I hear it too. Plausible but he probably was just distracted with his only fans addiction so can’t be too hard on him

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midsomermurderess · 18/01/2023 12:19

I can’t disagree with that @TheOrigRights. It is wearisomely sanctimonious and makes no difference to anyone’s actual life wherever they are!

whereaw · 18/01/2023 12:47

I really fancy a yoghurt now.

Emotionalsupportviper · 18/01/2023 12:53

In answer to other posts, TTTC’s yog of choice is not a Muller Corner it’s Okyos.

That is my favourite, too.

Your toddler has good taste.

Hydrangeatea · 18/01/2023 12:55

Why do men do this? Ask you what you want but then tell you that the thing you asked for isn't actually needed it. It's so fucking patronising, why on earth bother asking!

Knob

ColdHandsHotHead · 18/01/2023 12:59

Hung like a donkey tho.

ScrambledSmegs · 18/01/2023 12:59

The thing that's fascinating me is that your toddler has let him get away with just replacing the yoghurt.

DH once ate the snack that I was saving for toddler DD1. She found him eating it and went into a boiling rage, DH meekly went to the shop to replace the snack which DD then ate right then and there in furious righteousness. She then demanded a letter of apology which he had to read to her as obviously she couldn't read yet. She still remembers and mournfully brings up 'the time Daddy ate all my food' as if she was a starving waif. She's 12!

Ponderingwindow · 18/01/2023 13:03

shucks, the husband got punished directly by the toddler.

I was going to suggest you chop up that body and put each part in a different kind of yogurt. Turn it into a science experiment for the toddler and any other children. Which kind of yogurt decomposes fastest? Do you get different mold on each type? Maybe have versions without body parts for controls?

takealettermsjones · 18/01/2023 13:04

ScrambledSmegs · 18/01/2023 12:59

The thing that's fascinating me is that your toddler has let him get away with just replacing the yoghurt.

DH once ate the snack that I was saving for toddler DD1. She found him eating it and went into a boiling rage, DH meekly went to the shop to replace the snack which DD then ate right then and there in furious righteousness. She then demanded a letter of apology which he had to read to her as obviously she couldn't read yet. She still remembers and mournfully brings up 'the time Daddy ate all my food' as if she was a starving waif. She's 12!

🤣🤣🤣

My toddler calls Weetabix just 'breakfast', and also has no concept of time other than everything in the past being 'yesterday'. So the one time we were out of Weetabix (and she had rice krispies instead) has turned into her telling everyone, multiple times, "Mummy said I couldn't have breakfast yesterday." 🤦🏻‍♀️

QueenSmartypants · 18/01/2023 13:04

ScrambledSmegs · 18/01/2023 12:59

The thing that's fascinating me is that your toddler has let him get away with just replacing the yoghurt.

DH once ate the snack that I was saving for toddler DD1. She found him eating it and went into a boiling rage, DH meekly went to the shop to replace the snack which DD then ate right then and there in furious righteousness. She then demanded a letter of apology which he had to read to her as obviously she couldn't read yet. She still remembers and mournfully brings up 'the time Daddy ate all my food' as if she was a starving waif. She's 12!

Well she's not going to post on future mn in 25 years asking if she should leave her lazy-arse dp! 😆

DDivaStar · 18/01/2023 13:06

He ate the last yogurt when he knows your son likes them. You asked him to buy yogurts but he didn't. He caused the problem.

This morning I opened the fridge and there was only 1 yogurt. Panic because we have 3 people who eat lots of yogurt, how could I have let this happen. Then notice someone's moved a pack of 4 yogurts off of the yogurt shelf to a lower one. Panic subsides 😆