Yoghurt Gate - WIBU?

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With all the famine and BS going on in the world now, I’ll start off by apologising for the absolute ridiculousness of this AIBU. Just light hearted to see opinions…we have a demanding toddler so are constantly tired and grumpy. Get ready for it…

Our rule book toddler has a yoghurt and fruit in the mornings before nursery, I knew yesterday when I left for work there was ONE left.

Finished work got him for nursery (DH works lates) After his dinner last night he wanted a yoghurt, I said no as there’s only one and you’ll be sad if you don’t have a yoghurt in the morning, took some convincing cus, you know, toddlers!

on DH way home from work he called & asked if we needed anything from the shop, I said well probably yoghurts, he said no we have yoghurts. Before going to bed it became apparent DH had eaten said magical yoghurt before he went to work.

Cut to this morning! toddler has thrown a ‘Tom Cruise on set’ style fit due to the lack of yoghurts in this establishment.

DH came upstairs to me ranting that I shouldn’t have promised a yoghurt without checking, and even though he said there were yoghurts I should have checked in case he’d eaten it and didn’t remember - because how should he know right?

YNBU - DH should be aware of his actions like a grown up without input from his wife and, moreover should also be living in constant fear of the day there is no yoghurts

YABU - I should have checked when he said there were yoghurts as how can a poor bloke recall if he’s eaten the last yoghurt…who can be expected to recall 8 hours ago

Finally (if you made it this far) - this is only meant to be lighthearted, DH is not abusive and is a truly wonderful man but it does infuriate me he has no forethought at all and when things go wrong it’s my fault for not stepping in…

But are they actual yogurts or are they those muller corner things with the chocolate balls because those are dessert really aren't they. Admit it.
Like breakfast bars are just biscuits.

If yogurt is so necessary I don't understand why you didn't say, 'No we are down to the last one' when he said you had yogurts. In this situation I'd just assume he'd made a mistake about yogurt stock levels and get him to get more. This is the bit I don't get.

Is it an ironclad rule that last yogurt is for toddler breakfast? If so he was unreasonable to eat it. Especially since you'd asked him to get some. Or did he genuinely think there were more at the back of the fridge? Which brings us back to why didn't you say 'No, we need yogurt'?

Just popping in to say yoghourt lasts for ages in the fridge so I generally ignore use by dates. No need to throw them away!

Ducks in a row and LTB OP!

Very easy for a man to look in a fridge or cupboard without actually seeing the contents or remembering anything that was in there. Similar to not registering overflowing bins etc
What depressingly low standards you hold men to.

DH is not abusive and is a truly wonderful man but it does infuriate me he has no forethought at all and when things go wrong it’s my fault for not stepping in
Same for OP. He doesn’t think about anyone but himself, blames me for everything that goes wrong … but he doesn’t beat me so he’s just wonderful

Yak.

all lightheartedly of course 🙄

he’s being a knob. BUT, you weren’t very definitive when you said “well probably some yoghurts”, which doesn’t make any sense given the whole drama of convincing your son not to have one as pudding. I don’t really understand why you didn’t say “no we only have one yoghurt, can you pick some more up as we go through so quickly”.

It seems like yoghurts in your household should be considered similar to milk - ie., keep them topped up.

that being said, if your son is having at least one individual pot a day and then your DH is also having a few, then you should maybe have a think about your plastic consumption.

Given you knew there was only one, I don't understand why you didn't insist that DH buy more when he said "no you have yoghurt". As you knew you didn't?

he said no we have yoghurts

What happened next? Did you just hang up? Did you say anything?
Obv he's a liar for saying you had yoghurts when he knew he'd eaten the last one. Why would he lie and why did you not respond?

Get an Easiyo. Loads of yogurt, no one use plastic.

This would really piss me off too! YANBU

Tell your husband from us that he's an idiot. And that next time you ask him to buy something, he should just buy it and not try to argue about it.

Why are you buying yoghurt from the shop when you have a child? ::faux puzzled face:: Don’t you care about their environmental future? It’s easy to make your own vegan yoghurt with just plenty of time on your hands and a bit of organisation to make your own raw cashew milk first, of course.

Your husband is a dick.

You asked for yoghurts - he said no.

He then ate the last yoghurt - knowing it was the last yogurt and knowing that he didn’t pick up any more.

He then blames you for the entire situation he created.

Your husband is a gigantic loser. Please show him my comment.

I'd have made it clear that we definitely need yogurt as we were down to the last one, when he phoned, and that I would be holding him entirely responsible for any yogurt-less -related toddler meltdowns if he did not procure said dairy product PDQ.

YOU knew there was only one yog left. YOU told DH to pick up yogs as they were low. HE said no you don't need them, yet HE then ate the last one.

HE is a muppet and you are entirely reasonable to be pissed off. I'd have told your toddler straight - sorry darling, daddy ate your yoghurt. Get some guilt onto him

Your dh doesn’t sound like a wonderful man 🤔

A wonderful man doesn’t eat the last yoghurt, then tell you there are yoghurts when he knows full well he ate the last one and then “rant” at his wife for not following his every move and psychically knowing there are none left. I’d be like “what the actual fuck are you on about you knob?”

Of course yanbu.

Also, just a little word of advice - don’t say things like “you’ll be sad if you can’t have a yoghurt in the morning” to your toddler - you are putting that thought in his mind and are probably not helping with the tantrum situation.

OP my DH sounds really similar. Just didn’t get that I was trying to provide food for 3 kids- packed lunches, snacks etc and would just go randomly eating stuff without a second though as to if the kids needed it and if he could have something to eat that wasn’t a wrapped lunchbox or on the go snack item. My kids had so many times where I had bought 3 of something so as not to cause a row and one was gone so one child didn’t have whatever it was. Queue disappointed child and tears.
It took years to ‘train’ DH into thinking before scoffing stuff when he lives in a family of 5. Years.

This.

It's so sad that you think a man who comes ranting up the stairs is wonderful.

He's an absolute loser and you need to raise YOUR bar.

There is NOTHING lighthearted about a man ranting at his wife with a toddler in the house🙄

DH had multiple opporutnities to avoid this. You told him to get yogs - I'd just get yogs I wouldnt' assume I knew the exact contents of the fridge and he called to ask after all.

Then after I ignored your advice, came home and fancied a yoghurt - I'd see there is only one left. Have a flashback sequence to when I called earlier and rejected your appeal for Yoghurts, and then close the fridge.

Does he even know the toddler has a yoghurt every day?

MyDH can be annoying, but if I asked him to buy yoghurts - he would buy them.

What a selfish, self-absorbed git.
Years? Does he manage to hold down a job where he needs to take other people's wishes or needs into consideration?

Ditto. And if he forgot (ADHD) he’d go back to the shop and rectify it. But he also wouldn’t eat the last yoghurt in the first place.

Your post suggests that DH came upstairs ranting about the tantrum because he was on the receiving end of it at breakfast time; is that right?

Has he registered at all that the lack of a morning yoghurt could ruin D Toddler's day? If so, it's shouldn't about anyone 'promising' a yoghurt or the routine coming as a total surprise.

I am probably backbone-less, but in this case I would get a clearly childish container which is opaque, and dollop one yoghurt into it when you stock up as an emergency one. Hide it behind the beetroot. This will be ignored by DH, he will blank its entire existence because it will only be to do with your child, whose habits he doesn't seem to take in.

I really enjoyed the "Tom Cruise on set" reference. I had forgotten he flipped out at his crew. Yogurt and the film industry are two high stakes games, so much pain if you get it wrong.