Yoghurt Gate - WIBU?

[MullerCornerMorons]

With all the famine and BS going on in the world now, I’ll start off by apologising for the absolute ridiculousness of this AIBU. Just light hearted to see opinions…we have a demanding toddler so are constantly tired and grumpy. Get ready for it…

Our rule book toddler has a yoghurt and fruit in the mornings before nursery, I knew yesterday when I left for work there was ONE left.

Finished work got him for nursery (DH works lates) After his dinner last night he wanted a yoghurt, I said no as there’s only one and you’ll be sad if you don’t have a yoghurt in the morning, took some convincing cus, you know, toddlers!

on DH way home from work he called & asked if we needed anything from the shop, I said well probably yoghurts, he said no we have yoghurts. Before going to bed it became apparent DH had eaten said magical yoghurt before he went to work.

Cut to this morning! toddler has thrown a ‘Tom Cruise on set’ style fit due to the lack of yoghurts in this establishment.

DH came upstairs to me ranting that I shouldn’t have promised a yoghurt without checking, and even though he said there were yoghurts I should have checked in case he’d eaten it and didn’t remember - because how should he know right?

YNBU - DH should be aware of his actions like a grown up without input from his wife and, moreover should also be living in constant fear of the day there is no yoghurts

YABU - I should have checked when he said there were yoghurts as how can a poor bloke recall if he’s eaten the last yoghurt…who can be expected to recall 8 hours ago

Finally (if you made it this far) - this is only meant to be lighthearted, DH is not abusive and is a truly wonderful man but it does infuriate me he has no forethought at all and when things go wrong it’s my fault for not stepping in…

@MullerCornerMorons

What did he apologise for exactly?

How did he explain 'no we have lots of Y's'.

How did he try to justify eating the last one?

How did he handle DA this morning?

Next time tell him 'no we don't have lots, even if we do they'll get used. Just buy Y's'

you say he's wonderful & this is light hearted. Personally I don't think it is. At best it's lazy (didn't want to go to the shop), selfish (didn't consider his toddlers needs & a word I can't think of right now (bloody brain fog) blaming you when it was ALL on him.

I'd be thinking about his outlook on life & explaining how he needs to sort himself out!!

try DS on Greek style yogurt, it's much better for him than sugar laden muller corners!

you could transition with a swirl of honey & some frozen raspberries.

Yanbu about the yogurt incident, but YABU for thinking he’s a wonderful man. Anyone who can’t admit they were in the wrong and rants about YOU being wrong isn’t wonderful. Not saying he’s abusive and you should LTB obvs 🙄 but he should have either bought the bloody yogurts when you asked him, or admitted it was his fault you ran out.

No way, he should have just bought more yoghurts, and if he chose to believe himself over you then he most definitely should have checked before he ate the last one. And then having caused the fucking mess he absolutely should have taken responsibility and not tried to blame you. Another one here saying this is not really that lighthearted- he sounds like a selfish arsey man child.

on DH way home from work he called & asked if we needed anything from the shop, I said well probably yoghurts, he said no we have yoghurts. Before going to bed it became apparent DH had eaten said magical yoghurt before he went to work.

I'm not saying this is your fault but what I don't understand is knowing the importance of yoghurt why at the point he said "no we have yoghurts" you didn't say "no we have one yoghurt so get some more"

You’re most welcome and I’ll keep an eye out 😁

This really gave me a laugh this morning because I also live under the tyranny of a yoghurt dictator! Heaven forbid we don't have any in this house (fortunately my husband is also a yoghurt freak enthusiast so we constantly have small tubs, big tubs, squeezy ones, drinky ones... I'm so tired of the yoghurt. It's just a waste of good milk that could be used to make cheesecake, imo).

Down with yoghurt!

(Also, I had this debacle with some Quorn sausages. Child was going through a phase where it was hard to get any protein in her, but she'd decided she liked Quorn cocktail sausages. Husband ate the last couple in the night so she couldn't have any with her dinner the next day. Commence Quornsausagegate!)

Same here. DH tends to be one of those people who doesn't think we need something until we actually run out, unless it's something he likes!!

As it happens, my story of cake heartbreak is similar.

I had a piece of cake that I had put in the cupboard because my mother had told me off for being greedy for wanting to eat it immediately after my tea.

A couple hours later I cam in from being out playing and my FATHER - MY OWN FATHER! - had eaten it. He'd already had his own piece of cake, and he'd EATEN MINE.

I was also roughly 12/13 at the time, and more than half a century later it still grinds my gears . . .

How did he try to justify eating the last one?
Yes, I’m interested in this one as well.

He called and asked if anything was needed from the shop and then refused to get what you asked for? And you didn’t set him straight that you knew there was only one left? If the only acceptable breakfast for toddler is yogurt I’d keep
well stocked and would have insisted he got more

I'm not saying this is your fault but what I don't understand is knowing the importance of yoghurt why at the point he said "no we have yoghurts" you didn't say "no we have one yoghurt so get some more"

I think I've misunderstood the timeline. I thought the DH ate the last one after the OP had taken her DC to nursery and gone to work in the morning. In which case you'd think maybe the DH would think oh yeah, I ate the last one, we do need more instead of this apparent amnesia about what he'd bloody eaten a few hours previously.

Firstly LTB and secondly, surely the army can find some way to weaponise toddlers and put them to good use.

I ate my ex husbands avocados, I'm pretty sure that's why we are divorced.

DH is definitely having an affair & the OW stole the yoghurts he saw the fridge!!! First she comes your your DH, then your yoghurts. She has no limits and no shame. It will be your toilet roll next!

There simply is no other explanation.

LTB.

Your husband is a dick blaming you for his own fuck up.

I know it’s lighthearted but some men actually think women should be held accountable for their actions (when they’ve fucked up, of course all successes are entirely their own). They seem to think their important man brains shouldn’t be bothered with silly little domestic tasks.

@Wellwell82

'Out of interest
do you have children @TwoLeftSocksWithHoles'

I think there's one left in the fridge.

Has anyone pointed out yet that this is the start of the script. (CBA reading the full thread).
The next step will be him removing and replacing random pots of yoghurt just to unnerve you. The OW is no doubt lactose intolerant so you really need to do some further investigation. I would definitely check his phone and perhaps following him to the supermarket.
Get your ducks in a row OP and get ready to LTB😃

"on DH way home from work he called & asked if we needed anything from the shop, I said well probably yoghurts, he said no we have yoghurts."

WTAF.
Your husband phones you to ask if the house generally needs anything from the shop before he gets home.
You ask him to buy yoghurt, something very run of the mill, not bulky, totally normal totally reasonable. He offered to go to the shop.
Instead of just saying "OK, yoghurt, got it" he argues with you about the need for yoghurt.

FFS I would be tempted just to tell him not to bother phoning you in the future and take control of the shopping yourself (and over buy yoghurt if your toddler likes it, if your toddler goes off yoghurt, your husband can eat the out of date yoghurt).

I cannot see anywhere in the OPS posts that she asked for some randoms views on what yoghurts she feeds her child?

Have I missed it?

Does your DH have a birthday coming up, a yoghurt maker would make a great gift.
Or if it were me I’d make a joke of it for a while, every time you buy yogurts for your child buy some for your DH as well, extra points for the most childish ones you can find. Also I would be buying yoghurt covered raisins, yoghurt covered banana chips and anything else yoghurt related I could find and giving them to DH saying “I saw these in the shop and thought you might like them”.

YANBU, he asked if anything was needed from the shop, you said -yes, yoghurts. That should have been the end, unless you have a spare fridge rammed full of yoghurt.

😆

Your dh should take some responsibility. If he hadn't dismissed you, the eaten the last yoghurt you wouldn't be in this situation. Dismissing you like that is a lack of respect

My advice would be always buy a large pot of fruit yoghurt plus same of plain so your dh can always have a portion of the plain if he fancies some.

I get it OP...I once had a yogurt obsessed toddler and did indeed live in fear of running out.

I also got that that this was a light heated thread...unlike some!