Yoghurt Gate - WIBU?

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With all the famine and BS going on in the world now, I’ll start off by apologising for the absolute ridiculousness of this AIBU. Just light hearted to see opinions…we have a demanding toddler so are constantly tired and grumpy. Get ready for it…

Our rule book toddler has a yoghurt and fruit in the mornings before nursery, I knew yesterday when I left for work there was ONE left.

Finished work got him for nursery (DH works lates) After his dinner last night he wanted a yoghurt, I said no as there’s only one and you’ll be sad if you don’t have a yoghurt in the morning, took some convincing cus, you know, toddlers!

on DH way home from work he called & asked if we needed anything from the shop, I said well probably yoghurts, he said no we have yoghurts. Before going to bed it became apparent DH had eaten said magical yoghurt before he went to work.

Cut to this morning! toddler has thrown a ‘Tom Cruise on set’ style fit due to the lack of yoghurts in this establishment.

DH came upstairs to me ranting that I shouldn’t have promised a yoghurt without checking, and even though he said there were yoghurts I should have checked in case he’d eaten it and didn’t remember - because how should he know right?

YNBU - DH should be aware of his actions like a grown up without input from his wife and, moreover should also be living in constant fear of the day there is no yoghurts

YABU - I should have checked when he said there were yoghurts as how can a poor bloke recall if he’s eaten the last yoghurt…who can be expected to recall 8 hours ago

Finally (if you made it this far) - this is only meant to be lighthearted, DH is not abusive and is a truly wonderful man but it does infuriate me he has no forethought at all and when things go wrong it’s my fault for not stepping in…

I would have blamed that Blasted Elf!

If it makes random visits, it can be blamed for many misdemeanors that may occur throughout the year.

If Toddler is not placated by this, you can say Blasted Elf is banned from ever coming to your house and that removes a lot of problems from future Christmases!

I'd see the Yoghurt Incident as a problem that has the potential of becoming a wonderful opportunity.

Your DH seriously risked his life. He ate the last yogurt???? He will be packing for garage in this house. My DH ate my last chocolate once and something else like DD’s last banana, he regretted it ever since, the noise was so bad he left for corner shop straight away.

seriously I can’t imagine a parent being so selfish. He knew the routine, he knew it’s child’s yogurt and he could see it’s the last one. And why on earth he didn’t buy yogurt from the shop? What kind of evidence did he want from you?
He was wrong and should own it.

Just what I thought.

My fridge is not a tetris puzzle (unlike my freezer) and another half dozen yoghourts, even if there was already a couple in there, would fit in no problem and would certainly get eaten.

My DH would have got the yoghourts just to be on the safe side.

Give him a taste of his own medicine. Hide his favourite stuff and then when it's time to have them say ohh dear you ate/drank them all.

You've taken me back to a time when lack of yoghurt was a life or death situation in our house!

I think you should force feed DH yoghurt until he never wants to see, let alone eat, one again. That'll teach him.

Can you not just have extra yogurts in the fridge? I don't know why he wouldn't just get more! I would have insisted that he buy more. Cheap git.

Answering the Q that’s coming up a lot, sorry I don’t think I was clear.

He called me before leaving work and said I’ll be home early/what’s for dinner/Do you want me to get anything from the shop. When he replied we have Ys, I probably should have pointed out I knew there was only one this morning - but in my defence I assumed he lives under the same toddler dictatorship I do. It’s clear to me now that he doesn’t as he eats Ys Willy nilly whereas I’ve been conditioned to only complete the Y stock check.

Apologies for abbreviating to Y, can’t bring myself to keep typing yoghurt as it’s just so so pathetic. I want everyone to know I do appreciate this - hence the NC so the MN community can’t link this back to me 😅

Also DH has apologised for yoghurt gate, he was the one to suffer the full force of Kim Jong Un at 6 this morning (while I was in bed - see not all bad LTB crew) so I feel he has suffered enough.

This would really piss me off. Shopping aside, his toddler has a yoghurt every morning, there was one left, his desire for a yoghurt is more important obviously. What a berk. It's just selfish behaviour.

What I don't understand is

• why you didn't get more yoghurts on your way home

• why you didn't say NO, I've checked and there are NO MORE, please get.

I'd enact revenge.

Identify his most favourite food or drink item, eat/drink all of it when he is unsuspecting and deny all knowledge when it is gone.

I ate all of DH's Maltesers on a similar principle once. I don't even like Maltesers, but he ate all of DD's Babybels causing a meltdown so it was only just. Obviously I couldn't give his Maltesers to DD as that would be bad parenting, so I endured them myself. It's hard delivering justice.

Why are you yogurt monitor. Why doesn't he know how much yoghurt is left at all times?

He's a dick. On several counts.

YANBU. Doesn't your DH know what his child has for breakfast each morning? I find it odd that he would not know toddler has a yoghurt.

Poor toddler! It might seem like a tiny thing to grown ups but from his perspective he left the yoghurt he really wanted last night, safe in the knowledge that he would have it in the morning. Then overnight it's gone and he didn't get to have it, as well as breaking his usual breakfast routine. Completely understand why he would have a big reaction to that. As an adult if I went to bed thinking 'I won't have a bowl of cereal I really fancy now, I'll have it tomorrow' then I woke up and it had been eaten by someone who KNOWS i have cereal every morning I'd feel angry inside.

I'll be laughed at by this I'm sure, but how did you both handle it with toddler? I'm a big believer in accountability and modelling with toddlers. If it were me in DH's shoes I would bring it up with toddler as soon as possible. 'Hi toddler, I'm sorry I ate your yoghurt. I know you were really looking forward to having it for breakfast and I ate it last night without thinking. That was unfair of me and I'm sorry. Next time I'll make sure to check how many yoghurts there are'

Would your DH do that? Mine would. I would. These might be tiny little problems to adults but to a toddler it's huge. Shit happens but how you make it right is what matters afterwards and just because toddler is a toddler doesn't mean they don't deserve/won't benefit from an apology. Good opportunity to model messing up, apologising, and making it right.

🤦🏼‍♀️ Tbh we do have 6 cows out back and a diesel generated udder sucker, plus 6 child slaves that complete the milk to yoghurt process we can’t be fucked to do. But alas we STILL choose to buy our yoghurts individually from the supermarket 10 towns over in our SUV, we even get a plastic bag to carry it in…AIBU?

Ha ha, he is being a dick.
I could go on a feminist rant about male entitlement to the food etc etc. My DH knows, from past experience, that late night snacking on our dc's lunchbox food is more than his life is worth.

Did he apologise to you, or toddler?

Or, better, make your own in a thermos! Super easy, so I'm told. I hate the stuff, personally.

Surprised your H hasn't said you should have stood guard by the fridge and stopped him eating the yoghurt, slapping it from his hands. Because heaven forbid he takes the blame lmao.

Think about the jobs that men do (and until recently barred women from doing). Lots need them to remember stock levels, and replenish them, look in fridges (chemistry/chef etc). How in Muslim countries men work in the hotels and manage all jobs, especially emptying the bins. It then boils down to wether they really give a shit what's available for anyone else and who else has to pick up the slack.

He ate the last yoghurt and then decided it was your fault there were no more yoghurts???

What a plonker.

He ate the yoghurt and fibbed about there being more, he takes the consequences. I'd have left DH to manage the tantrum.

I'm a bit on the fence though, DS used to be like this with bananas, we had to have bananas for the morning and he'd get upset if they broke in two or had brown bits or were too mushy. Eventually I realised I had to say, we either have no bananas or these suboptimal ones, take your pick, life isn't fair.