Yoghurt Gate - WIBU?

[MullerCornerMorons]

With all the famine and BS going on in the world now, I’ll start off by apologising for the absolute ridiculousness of this AIBU. Just light hearted to see opinions…we have a demanding toddler so are constantly tired and grumpy. Get ready for it…

Our rule book toddler has a yoghurt and fruit in the mornings before nursery, I knew yesterday when I left for work there was ONE left.

Finished work got him for nursery (DH works lates) After his dinner last night he wanted a yoghurt, I said no as there’s only one and you’ll be sad if you don’t have a yoghurt in the morning, took some convincing cus, you know, toddlers!

on DH way home from work he called & asked if we needed anything from the shop, I said well probably yoghurts, he said no we have yoghurts. Before going to bed it became apparent DH had eaten said magical yoghurt before he went to work.

Cut to this morning! toddler has thrown a ‘Tom Cruise on set’ style fit due to the lack of yoghurts in this establishment.

DH came upstairs to me ranting that I shouldn’t have promised a yoghurt without checking, and even though he said there were yoghurts I should have checked in case he’d eaten it and didn’t remember - because how should he know right?

YNBU - DH should be aware of his actions like a grown up without input from his wife and, moreover should also be living in constant fear of the day there is no yoghurts

YABU - I should have checked when he said there were yoghurts as how can a poor bloke recall if he’s eaten the last yoghurt…who can be expected to recall 8 hours ago

Finally (if you made it this far) - this is only meant to be lighthearted, DH is not abusive and is a truly wonderful man but it does infuriate me he has no forethought at all and when things go wrong it’s my fault for not stepping in…

Wait so

a) you were wrong to promise a morning yoghurt at night because you should have predicted that your husband might eat it, forget he had eaten it and mistakenly assure you there was yoghurt left and refuse to buy any more on that basis
b) your toddler's tantrum on discovery of the morning (no) yoghurt situation was purely motivated not by the actual lack of a yoghurt that forms his breakfast every single morning but rather his disappointment that you, his mother, would have rashly promised him yoghurt 12 hours before and then been unable to supply said yoghurt

Yeah I know that guy. "Something bad happened, how can I make it someone else's fault?"

said well probably yoghurts, he said no we have yoghurts.

This is the bit I don't get. Say, no we have one left. Even if dh had not eaten it, getting more would have been sensible.

Best case scenario you only had one left, so it’s not like you would have ended up with a fridge full of yoghurts taking up space and going out of date. I mean, why wouldn’t he just buy the fucking yoghurts, silly man.

Indeed but apparently he's a wonderful man. I suspect despite it being lighthearted he's like this about more than the yoghurt. Looking to blame someone else for something you've fucked up is not the normal response of a wonderful man.

I had exactly the same yogurt-gate happen in my house recently! Only issue is there are no toddlers or DHs here...I live alone. Oops...

😂😂😂

He IBU. Either he takes proper responsibility and remembers how many yoghurts/whether he has eaten one and ThEN can say “no, we don’t need them…” or he wants you to take responsibility which includes him buying yoghurts as asked (given that he offered to go to the shop). He can’t have it both ways.

DH probably reached in the fridge and grabbed the yoghurt without looking further in. Probably assumed later that there were more yoghurts elsewhere in the fridge. Very easy for a man to look in a fridge or cupboard without actually seeing the contents or remembering anything that was in there. Similar to not registering overflowing bins etc

I don’t really understand the story or the AIBU.

DH and I often have the conversation about does he need to pick anything up on the way home. If I said yoghurts and he replied no we have yoghurts, I would have replied, no we just have one yoghurt left can you get more. And that would have been that.

Toddler is definitely being unreasonable

don’t turn against each other OP 😂

^ Bingo. Your DH can fuck the fuck off

I voted YABU but this is half of one and 6 dozen of the other.

6 of one and 1/2 a dozen of the other.

Yeah, responsibility for having food in for their joint child is entirely down to the OP despite him being asked to buy yogurts, not doing so and still eating the last yogurt, he can't possibly be at fault here because he's a man and couldn't know any better or think about anyone except himself. He's probably too busy struggling through life, what with being a man and all the disadvantages that brings.

Never say something is lighthearted when you post in AIBU , OP , replies will definitely not reflect that 😅

Been really laughing at the responses (instead of doing my actual job 🫠)

I don’t think LTB is a strong enough message for feminism, so instead I have bludgeoned him with a spork (as he was wrong when he told me we have clean knives left) and am about to submerge his high and mighty body into the bath and pour over live yoghurt in the hopes it’s like acid to his righteousness?

Let me know if anyone needs anything from the shop as I’m doing a yoghurt run.

He's gas lighting you, you must run for the hills immediately and take the toddler with you. Never let him have the toddler alone ever again, he's clearly unable to feed him a meal and will eat all his food.

This is awful!! How dreadful that your child can't have a yogurt this morning.

Give him ice-cream instead (same same but different)!!

Could you grab a few sense of humours whilst you're there? Some MNs are without one

Yeah. I wouldn't be feeling so lighthearted. What an ass.

I think you're both BU not to have a yoghurt stockpile

What I don’t get is, DH is at the shop:

Him: Do we need anything from the shops?
You: More yogurts
Him: No, we’ve got loads
You: ???

Surely all you needed to say was: No, we only have one. Get more yogurts.

You should have said 'we only have one yoghurt, please get some more'

He should not have eaten the last yoghurt

Get a tick list for the outside of the fridge for shopping

Bucking the trend with YABU. He asked you said probably, not yes we definitely need yoghurt. He thought you had yoghurt you thought there was only one. If you knew there was only one left and he was offering to get some you should have said so. Then toddler could have had yoghurt in evening and the next day.

My DP does exactly this all the time. Luckily after nearly 20 years together I have figured out how to immediately cut him down and usually get a sheepish apology. He is in many other ways a wonderful man so I forgive him for not being entirely perfect. I'm sure OPs husband isn't all bad