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Cancel ski holiday? Injury

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GetMeOut85 · 18/01/2023 05:23

We have a ski holiday in a month. I've injured myself, can't ski anymore. Non-refundable in large part. It's a group holiday with friends so I would literally be sat in a ski lodge all by myself 8am-5pm every day, for a full week. DH can still ski so he's keen to go, he says it'll still be fun for me in the evenings (I think that's ridiculous). The trip cost a lot of money, probably our last ski holiday for a while. No, I'm not the kind to be happy about sitting by myself all day with a book while my friends go have fun and I sit around waiting for them all day. AIBU to say to DH we shouldn't go anymore? It'll be absolute misery for me. At least if we don't go, we save money otherwise spent on ski passes, rental and all the bars and restaurants. Am I being unfair?

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cpphelp · 18/01/2023 05:28

I think you're being unfair to your husband on this one, sorry.

MinnieMountain · 18/01/2023 05:28

Why don’t you want him to go without you?

I understand that being alone all day would be miserable (did that on my first ski trip) but if it’s paid for why should your DH miss out?

YearoftheRabbit23 · 18/01/2023 05:29

What kind of injury, could you still do cross country or walks? I'd go, it'd be a change of scene and you'd still get the fun evening socialising and husband can still ski.

PuggyMum · 18/01/2023 05:32

If it's non refundable it's a no brainier for me if you can go and make a different holiday of it?

Are there other activities to can do? Swimming / spa etc? Other excursions you can do alone.

I've just had an operation so in for 3 nights. It's bliss. I've read 2 books and done some organising on my laptop and just enjoying the peace.

I'm sorry your injured though. It must really suck if skiing is something you enjoy.

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GetMeOut85 · 18/01/2023 05:33

DH won't go without me.

No, I can't do anything but very short easy walks, definitely no hill walking in deep snow. So I would be stuck inside other than going to restaurants in the evening (because we would drive).

Everyone in the group is very keen on skiing, I would have no company whatsoever for 7 days between 8am - 5pm.

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whataboutsecondbreakfast · 18/01/2023 05:34

Sorry - I think you're being hugely unreasonable.

Your DH shouldn't have to miss what you admit to being your last skiing holiday in a while just because you're injured.

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GetMeOut85 · 18/01/2023 05:35

If it was 3 nights, I would go (and actually did that 6 years ago). This is a whole week and there is no way to make it shorter.

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MooseBeTimeForSnow · 18/01/2023 05:35

That would be bliss for me. A long,
hot bath. A good book or hours of knitting.

LlynTegid · 18/01/2023 05:35

Would an automatic car mean you could drive to local places in the day? Don't wish you to say where you will be skiing, but are there local attractions you could visit?

Zanatdy · 18/01/2023 05:36

I’d tell him to go without me if I really didn’t want to do my own thing during the day. Especially since it’s paid for, and he wants to ski still.

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GetMeOut85 · 18/01/2023 05:36

So I get to waste annual leave to sit by myself all day? We'd be spending an extra 2k by going too (ski passes, gear, restaurants).

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Wdib78 · 18/01/2023 05:36

Snuggled up in a ski lodge, snow all around, knitting the day away, that would be me 😊

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GetMeOut85 · 18/01/2023 05:37

MooseBeTimeForSnow · 18/01/2023 05:35

That would be bliss for me. A long,
hot bath. A good book or hours of knitting.

Yes but not for me! I'm a sociable person, sitting by myself for a week in a lodge without any of my home comforts is pure hell.

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PurpleNebula84 · 18/01/2023 05:38

Have you got travel insurance? I'm pretty sure that if you have to cancel because of illness/injury you can get most of your money back through them.

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GetMeOut85 · 18/01/2023 05:38

Zanatdy · 18/01/2023 05:36

I’d tell him to go without me if I really didn’t want to do my own thing during the day. Especially since it’s paid for, and he wants to ski still.

I already did and I would be very happy for him. He insists I have to come.

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GetMeOut85 · 18/01/2023 05:39

PurpleNebula84 · 18/01/2023 05:38

Have you got travel insurance? I'm pretty sure that if you have to cancel because of illness/injury you can get most of your money back through them.

Travel insurance will refund me my ski pass, nothing else, already checked since I can technically travel just fine.

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Aprilx · 18/01/2023 05:40

GetMeOut85 · 18/01/2023 05:36

So I get to waste annual leave to sit by myself all day? We'd be spending an extra 2k by going too (ski passes, gear, restaurants).

I really think your husband should go by himself, why won’t he do that? I guess if it were my husband and he insisted he could not go without me, I would go along so he didn’t miss out and I would find other things to do.

MinnieMountain · 18/01/2023 05:41

Well it’s a shame he’s decided to miss out on what you say will be your last ski trip for a while.

My DH is currently away skiing without me. He accepts that I don’t like it (I appreciate you do but can’t) and we’re not joined at the hip.

whataboutsecondbreakfast · 18/01/2023 05:41

Well he's being ridiculous if he's insisting you come rather than stay home alone.

But you're also being selfish to say he needs to cancel.

Neither of you come across well.

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GetMeOut85 · 18/01/2023 05:41

GetMeOut85 · 18/01/2023 05:38

I already did and I would be very happy for him. He insists I have to come.

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Also, I can't do "my own thing". I won't have a car and there isn't anything to do anyway other than physical outdoor activities. I'd be sat in a ski lodge all day!

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rosegoldivy · 18/01/2023 05:41

Sorry to hear that you have injured yourself. But yes, sorry, I think your being unreasonable.

I too, would be fed up sitting myself all day. But I would probably go for FOMO and sleep all day and read books, Watch boxsets etc in peace

If you don't want to waste annual leave, then don't. But please make your DH go without you. Wouldn't be fair to him to miss out. Especially if it's non refundable.

If my DH guilted me into not going on a trip I would really resent him for it wither I said it out loud or not.

PuggyMum · 18/01/2023 05:45

In that case your DH is not being very fair.

It's hard as an injured person when you feel it's on you for people to accommodate. I'm in for a hip replacement so there's lots of things I've had to miss out on and I'm not using AL for this.

If there a big group surely your DH could go and you're not spending more money begrudgingly.

Giving him the benefit of the doubt he's disappointed you can't go but it's not fair to guilt you either.

Emanresu9 · 18/01/2023 05:51

It’s not going to cost £2,000 for a lift pass and equipment for 1 person. And if you eat out in the evening in restaurants then you’ll be there enjoying thag too so it isn’t money wasted.

you are being very unfair I’d be extremely upset if I was your husband.

bluecrayola · 18/01/2023 05:51

You said you'd be spending an extra £2k if you go (on ski passes, meals etc) but then said your travel insurance will refund you only the cost of the ski passes. Have you already bought the ski passes?

picklesandtea · 18/01/2023 05:53

Which resort are you going to? Is there a gondola up the mountain so you could meet them for lunches etc?

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