Wedding guest attire

[honda1114]

NC as I know my MIL is on here!

BIL is getting married in the summer. A little while away, I know, but I have a household full of teenage girls who are obsessing excitedly about what to wear.

Showed one of the dresses my 21yo DD said she liked for the wedding, and MIL said it was far too dressy, and next to the rest of us (who don't even know what we're wearing yet) she will stand out like a sore thumb.

I didn't really know what to say to that as I thought a wedding was about as dressy as you get!

I have been to a few weddings but my DDs haven't been to any since they were small so they don't have a comparison and I can't say I can remember what girls of that age wore at previous ones Ive been to!

I'll attach pictures of dresses similar to what she liked. She doesn't want anything particularly clingy as she is a bit weight conscious (probably due to comments from MIL)

If you saw a young girl wearing a dress similar to these at a wedding would you think she was too dressed up? And if so, what would you expect someone of that age to be dressed in?

Christ please don’t suggest Hobbs to your 21 year old as an alternative 😧

Have a word with yourself.

OP they are beautiful dresses but as everyone has said, they’re evening gowns for a black tie event.

The blue ombré dress posted is a great teen wedding guest dress.

Have a look at Lavish Alice, chi chi London and Quiz - I am in my 20s and get wedding guest attire from those sites. Also Vinted

Some of these alternatives for a 21 year old 😂

however I do agree that the two you’ve posted aren’t right for a summer wedding although they are lovely dresses.

🤪 what 21 year old would wear Hobbs and Coast? Far too frumpy.

*ZeldaWillTellYourFortune · Today 23:57

Tbh I would think prostitutes had crashed the wedding.*

That's a really nasty spiteful thing to say.

Lots of weddings in the US are at night and are black tie, unlike most weddings in the UK. Those dresses would be fine for a night wedding in the US, but probably not for a daytime wedding in the UK.

I agree. Like you, I know many young women, aged 18 to 33-ish, and not ONE of them would be seen dead in either of those dresses in the OP. Not for a wedding, or a party, or a prom or a 'ball' ... nothing..

I am not sure who would wear them to be honest, or what age group. Seems a bit like a 'middle-aged Hollywood star who wants to be younger than she is' style.

I have seen those sorts of dresses worn for friends -type weddings where all the guests were of a similar age.

I wouldn't expect relatives to wear them at family weddings

Those dresses are black tie/ball gown, not suitable for a wedding, and the leg split up to the pants definitely not suitable for your DD to wear to her uncle's wedding!

ASOS have nice, wedding appropriate (but not like the ones that have been suggested 😬) dresses in lovely colours maybe have a scan through those with your daughters.

I think ghost is usually a similar vibe to the first dress but more wedding. This sort of thing is probably the absolute max you could go for skin on show and class: www.johnlewis.com/ghost-winona-open-back-empire-line-dress-red/p109638456

My policy for wedding is legs or tits or back. You can only choose one and even then only a bit. Remember there's a lot of sitting down and no one wants to constantly have to tug at their dress.

gorgeous dresses but very prom or bridesmaidy and no, not appropriate for a guest.
AX Paris have some gorgeous guest dresses-my 19 year old recently shopped there for her uncles wedding.

Honestly OP I can't think of a single wedding I've been to as an adult, that I've told my MIL or my mum what I or my family were wearing.

We just turned up in the outfits we'd chosen.

Whatever you, your DH and your DC decide to wear...just wear it. You're allowed to make choices without running it past her first.

Last wedding I went to the late teens early twenties women were in nice dresses but nothing that formal. What looked like Ted baker dresses seemed to be popular this kind of thing

a lot of pictures online to look at for inspiration are from celebrities events and the same dress in a normal wedding is too formal.

The thing is, where do you think normal wedding guests get their inspiration?

The trends set by the celebs always filter down, hence why your DD is looking at this style!

By the summer of 2023/24 this WILL be the style for UK weddings.

The two I went to last year certainly had some guests in dresses similar to the first green one.

If we knew her colouring and her size maybe we can help?

Bear in mind by the time summer comes along there will be a totally different collection available. You have time so if budget is tight I bet you can find something in Shein.

I quite like this...

www.riverisland.com/p/black-print-frill-shift-midi-dress-760137

I’m sorry but they are too revealing for a wedding. Golden rule is to not appear to be getting attention on yourself away from the bride

Way too much thigh slit and cleavage for a wedding. Would be great for a dressy 21st though (if you are the birthday girl).

That’s so pretty.

the green one is the exact colour palette of my wedding so I’d be a bit annoyed if someone came to mine wearing those, they look quite bridesmaidy albeit very simple.

I would keep looking.. but those dresses are lovely! What about something similar in a more casual fabric?

Those are both gorgeous.
You're only a teenager once and I think a wedding is the perfect time to dress up.
Weddings are absolutely an occasion for finery 🙏

Given its a family wedding, can't you just ask the bride? I agree with previous that it might be too formal and look like the bridemaids, but she might not mind?

Golly, you must have a better class of prostitute around where you live if they all galavant around in long satiny dresses!!

@honda1114 what kind of wedding is it? Posh or local pub reception? What colour is the bridal party? You need to avoid those colours and try to match the "level" of occasion