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honda1114 · 2023-01-16T23:27:15+00:00

NC as I know my MIL is on here! BIL is getting married in the summer. A little while away, I know, but I have a household full of teenage girls who are obsessing excitedly about what to wear. Showed one of the dresses my 21yo DD said she liked for the wedding, and MIL said it was far too dressy, and next to the rest of us (who don't even know what we're wearing yet) she will stand out like a sore thumb. I didn't really know what to say to that as I thought a wedding was about as dressy as you get! I have been to a few weddings but my DDs haven't been to any since they were small so they don't have a comparison and I can't say I can remember what girls of that age wore at previous ones Ive been to! I'll attach pictures of dresses similar to what she liked. She doesn't want anything particularly clingy as she is a bit weight conscious (probably due to comments from MIL) If you saw a young girl wearing a dress similar to these at a wedding would you think she was too dressed up? And if so, what would you expect someone of that age to be dressed in?

Princesspollyyy · 18/01/2023 20:21

youshouldnthaveasked · 18/01/2023 20:04

Have a look at Girl in Mind or Lipsy for a wedding.

Would she like either of these styles?

Wow I love those, especially the first one ❤️

FamilyFunAdventure · 18/01/2023 20:28

The more I look at the burgundy dress the more I like it, just lovely.

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honda1114 · 18/01/2023 20:32

Ladyinpuce · 18/01/2023 19:38

@honda1114 Here are some females "dressing for themselves" Any takers?

www.instagram.com/p/CHrH_KwprGY/?utm_source=ig_embed&ig_rid=5302a82f-e311-4e11-b501-69bbebce13d3

Look how happy they are?

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honda1114 · 18/01/2023 20:33

Ladyinpuce · 18/01/2023 19:38

@honda1114 Here are some females "dressing for themselves" Any takers?

www.instagram.com/p/CHrH_KwprGY/?utm_source=ig_embed&ig_rid=5302a82f-e311-4e11-b501-69bbebce13d3

Look how happy they are? That's all that should matter. Just because it's not something you would choose to wear doesn't mean no one should.

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youshouldnthaveasked · 18/01/2023 21:00

Princesspollyyy · 18/01/2023 20:21

Wow I love those, especially the first one ❤️

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@Princesspollyyy

I know I love Girl in Mind

TolkiensFallow · 18/01/2023 21:09

Depends on the vibe, they’re a bit full on but I went to a wedding recently and all the 21 year olds were dressed in long slitted skirts and they all did these instagram poses for the camera, pouting and showing a bit of leg. It seems to be what a lot of them do.

please don’t try and make her wear a Hobbs dress

Murdoch1949 · 18/01/2023 21:12

Good choice of dresses, but not for a wedding. Agree with others they are evening/prom wear. Your daughter would feel out of place amongst the other guests, who will mainly be in short (younger guests) or midi length dresses, or even smart trouser suits. Carry on researching.

WeBuiltCisCityOnSexistRoles · 18/01/2023 21:14

@Calphurnia88 I didn't see your comment that was deleted but I just want to say I'm sure I would agree with it!

At my wedding someone wore a skirt so short I (genuinely) thought she'd forgotten to put one on and that it was just her knickers on show. I did not, and still don't, give one single fuck. My DH and I are still married - which is the whole point of the fucking wedding, after all. A couple of decades later I couldn't even tell you what everyone wore (and it was only a tiny wedding too). I am fretting now though that I may have committed the horrific social faux pas of wearing a traditionally non daytime fabric

@honda1114 if you or your DD are worried ask the bride or groom for advice, not MN (unless it's the FWR section ) and definitely not your MIL. I'm sure your DD will look beautiful.

TizerorFizz · 18/01/2023 23:24

We are all different. I know my DD will clock every single guest when (and if) she gets married. She’s already saying how so and so looked poorly turned out at recent weddings she’s been to.

SleepingStandingUp · 18/01/2023 23:28

TizerorFizz · 18/01/2023 23:24

We are all different. I know my DD will clock every single guest when (and if) she gets married. She’s already saying how so and so looked poorly turned out at recent weddings she’s been to.

Don't worry, sounds like there's still time for her to mature out of judging everyone on their appearance before she gets married. Most brides are concentrating on their partner, and the wellbeing of their guests etc, not if Mandy will ruin the photo with yer outfit or if Jenny looks too hot to be at a wedding.

youshouldnthaveasked · 18/01/2023 23:31

TizerorFizz · 18/01/2023 23:24

We are all different. I know my DD will clock every single guest when (and if) she gets married. She’s already saying how so and so looked poorly turned out at recent weddings she’s been to.

Sounds like a big ‘if’

TizerorFizz · 18/01/2023 23:34

That’s somewhat mean and nasty as you don’t know her. She just likes fashion and a sense of occasion. Like lots of others, she cares about events she’s hosting. Only a woman could be quite so spiteful towards another woman @youshouldnthaveasked

WeBuiltCisCityOnSexistRoles · 19/01/2023 00:10

Oh the irony is almost painful...

dogdaydown · 19/01/2023 05:37

TizerorFizz · 18/01/2023 23:34

That’s somewhat mean and nasty as you don’t know her. She just likes fashion and a sense of occasion. Like lots of others, she cares about events she’s hosting. Only a woman could be quite so spiteful towards another woman @youshouldnthaveasked

But it's ok for your DD to be spiteful about other women's choice of dress?

Only another women could be that nasty about what another woman chooses to wear.

She's not noticing, she's criticising.

Not a very pleasant trait is it?

youshouldnthaveasked · 19/01/2023 06:19

TizerorFizz · 18/01/2023 23:34

That’s somewhat mean and nasty as you don’t know her. She just likes fashion and a sense of occasion. Like lots of others, she cares about events she’s hosting. Only a woman could be quite so spiteful towards another woman @youshouldnthaveasked

@TizerorFizz

i’m not being spiteful. I’m going on the facts you have given. Your daughter is judgemental based on looks. That’s not a very nice trait is it?!

Ladyinpuce · 19/01/2023 06:28

@honda1114 No one should dress for anyone other than themselves. You are not dressing for the bride and groom when you go to their wedding.

If that is your opinion why are you here asking what people think about how your girls should dress for this wedding ?

Why not give them £100 each and tell them to go to town and buy their own dresses ??

Your posting makes no sense.

Calphurnia88 · 19/01/2023 08:10

TizerorFizz · 18/01/2023 23:34

That’s somewhat mean and nasty as you don’t know her. She just likes fashion and a sense of occasion. Like lots of others, she cares about events she’s hosting. Only a woman could be quite so spiteful towards another woman @youshouldnthaveasked

You can enjoy fashion and occasion without judging the guests by how they dress 😳

TizerorFizz · 19/01/2023 08:45

At a weddings guests are part of the day. Not a separate entity. If is perfectly normal to judge people by the clothes they wear. That’s what the whole thread is about!

dogdaydown · 19/01/2023 08:48

TizerorFizz · 19/01/2023 08:45

At a weddings guests are part of the day. Not a separate entity. If is perfectly normal to judge people by the clothes they wear. That’s what the whole thread is about!

But you seem to think that your daughter commenting on other women being "poorly dressed" is not bitchy!

It really is and she sounds very unpleasant, maybe teach her that people are more than her opinion on their clothes? She's got no right to judge others and she sounds like she thinks she's above others and some sort of fashion queen.

I'm not sure why you think this is a decent trait? It's really not?

youshouldnthaveasked · 19/01/2023 09:20

TizerorFizz · 19/01/2023 08:45

At a weddings guests are part of the day. Not a separate entity. If is perfectly normal to judge people by the clothes they wear. That’s what the whole thread is about!

@TizerorFizz

No, being judgemental towards other wedding guests is not what this thread is all about. OP was asking for opinions on the suitability of a dress for a wedding.

You and your daughter sound very unpleasant, who TF does she think she is saying someone was poorly turned out for a wedding?! Who talks like that? Snooty high society wannabes maybe?

Getting a perfect outfit for a wedding is so hard, and even when you have researched and looked everywhere the outfit still doesn’t seem quite right in some cases. Then you get you two b1tches coming along!

If you are like this, I can see why your snooty ass daughter is the same

Calphurnia88 · 19/01/2023 10:00

TizerorFizz · 19/01/2023 08:45

At a weddings guests are part of the day. Not a separate entity. If is perfectly normal to judge people by the clothes they wear. That’s what the whole thread is about!

No it isn't.

There's a big difference between someone anonymously asking for opinions on the appropriateness of an outfit before an occasion, which OP has done, and sharing negative opinions about how someone has dressed to an occasion behind their back, presumably to people they know, which your daughter does.

Of course it's human nature to make observations, not all of them positive, but most people internalise the unkind ones due to a mix of politeness and empathy.

I would check in on your daughter @TizerorFizz . In my experience people who make a habit of putting other people down are usually doing so from a place of insecurity.

TizerorFizz · 19/01/2023 10:04

@Calphurnia88
I think you have read far too much into what I wrote! However as Dd has a very high paying job where many clients depend on her expertise for settling their divorces, her own flat, paid off her student loan and a huge number of friends, I really don’t need to check on her. Thanks all the same for your concern. She’s the last person in the world with insecurities!

NoNameNowAgain · 19/01/2023 10:07

TizerorFizz · 18/01/2023 23:24

We are all different. I know my DD will clock every single guest when (and if) she gets married. She’s already saying how so and so looked poorly turned out at recent weddings she’s been to.

Perfectly normal! Bitching about people afterwards in the privacy of your own home is the reward for having said nothing at the time.

Bagsundermyeyestoday · 19/01/2023 10:14

Calphurnia88 · 19/01/2023 10:00

No it isn't.

There's a big difference between someone anonymously asking for opinions on the appropriateness of an outfit before an occasion, which OP has done, and sharing negative opinions about how someone has dressed to an occasion behind their back, presumably to people they know, which your daughter does.

Of course it's human nature to make observations, not all of them positive, but most people internalise the unkind ones due to a mix of politeness and empathy.

I would check in on your daughter @TizerorFizz . In my experience people who make a habit of putting other people down are usually doing so from a place of insecurity.

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Oh please. You know if someone turned up to a party or something looking ridiculous then people would have something to say. This post has almost 400 replies now, that just proves what sort of controversy and reaction the "wrong" dress might have

dogdaydown · 19/01/2023 10:18

TizerorFizz · 19/01/2023 10:04

@Calphurnia88
I think you have read far too much into what I wrote! However as Dd has a very high paying job where many clients depend on her expertise for settling their divorces, her own flat, paid off her student loan and a huge number of friends, I really don’t need to check on her. Thanks all the same for your concern. She’s the last person in the world with insecurities!

But that still doesn't make her a pleasant person and the irony of you saying another poster was mean and unkind as a woman to criticise a woman is just beyond ironic.

No matter how much she is paid and how quickly she paid off her student loans, it's still unpleasant and bitchy. Even someone above on your side agrees it is bitching.